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Feeling slightly pressured into confirmation...

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Hellokittycat · 04/10/2014 20:15

We have been going to a local church (not every week, maybe once a month) for almost a year now. My children were baptised there. We like going, they are friendly to the kids etc.
however the vicar seems quite keen on me getting confirmed. I was baptised as a baby. None of my friends who go to other c of e churches have been confirmed, in fact no one I know has been at all. It all seems a bit alien to me.
I was quite vague when the vicar mentioned it to me 'yes that's something to think about' type thing but now he has sent me an email detailing the ceremony and telling me that there are classes running soon in preparation for confirmation. He says if I can't make the classes he will just cover the info with me and I will still be able to go ahead.
I'm not sure about it. I quite like plodding along as I am with my current relationship to the church. I feel a bit pushed into it and I'm not sure how to say no politely without offending. (I hope I've not offended anyone here by asking this!)
Any advice??

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Lookingforfocus · 04/10/2014 20:47

I think just have a chat to the vicar and let him know your thoughts. I agree you shouldn't be confirmed if it's not what you want. On the other hand you could ask him more details so you understand what the church is offering and what you are turning down. Noone should be offended because you are honest and tell the truth, I wouldn't avoid talking about it, just say exactly how you are thinking and feeling about the suggestion.

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