very disturbing dream....just need someone to tell me it doesn't mean anything

[queenrollo]

i've had this dream several times.......there is a 'spirit' in the house which lifts my son out of the cot and as this dream progresses i end up fighting the 'spirit' as it tries to prevent me from removing my son from the house. i always manage to get out and my fear makes me go to a church where i desperately try to find someone to help me.
i always wake from this dream terrified and have to get dp to check ds as i'm scared if i go into the nursery ds will be hovering .......of course by the time daylight comes round i feel completely stupid, but at 2am it seems so real.

i've always had vivid dreams....good and bad. since ds has been born (he's now 19 months)i have two distinct terrifying dreams. i need to work through this because it is starting to affect the quality of my sleep.

I would think this is an anxiety dream about how much you love your son. I think the mother instict gives us awful dreams to help us develope a 'plan' about what to do if awful things did happen - to prepare us.

Its about your fears for the future of your son- the idea that if goes down the worng road / falls in with the bad crowd /marries the wrong eprson etc, of what will happen.

When you get him to a place of safety (eg the 'right path') it's all OK and he is safe again

Don't worry about it, its just the dreams of a mother who knows deep down that the future of her son is far from guaranteed happiness, but wants to protect him. And in the =dream you know what to do to achieve this- and as such you will do in real life

I think this would probably be called a parental anxiety dream, but I'm no psych.

The urge to protect your child is overwhelming and it sounds as though it's coming through into your dreams.

colditz is spot on with the anxiety bit. being a mummy sure scares the crap out of me at times!

I have had very similar dreams about my own ds, it started when he would wake up in the middle of the night and laugh to himself for about an hour. Dh made a comment about maybe he was talking to a ghost and like you say in the middle of the night your rational switch is off so i would get freaked out and have bad dreams.

Really think it is an anxiety dram like colditz suggests. The 'spirit' just represents your fear of anything taking your son away from you

thankyou......my other dream is definitely anxiety based (end of the world type stuff) i just needed to be reassured about this one because of the depth of feeling it gives me. needless to say i was totally unprepared for just how much i love my son.......i still sometimes just cry tears of joy when i look at him. a few weeks after he was born i lost someone very close to me and my emotions are still quite raw about it. i'm not feeling grounded at all at the moment.........

queen, i know how you feel! my dad died a year and a half ago and my emotions can still be a little raw too. have you tried cruse for info/support?

i haven't tried anywhere for support......i do have a fantastic dp, and family who understand how i feel. i'm coping very well and a close friend is experiencing a similar bereavement so we support each other.
i'm just feeling a bit lost spiritually........currently trying to get my head around what i believe.