A friend of mine, (ex-colleague who I was friendly with rather than close friend), has recently been keeping closer contact with me through Facebook. She left a fairly corporate administrative job two years ago to go travelling with her partner. They are both in their early/mid-thirties and a long standing relationship, no kids. They have been going around European cities, playing and recording music which she posts on Facebook. I've noticed for some time that she looks a bit out of it in some of the videos (possibly stoned) and this is quite different from the quite conventional, very professional/efficient role she had with our previous employer. But just thought she was letting her hair down etc.
Anyway, she has sent me quite understanding and supportive messages during my break-up with my ex-H and usually these border on spiritual, I suppose.
Last message she sent was a bit different though. She's previously mentioned very loosely would I play on some of their music, and I loosely agreed (but in that kind of what that it's unlikely to happen due to being in different countries etc)...anyway.
Latest message talks about how she and her DP in particular had this sudden life-changing experience. Not spiritual or religious as such, she says, and specifically says not a cult. But different way of life to most people etc etc.
She seems to be sharing this with me, but without any specifics and maybe with a view to arousing interest and the loose agreement has become 'you agreed to come and visit...' although they don't seem to know where they will be. I don't know if I'm explaining this very well...but I showed some of her message to my friend and he said straightaway 'you're being groomed...it's a cult'...
Now my concern is not that I'm being groomed...and I am not feeling in danger at all here. But I think that this assessment might be right and I am concerned about my friend. What, if anything, can I do for her? I have details for her parents, although I don't know them at all well. Should I contact them with a concerned message? Should I just keep in touch with her and make clear that I will be there if she wants to talk? I won't do anything dramatic like say 'you're in a cult, you have to get out'....
I could say, well we're not close friends, let someone else worry about it, but I get a sense that she doesn't have many close friends, even when she was based where I am (she's Australian, was living in UK) and is very dependent on her partner. What would you do?