Christian help needed please.

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I should start by saying that I am not a Christian, I am Pagan but have a deep respect for the church I was raised in.
The problem is my neighbour. Up to about 8 months ago she belonged to an evangelical church in our area with her parents and son. She left the church when her mum died suddenly and has got involved in an abusive relationship which has involved the police being called out more than once. She is angry with God, which I think is an understandable reaction to the events of the past few months but frankly she needs to go back to church (I'm well aware that this sounds very hypocritical!). She seems deaf to any advice or help offered even though her Dad and son still attend church and have gained alot of comfort from the support network there.
Up to the past few weeks we have got on well enough but after the last incident with the police I lost my temper (3 children including a new baby being woken up and doors being kicked in) and refused to speak to her so I have my own making up to do but I want to try and encourage her to go back to her church and get some support, but how??
Any suggestions, guidance or flames welcome, I can actually see her shrivelling before my eyes and she won't listen to anyone!

In my limited experience of evangelical churches, they can be quite demanding of their members. Being angry with God might well not be acceptable, and "failing to accept God's will" is sometimes classed as a sin. If she has been raised to think that prayer always works and God will fix everything for believers, His failure to do so might have lead her to doubt His existence.

As an ex-Christian, you might be the only person she'll listen to! And if she's reluctant to go back to her own church, try the local vicar. I would say the priest, but her original church may think RCs are the spawn of demons.

What a difficult situation to be in. I don't really think there's anything you can do, other than moral support. You could try saying to her 'we're going to church today, do you fancy coming with us?' and see what happens? Or do you know anyone from the church she used to go to who can go round for a chat with her for support when her twat new boyfriend isn't there? Don't know what else to suggest, sorry.

Thanks for the replies, I'm waiting up for her at the mo, she had a row with said twunt and unbelievably has driven him home!
I have an fb friend who is a vicar, he's an old friend of mine so I might mail him for advice on this one too. I think the church leaders would welcome her back, we live in quite a small tight knit community here, very Christian (to the extent that I am very quiet about my beliefs). Maybe she will listen, we've had some interesting discussions about our beliefs in the past and can talk about pretty much anything if he isn't there...
Thanks very much for the advice x

Sometimes people have to bottom out and there's nothing you can do, really. I was in a strop with God that lasted oooh about 15 years and tbh it has made my relationship with him that much deeper. A bit of suffering digs some deep troughs for God to fill

(Not being flippant. I am just not as scared of suffering as I used to be - it's not the end of the world.)

that said, your vicar friend sounds a good port of call. She needs to have it out with God and maybe she could do with some help to tap that stream of screaming expletives. But until she's ready, she won't be ready iyswim.

You could get her some literature about abusive relationships - Womens Aid website etc - but, again, you can lead the horse to water... If she's not ready, she's not ready.

You're a good friend, girl.