Just curious - how many muslims are on mumsnet?

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Hello/Salaam,

I know mumsnet has a wide and diverse population and I tend to recognise some MN usernames as regulars. Just intrigued to know how big/small a community it may be.

Of course, I respect that there may be those who do not wish to even identify themselves for various reasons - which is fine too.

I am not asking for 'religiousness' levels or any vital stats! Nor is this a muslim-only thread or an 'no non-muslims' thread.
If you really wish to tell me that you are not a muslim, that is fine too :)

:)

I follow a madhab, it's easier to know the the fiqh according to one specific madhab for your particular cricumstances sometime you do come across questions and you need to follow one or the other way of say praying for instances, no one school is wrong but you pick one and stick to it, the madhab I follow also has requirements for ablution and what negates it too, I follow it. Same with divorce and marriage each madhab has small differences, which you follow your own particular madhab, you cant make it up and you need the guidance which is why you follow a madhab.

I have a friend who says she follows no madhab and then I've found her making things up and telling me I'm doing things wrong, I've always stopped her saying firstly I am not a qualified jurist and secondly I am following as I've been taught and as it is logical for the circumstance I am not going to abandon something or adopt a new way without good reason, I've always suggested to her to go and study the madhabs under a good teacher, she has time to do so.

I don't actually think it's a point of dischord, you can as above friend do what you think is right, altho how would you choose how to pray salat without following a madhab? Or you can follow a madhab, but I don't engage in semantics over it.

I know personally, when I got divorced I followed the requirements of my madhab for my divorce and settlement following it as it is very complicated and acrimonious and I will not be lead to transgressions against ex due to my own perosnal feelings in the matter, it's far easier to follow cold clinical guidelines.

yes that is it fuzzy the time when i realised the imporrtance of madhab was when I was telling my husband it is my right to my own house with separate kitchen and bathroom and he was saying a room with a lock is sufficient. We were both choosing rulings according to ur own nafs. Changing Islam to suit our needs not changing ourselves for Islam.

How many of us are qualified to do ijtihaad?

I dont know if i put my point across badly. (!).

I was basically agreeing with crescents post about in bangladesh hanafi majority borrowing from another school.

I also agree with following a particular school as fuzzywuzzy mentioned about her circumstances.

I do not say that the average person should decide which bits they will pick and choose, but merely saying that if consensus by the knowledgeable is reached whereby it is decided that one can borrow from another school of thought (as they have in bangladesh) then surely there is nothing wrong with that either as the teachings of Allah and Muhammed (saw) are above even these great schools of thought.

Am i not expressing my point properly? Sorry if i have made a mistake.

Sorry for hijack asked previously is there an app on the ipad i can use to teach the arabic alphabet.?There are loads if u google any recommendations

blue dont worry sis, we just giving random thoughts out! lol

Sorry Blue with you now.

I reckon most people follow what they're told.

I agree with you in that every persons situation and circumstances should be considered separately before rulings are made, I've seen where blind adherence and blanket rulings cause so much pain and sorrow.

I really want to study women's fiqh inshallah, we really really need more female scholars.

I had a very sympathetic and knowledgeable imam, also I had studied my situation and knew my rights.

As-salam-alaikum

Sisters,

Dreadfully sorry to hijack your thread. I am a muslim sister that is desperately in need of emotional support. I sound pathatic don't I. Unfortunately I have nobody in real life, apart from my children.

walaykum salaam

we are here for you sis

You don't sound pathetic at all sis. Vent all you want on here.

Salaam pomegranate,

Inshallah we are here for you. Will try my best to help in any way.

Salaams Pomegranate, welcome, and love the name. There is a hadith about each pomegranate containing a seed from heaven, do you know it? I'll try to find it inshAllah. You don't sound pathetic, everyone needs support. InshAllah, although we can't be a substitute for RL, we can support you in some way.

Always happy to be pmed

I should add that when I had some serious marriage problems earlier this year, there were a few people including crescent and nailak and others who gave me fantastic advice. It was a life line at that point.

I am close friends with a sis who's husband runs his own business, he supplies on a credit basis, he too is bashful about debt collecting.

I've offered to do it, I have no qualms about formally requesting money or stopping all supply till the debts are cleared and then to resume on a cash on delivery basis.

I hate how people take liberties, if you're buying something be it goods or a service, pay for it, otherwise it's theft!

Salaam Sisters,

Jazak allah kairun for all your lovely responses. I am a lone parent now with five children, and i have nobody that I can talk to. I really don't want to reveal too much here.

Life is extremely difficult at the moment, and it would be nice to get some support and help.

I don't mind anybody sending me a private message.

Sis pomegranate, salaams, do you mind letting us know your rough location, so maybe we could find some other muslim mothers group in your area etc so you can get rl support and friendship?

Also don't belittle the power of dua I spent a long time being isolated and lonely. Dua is what fixed it [http://muslimahdirections.wordpress.com/2013/01/18/do-you-belittle/] read this!