A question about 1st holy communion

[mosschops30]

dd is due to take hers in two weeks, she is now 10 so a little later than everyone else who did it in year 3.

Anyway I have just bought shoes, dress, veil etc and have spoken to the priest who says she doesnt need to be dressed like this and it is only a tradition and not a requirement.

Now not sure if I've done the right thing (bearing in mind I wore brown trousers and a black jumper for mine). Do they only need to dress up when they are younger, dd will be gutted

I'm sure there will be plenty of girls dressed up to the nines mosschops!
I think what your priest was probably trying to say is that some people get caught up with the dress and veil and everything and don't think about the real meaning of the First Communion.
I'm sure that isn't the case with you so let her get dressed up and really enjoy her big day

she is the only one taking on that week, because she doesnt belong the parish school (we live in a different parish with a crap church)

thanks for your advice though, I know she will look beautiful and no i'm not doing it for the whole dress up factor

Slight hijack

Is First Communion different to Confirmation in the Catholic Church?

At a C of E confirmation service a couple of weeks ago, a Catholic friend said that her daughter was being confirmed, and I was a little confused!

Confirmation is later now in the catholic church at around 11 years I think. Holy Communion is first.

Think lots of people are confused we have lots of non-catholic friends coming who have replied, thank you for the confirmation invitation!!!! Think she is going to have lots of confirmation cards

Agree with Tommy re priest meaning you shouldn't feel you have to dress up -- watch Ken Loach's film 'Raining Stones' to get an idea of the kind of lengths some people feel they need to go to.

Is your dd making her communion together with all the other children? If so, the white option is probably the best one in any case, otherwise she'll stand out a mile. At our parish there are always older children as well as Y3 kids, and they all wear white, ranging from white trouser suit-setups to full-blown bridal. Whatever feels right for her is what she should wear -- it's her day!

I was denied the full-blown frills, veil and nylon-lace arrangement by my mother who thought that was all unspeakably common and put me in a very tastefully understated linen number. I've never forgiven her. When dd1's time came, I was determined to let her have whatever she wanted, but by then she was already into her tomboy phase. So we ended up with, yes, \link{http://www.childrensalon.co.uk/product_info.php?products_id=400\a tastefully understated linen dress}. Foiled again.

Oh, and congratulations!

mosschops -
thanks for clearing that up for me! Hope you all have a lovely day!

Sorry, posts crossed. But yes, let her get dressed up anyway, even if it's just her. I love little kids in first communion dresses, even the really over the top ones. They all look so lovely it makes me a bit teary.

And yes, fairyjay, confirmation is later, usually done in Y9 now. First Communion is usually in Y3.

thanks frogs, yes I have seen some frightful dresses along the way, the likes of which dd would not be seen dead in (frills, lace, bows in excess)

That dress looks lovely, the kind of thing i would for \link{http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/DRESS-ORDER-FOR-MOSSCHOPS-30-A90-WHITE-AGE-7-8_W0QQitemZ8291208610QQcategoryZ3262QQtcZphotoQQcmdZViewItem\this is dds dress}

tell me what you think?

She is taking it on her own, but all her school friends did the white dress thing and I think she would feel 'outdone'

very sophisticated
How lovely. I only have boys so I haven't even got a dress to look forward to!

That's a lovely dress, mosschops. A bit more sophisticated, which is just right for a slightly older girl. I hope she has a wonderful day.

That dress is gorgeous! I think its great she's dressing up! Its her special day!

There's talk of my DD starting First Communion classes later this year. She will be 7, the same age as the Vicar's daughter, her friend. It surprised me, because I always thought it came after confirmation in the C of E (although I was brought up a Catholic, so am more familiar with that way). The Vicar's daughter makes me laugh when she goes up for a blessing, she always hold her hands out for communion, as if she thinks her Dad is likely to slip up and give her it! :o