How to find the reason for something

[Flamesparrow]

Please bear with me, this will probably sound a bit muddled (St George, if you're about you tend to know what I'm rambling about even when I don't!!)

A couple of years ago I made a friend online. We have never had any way to meet up due to distance problems, but I have always felt that we were brought to each other for a "reason".

She has been there to support me when I have needed it, but I feel that I have been shown her for a reason, that there is something I need to help her with in some way.

I know that she has had a past from hell, and I feel that it is something linked with that - that I should be helping her face it before it consumes her. I don't know if that is the reason though, or what I should do.

She has opened up more than ever before, and I know that it will have sent her brain into overdrive, but that I am not there physically to help handle what I have started.

I don't know what I should be doing, I just know that I am meant to be doing something.

I am groping around in the dark here, and am really wanting to know if there is anything I can do to turn a light on (even if it is only a teeny glow for a few seconds).

Does any of that make any sense????

Ahh, been there done that, got the T-shirt.

A friend for a day, a friend for a season, a friend for life or just for a reason? Whichever it will work out to be, you must do what is right for you as well as for them.

Be a virtual shoulder for tears or comfort. Give strength by email, MSN, telephone or even snailmail. Don't stretch yourself beyond what you are capable of giving. If that means keeping back part of yourself and maintaining your privacy - in other words not meeting this person in reality - then so be it.

You are already switching on a teeny glow of light for them, simply be what you have done so far. Believe in yourself and what you are capable of and it will come right in the end.

Sorry, that is probably a mad ramble but I just put down my instant thoughts when I read your post.

Have to go to work very shortly but will be around later if you want to chat.

Just that in itself is a big help. The bit about believing in myself is the kind of thing I tend to forget