1. Oh come on, what is wrong with a bit of banter (Holo doesn't mind when I am rude to her...much). There is nothing within any secular ethos (if that is the ethos you are referring to) that says that I have to be polite. All I have to do is be equally rude (or polite) to everyone no matter what faith they have (or none), which I am. I am much more polite to you than I am to my friends if that helps you get through the day.
2. What utter tosh, are you seriously suggesting that people feel forced into donating money to Dawkins through fear that their friends might laugh at them for being stupid. That is one of the most ridiculous suggestions I have ever heard! I can imagine the conversation in the school yard: "Quick Tracy, you had better donate money to that Dawkins geezer, otherwise Darren won't wanna shag you on the back of the school bus tonight, init!"
The fact that you have heard one preacher speak of hellfire proves my point. One is too many!
I accept that your personal faith doesn't put any weight hellfire, but many peoples' faith does (and we aren't talking about you or I, we are talking about the cross-section of the population). We have a friend of the family who has been at our house crying at the "fact" that my whole family are going to hell because we don't love god. Clearly people like this aren't common, but they do exist as a surprisingly large minority of believers.
Even if hellfire isn't used as motivation, it is often made clear that giving money to church makes you a "good Christian", often a figure of 10% of income is used. There is lots of peer pressure with this sort of culture and it is not appropriate (again, I recognised that this in not the case in all churches (yours included if you go to one), but it does happen quite a lot - every time I go to the christening of friends children, I am ALWAYS asked to donate).
If I donate to Dawkins, it does not make me a good atheist, and there is no building that we all gather in where we get asked to donate. In fact, you have to go looking for his website to even find out that he has a charity (or hear about it during radio/TV interviews, which are hardly regular events - I think I have heard him on the radio three times this year, and I actively try to catch him on the radio when I can). Basically, if I don't donate to Dawkins, no one knows, and no one judges me against a set of prescribed values. It does not make me a bad atheist.
4) I never said that it was the majority (especially in the UK), but I agree the data I provided was not a link between spirituality and education level, but extreme religion and education.
The fact that you say "believe" in evolution does however, says a lot to me. I suspect (although I may be wrong) you put your belief in evolution on the same par as your belief in your religion. However, in reality it clearly shouldn't be on the same level, since evolution is provable by evidence as a highly probably theory (to the extent that we can call it a fact, much like we can say that the earth is 4.54 billion years old (+/-1 about 1%), or that the earth travels round the sun), and your faith that god exists has next to no credible evidence (to the extent that we can say it is highly probably to be fiction, much like fairies and my magic mass-less elephant).
My MIL is Christian, and in no way a fundamentalist (far from it), but she is a creationist, because that is what she was taught in school and church.
(and I do, btw, since I have some tertiary qualifications in anatomy and zoology.)
Well done you 
(reader warning: please note, this last comment is my attempt at a joke, and not intended to offend in a non-secular manner)