Having DD christened by DH doesn't believe

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I'd really like for my DD to be christened by DH is a non-believer. How can I go ahead when DD feels like this? I don't want him saying things in church he doesn't believe in. Thanks.

Why not wait until your dd is old enough to choose whether she wants to be christened?

If your DH doesn't have any objection to her being baptised, then there's no reason for it to be a problem. Most churches (C of E at least) understand that one of the parents might be a believer and the other not, and the non-believer doesn't have to join in with the promises if he/she doesn't think it's appropriate. That's better than having them stand there saying things they don't believe.

Another option would be just to have a 'thanksgiving' service instead, where you don't have to make specific statements about your plans to bring her up in the faith, just to express thankfulness at her arival.

DP doesn't believe. He still said it all at DSDs christening because it's just words. If you don't believe then you don't need to worry about offending something you don't believe in.

I don't know if you are already attending the church that you intend your DD is to be baptised in or whether it is RC, C of E or another denomination. If you are then go and talk to the priest or minister as they get these requests all of the time.

If you were C of E and lived my parish I'd say that we could baptise your little one as long as you have three baptised godparents. If your husband doesn't feel able to say the promises then much better that he is honest about it. I would be encouraging you and your DD to come to church as baptism is about membership of a faith family. If you aren't ready for that then why not have a thanksgiving service as AMuminScotland suggests.

My friend went to the service of his dd christening but took no part in the service so not saying things he didn't believe. I think it's sad that people bother with a christening if ' it's just words' , I am not religious but I don't think christening a are just words, it's a religious commitment

We had a beautiful thank you and welcome blessing said for DD1, on Easter Sunday 16 years ago. It was beautiful, DH and DMIL got to welcome here into their faith at the church we got married in, I didn't have to lie or not take part and she got to decide if she has faith.

The service was conducted by the vicar who married us, he knew my views and he was very happy to show the Parrish you didn't only have the choice of a christening. He hated them being just an excuse for a party and never seeing the family again.

Looking in google suggests that, the sort of blessing we had became more mainstream a few years later.

Is it a CofE church?

You could have a thanksgiving service as has been described by PP. The service is here and your DH wouldn't have to make any promises. Your DD could then have a Believer's baptism when she is old enough to make her own confession of faith.

There's also a service called the "Thanksgiving for Women after Childbirth" that any woman who lives in the parish can request (I only discovered this quite recently) - it's very traditional, and I can only find it in the old Book of Common Prayer, but it's here and could be done quietly on a weekday if you didn't want a big fuss - with or without DH if he didn't want to be involved.

Both of these are routinely done at my local church which is an ordinary enough CofE church - why not make an appointment with the vicar?