abortion would you be offended.

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So I am rc and abortion does not sit well with me. Although if someone felt abortion was the only way out I wouldn't feel any less of them. Now my sil is in a wheelchair ans is happily pregnant with a child. MIL made a point of saying all parties were glad their was only one as they would have to abort a twin pregnancy. I can't help feeling this conversation was unnecessarily ans a little bit upsetting for me. Now I guess it would normally wash over me but twice my (d) h has said we should have aborted our last child.
PleSe tell me I am being daft even giving this headspace.

The only upsetting thing was said by your husband.

Your husband said that?

Why does your h think you should have aborted your youngest dc?

Is your sil disability likely to affect a twin pregnancy or is she even at a higher risk of having a twin pregnancy then most?

I know thd issue is really with (d) h. Sil has a singleton pregnancy but I guess would find coping witn twins more difficult. Being in a wheelchair.

Our 3rd pregnancy wSn't planned. Lots of circumstances led me and I guess him to believe that a pregnancy wasn't likely. However, when it hapoened suddenly I am to blame.

Your DH has said, since the child arrived, that you should have aborted them?

Your MIL and SIL haven't done anything wrong IMO.

You are of course right. Issue is with (d) h.

The issue is with your H. That's an awful thing to say about his own child. I presume he didn't mean it, and was saying it to hurt you. Either way it marks him out as a nasty man. Is this isolated nastiness or is there more? You'd get lots of support with this if you posted on Relationships.

I was thinking that a thread in Relationships might be the way to go.

There are two things for me. One is that regardless of your feelings about abortion, he is wishing your child away, which is horrible. The other is that presumably he knows how you feel about abortion and is using this to hurt you.

No, you are not being daft, that is upsetting on both counts.

The difference between the comments, though, is that your MIL is making a hypothetical comment about a twin pregnancy which did not happen, and no-one actually knows how your SIL would have responded had it happened. Your H is making a retrospective comment about a pregnancy which did happen and resulted in his son or daughter. He does not deserve the name father .