Muslim mum to be and not married

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A friend has just been to see me and she is pregnant by her boyfriend of 4 years. They want to get married but there are some "caste" objections to the match. She's just going to tell her family they are getting married and will do it quickly. She's not going to tell them about the baby and hopefully pass it off as prem.

I'm not a Muslim and I want to support her but don't want to disrespect her family. I don't know much about Islam, but she has taken me into her confidence and I don't want to let her down.

Any advice?

Why do you have to say anything to the family. You can pretend to be ignorant as everyone else.

Your loyalty should be to your friend, your being too sensitive to supposed muslim sensitivities.

I don't think it's anything to do with Islam in particular - my very Christian parents would have had huge problems with me getting pg outside of marriage.

Just be there for her and get excited about the baby with her, listen and be supportive when she needs to rant about the family and help her plan the wedding - at thi short notice I'll bet she could use a hand!

There would be nothing to be gained by her family knowing.
I agree with liquidclocks that you can be there to help her out.
Won't her family be suspicious about the hurry though? If thats the case then she could go through the religious ceremony and then have the reception later.
I know someone who did that and then told everyone that her healthy 8lb baby was 2 months premature. I think everyone guessed but turned a blind eye.

Oh I don't want to say anything to the family at all. I agree that I am being oversensitive through my ignorance of Islam.

I'm guessing she has turned to me precisely because I'm English and all her other mates are Muslims! I don't know her well - she is a neighbour who has been very friendly over the last couple of weeks - probably beacuse she needed some-one to talk to.

I'm a bit concerned about her trying to pass off a big healthy baby as prem too, especially as I've worked out that she is 8 weeks already.