New Christian Prayer Thread for February...

[Tuo]

Is it too early to call this the ?early Spring? thread? Wishful thinking?

Praying at this time especially for:
amberlight ? for strength to cope with those who would campaign against those with ASDs; and, in contrast, giving thanks for her work in raising awareness of the needs of people with autism;
BabyBeatrice and her family ? for healing and fortitude as they deal with Beatrice?s illness;
BlackEyedSusan ? for health and strength for her; for an easier time at school for her children; and for her mum to feel more settled;
BlueTinkerbell ? giving thanks for her baby DD; and praying for her as she explores her vocation;
charlottecollinsislost ? for her to know more certainty in her difficult relationship situation;
DoctorAnge ? for health for her little girl;
Dontsteponthemomeraths ? for her DS as he is referred to the community paediatrician; for her ?LM? as he tries to establish contact with his children; for her brother to regain full use of his thumb, following an accident;
DutchOma and Bob ? for health for Bob and for him to feel at ease in his new ; and for Oma to feel supported as she cares for him day-to-day;
FlatsInDagenham ? for the family and friends of her colleague, who died recently; for her SIL who has cancer; and for her brother and their family;
GingerCurl ? for the successful and (relatively) stress-free completion of her thesis;
HaveALittleFaith ? for health and happiness as she nears the end of her pregnancy;
jann2013 ? for her health; for an easier relationship with her ex; and for her to feel accepted at her church following the break-up of her relationship;
Kaykat ? for her and her DS to know peace and happiness as they emerge from an abusive relationship;
MadHairDay - for her continued good health; and for her whole family and their mission, that they will find the resources (financial, practical, spiritual, whatever) that they need to grow and flourish;
PositiveAttitude ? for her mission overseas; and especially for her DD1 who has been going through some tough times and may soon be spending some time abroad with her parents; for happiness for the whole Attitude family; also for PA?s mum who has Alzheimer?s; and prayers of thanks for the birth of PA?s baby great-nephew;
raininginbaltimore ? for healing for her broken foot; for health for her baby girl who has terrible reflux; and for her financial situation to improve;
Roomforalittleone - for her hyperemesis to ease and for her house sale to go through smoothly, easing her family?s financial anxieties;
Teahouse ? for healing following her TVT operation;
waitingtobeamummy ? for her to feel closer to God following a series of difficult situations, and in the meantime for her to feel our prayers supporting her;
...and for all who post on this thread, for those who lurk, for occasional visitors, and for those known to us who are in need of prayer, whether mentioned here or not.

Lord, in Your mercy, hear our prayers.

I've been so unhappy all week, crying every day. I can't take this any more I need to go home. Keep thinking about all my things and wondering if he's dumped them. Divorce petition didn't come in post from solicitor as promised. No word whether he has answered the letter and I doubt he will as it would be allowing someone to control him and he doesn't ever allow that. I keep thinking about all the things I can't do now I am single and what a miserable summer I will have. I keep thinking I should have stayed with him, at least I would have a home.

Oh Kay... Can't type much as on phone, but I am praying right now for a swift resolution. You know you did the right thing in getting out: indeed, the way he treated you left you no choice. One day you will look back and see this huge mountain behind you and will know that you climbed it and are on the other side, but while you keep climbing you need to just keep putting one foot in front of the other and trusting that you are going the right way. Praying for that clarity for you, and for support in these tough times.

Praying for a safe journey, BES. And if anyone is praying for snow, can they please stop now!

Our minister, who is in Australia at the moment posted on Facebook a few days ago: "If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it." Personally I have trouble believing for that, although deep down I know it's true.
And while reading your post Kay I was thinking of Hagar who was also thrown out of her home and with a baby too. And just as she thought she could go on no longer God intervened.

I really have hit rock bottom. i was happy before he had the affair, i didnt recognise the abusive things and i was happy. now i miss that life so much. i miss him and i need to stop missing him and i dont know how. WA told me to go no contact but i think it was better to be seeing how horrible he was. now its getting more distant and i am forgetting.

My CS Lewis app today has the quote,'God allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons that we could learn in no other way'. I learnt a few lessons when he was unfaithful, lessons about forgiveness and I learnt I was being abused which I didn't even realise. What are my lessons now? I feel like caving in and contacting him just to try and get home. It would help if I heard some news from the solicitor but its dragging on so long and if it goes to court it could take months. I hope I will be like Hagar and God will hear me sobbing and intervene. I hope I can keep putting one foot in front of the other somehow.

Oh, Kay....hold on. Hold on there. Praying for you to know that God has heard your crying. Praying that you know him holding you, surrounding you, loving you, valuing you for who you are. Praying, praying.

Have you got supportive people around you can talk to?

You have come so far, sweetheart, you've been so brave. Keep on climbing and you will see the sun.

God says to you '11 See! The winter is past;
the rains are over and gone.
12 Flowers appear on the earth;
the season of singing has come,' (song of songs 2)

I have supportive people around me but they all hate my H for what he has done and will think I am completely stupid for missing him. They know I miss my home and they know i have been crying all week.

I don't think you are missing him, Kay, as much as missing the life you once had. But - and without wanting to sound harsh - that life has gone, and he is the one who has destroyed it, not you. Holding you in prayer. Will be in church later (assuming I can get there through the snow) and will light a candle for you and pray that God's light leads you through this terrible time. Loving MHD's verses.

Or you're missing the side of him that could be sweet towards you - that's understandable but that's not the whole person.

Remember if you've hit rock bottom the only way is up...the summer will be different but not necessarily bad like you anticipate. Praying that now you have run out of steam on your own terms God will full you up with spiritual strength like only He can. I'm reminded of . Lean on Him and he will sustain you through this difficult time.

Please, please, don't give up.

you can ask the police to escort you back to get your stuff if you need to . not sure if they do that, but I think I may have read it somewhere in the literature I got.

we have been. it was a bit slippery under the wheels in places. the results are interesting, iwill know more when we get the report.

Kay, women's aid should be able to advise on how you can get stuff back if you need it. Mourning the loss of home etc is so natural in all of this. And you will have a home of your own again ....one where you can be respected and loved for who you are. Much prayer for you.

And for everyone else.
Just out the other side of the good news about the cancer checkup this week and having a quiet day to catch up online etc. But if people could spare a continued prayer for friends C and P, both enduring terminal cancer and hoping to stay alive at least another few years one doable way or another, that would be great.

Thanks everyone and Tuo for battling the snow and lighting a candle that's lovely. I spent the afternoon and evening with a friend, also the mum of DSs friend. She tried to talk some sense into me. But at bedtime DS was crying and telling me he misses his dad. Now I am crying again. Don't know what to do and struggling to get hold of solicitor. I can't shake off this feeling I should go back to him just so DS and I can be home and just put up with all the horrible things he does.

My friend did comment on the difference in DS since we moved out. She said he is back to his happy chatty normal self and she said that I am like a different person too. So I can't go back to him can I. I just need to somehow get my strength back and stop crying all the time.

I already had a police escort to get essentials and not sure if I can do that again or if I have the energy for it.

Kay, you are right. Your ds may well miss his dad, or rather he may miss having a dad, but that is neither your nor his fault. If you don't have the energy to go to the house again under police escort, will you have the energy to go without it? Knowing what rubbish is awaiting you there from him? Sounds to me that you really need to be in touch with your solicitor by hook or by crook. It's been going on too long.

(((Kay))) (Don't care if hugs are 'un-mumsnetty' or whatever - sounds like you need one...) Praying that you get hold of the solicitor after the weekend, and that you get back home soon. I feel for you so much.

So happy here to have our beautiful church back, looking amazing and ... wait for it ... with heating!

Kay it's understandable that your DS misses his Dad. Remember you miss him (or the idea of him too). But your DS doesn't really understand the abusive side to your H. You've come so far to separate from him, you just need to stick it out now.

Today I have spoken to family about how I am feeling and yesterday to my lovely friend so they are aware now in particular that weekends are difficult and especially when I'm alone. They were helpful and sympathetic and said I can call on them to help any time I am feeling low and have a few ideas how they can help DS and I to cope a bit better. I have sent another message to solicitor asking to meet (she is a friend so fine to message her at the weekend) and really hoping she will respond too. She's very busy with her own family and work so that probably explains my difficulties getting hold of her.

In a way it is a bit of a difficulty, that she is a friend Kay, you might have more 'clout' if it was a stranger. Let's hope and pray that she realises how long it has been, it's easy to lose track of time if you are very busy, but not so easy for you when every day drags along. Praying that there will be a solution soon.

Kay, don't go back please. Prayers for you.

Could do with some strength myself. Have been ill on and off for the past 2 weeks with some kind of viral bug that is doing the rounds. I feel really low, comforted by the children's hugs, but why can't my DH hug me when I ask? The best I got was a pat on the shoulder. It really hurts :(

My pen pal sent me a box of books so now I have all sorts of good things to read! Perfect as I am giving up the trashy celebrity magazines and chick lit books. There are even some old magazines in there - Keepers at Home and An Encouraging Word.

Has anyone heard of the Good Morning Girls Bible studies?

I am listening to

This seems like such a lovely supportive thread! Good to find a corner of the internet where people aren't pulling each other apart.

Welcome plaingirly. No pulling each other apart is not in the nature of this thread. I have not heard of any of the books or magazines you mention. Are they American?
Sorry Mary for the lack of affection from dh. Is he under a lot of stress himself? Not that should be an excuse, but it could be an explanation.

Dutchoma Yes they are American. My pen pal is American and had collected them up for me from various yard sales and thrift shops. KAH is Mennonite I think - lots of gardening and recipes. Not sure about EA but it appears to be family run. They are old copies though!

Lovely copies of In His Steps and My Utmost for His Highest. I am looking forward to reading them!

GMG is an online Bible study - it looks interesting and they are reading Luke starting tomorrow.

Yes he's under a lot of stress himself, but I can't reach him and I really need him :(

Ah, hello plaingirly... I just suggested you pay us a visit on the other thread, and lo and behold... here you are.

Sympathy Mary, my DH is also quite undemonstrative (though he can be really warm, but always on his terms/in his time... not necessarily when I ask for/need it). Would it work if you sat him down and explained how you are feeling, and, in particular, how it makes you feel when he distances himself from you? I am sorry that you're feeling ill, and that you don't have the support that you need and deserve. Sending prayers your way... for health and for your relationship with your DH.

Thanks TUO, he knows how I am feeling, I think he feels helpless or even that it is his fault, everything thats going on.