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Christian Prayer Thread

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DontstepontheMomeRaths · 27/07/2012 11:40

All welcome to join or post a prayer request. Thinking especially of Expat at this time.

This below list is just what I've summarised from reviewing the last months post, please add any requests I've missed or if I've made an error, please correct it:

Amberlight - Prayers for dh and Amber?s small business and that all will be resolved after Mr Stalker was caught on camera outside her house and arrested
Bluetinkerbell - lost her beloved Sterre during her second trimester. Now 23 weeks pregnant again, prayers for peace and for this lovely healthy baby girl
Dontsteponthemomeraths (A.K.A teaandcakeplease) - Prayers especially for her lovely man (LM) as the court case heads to High Court in September. That God would make a way, where there is no way, help him to afford the court fees and that he will finally have the closure; contact with his children and a maintenance agreement in place that is fair to him, his ex wife and to the children. For justice. It?s 6 years since divorce due to her infidelity and it is so hard for him. The children and ex wife live in another Country and the legal system there is very different and he barely sees his children due to her. Prayers that he has freedom from his past and doesn?t live in it anymore but breaks free and moves forward in all God has for him
Also for her DD who is struggling especially lately with not seeing her Dad as much as she?d like and wishing they lived all together and weren?t divorced Sad
DutchOma - Prayers for Bob, his health, the support for DO and respite care to be put in place. To see more of DGCs in the coming weeks and for Zac to get more comfortable around Grandad and her DD to not be too reluctant to visit with the grandchildren
Expat - God to hold the whole family in his arms, as they deal with the tragic loss of their beautiful daughter Aillidh
FriendofDorothy - That completion on the house they are trying to buy, happens soon and that they get all work on the new house completed, before the baby is due in December
HaveALittleFaith - Prayers for her to loose weight and get an op date soon for a blockage in her urinary tract, so she can exercise and so she can be referred for IVF and for her relationship with God to strengthen, despite the struggles and disappointments she has suffered, that she would feel God?s presence and her H
For her friend and her H who?s baby was still born at the beginning of July.
Jan2011 - Prayers for her marriage, her H?s treatment of her to change and clarity and wisdom for Jan about the future. And for her voluntary job and the training
JugglingWithTangentialOranges - For a refreshing and inspiring break this weekend in the Lakes, prayers for her marriage, her H to talk to her with respect and DS to not mimic him and less arguing in the car too Smile
Kaykat - For safety, protection and strength at this difficult time in her marriage and a way out and to find a church that is right for her
Lostmywellies - For the move next Weds, Prayers for her marriage and her H?s new behaviour to be sustainable and he stops minimising her feelings
Madhairday - For her lungs to hold out as she goes to New Wine and good weather. For her DD starting Senior school in Sept and for the support, help and understanding from the teachers with her Dyspraxia and Psoriasis she needs
MaryBS - To have favour and peace this school holiday, and that she finds lots to do without money to keep both her children entertained and without people judging DS?s behaviour. Also for her DD who was meant to be going away with the youth group and has been let down
NCIS - Prayers as she starts the open university student paramedic course
PatsyPlusOne - Her friend who has lost her 11 year old son to cancer and the 8 year old brother left behind missing him
PositiveAttitude - Prayers as they follow God?s call that they settle and are happy in this new Country and become immune to the mosquitoes Wink, also especially for DS and DD4 to adjust and back at home for DD1, DD2 And DD3, especially DD1 who is really struggling with being "mum & dad-less? And for PA?s Dad who is an Atheist and has started going to church with her Mum, who has Alzheimer?s lately
Redwhiteandblueeyedsusan - Prayers for her as she copes as a lone parent and for her DS and the long road to assessment for Autism. For her DD who has been removed from the sen register despite her needing help for a lifelong condition. DD?s IEP was reviewed without parental involvement, contrary to the sen code of practice, that God will be with BES as she gets official with the school and that her DD would get the help and support she needs and that the head teacher takes BES?s concerns seriously and stops fobbing her off
SESthebrave - For the daughter of a friend from church, who had been sectioned and is now back home with her 2 DS?s and really struggling with depression and her mum who is travelling long distances to support her and the children at this difficult time.
For SES?s friend who had an Ovarian cyst removed which was malignant and has now had to have a hysterectomy, for her husband and her to feel peace at this difficult time
TribbleWithoutACause - DH?s one and only set of car keys turn up
TUO - to find ways of working more efficiently, so she can sleep more but still get lots done, that God would lift her from the stress and tiredness and that she gets everything done before her holiday
Weegie - Thank God that treatment is bringing some relief to her condition Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Polyneuropathy. Ongoing prayers for more improvement and adjusting to a new way of life for both weegie and her DH. DD has Perthe's syndrome , where the hip joint dies then regrows. Thank God for an improvement in her condition and further improvements so no op is needed.

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DutchOma · 24/09/2012 16:31

I once had my whole housegroup in gales of laughter when I said I was a Very Submissive Wife. When they'd calmed down a bit I said:"Look what you've got to 'submit' yourself to: the total self sacrifice of your husband, him doing nothing to you that he wouldn't do to his own body, all those cups of tea in bed, him preventing my every wish and I wouldn't be submissive? I would be such a fool." Ephesians 5 needs to be read in its entirity, not every other verse to suit a man making a doormat of his wife.

PositiveAttitude · 25/09/2012 04:30

Prayers as I have read through. I have been fairly poorly here, in fact Saturday night I thought I needed a hospital, but I seem to be on the mend now. DS now ill, too. Please pray for us. Thank you. Will return and post more when I feel more able.

DutchOma · 25/09/2012 06:56

What a good job there are no barriesr of time and place to our prayers.
Much love

jan2011 · 25/09/2012 06:57

PA prayers

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 25/09/2012 07:40

prayers pa. ((())) too.

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Tuo · 25/09/2012 08:38

Oh no, PA. Prayers from here too. xxx

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 25/09/2012 09:28

Hoping DS is good at Nursery again. Or should I say praying.

Also starting to panic a little as the childminder I'm using when I start work, may not be able to do everyday, so prayers that I can find a way to make it work.

Praying for DS PA x

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redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 25/09/2012 11:38

ds wwas ok at gym. he did not join in but he wasn't disruptive

jan2011 · 25/09/2012 11:45

please remember us in prayer! had argument with dh in play area with dd there and we went our seperate ways - i cannot stop crying..on her first birthday.
some issues were brought up and we started discussing them and i said not to and he kept discussing them and i ended up really really upset... cos he was saying that i have really hurt him too. this really upset me as it shows he just isn't regretful and isn't seeing the damage he has caused...as the things i have done to 'hurt him' haven't been my fault,..they have been due to illness.

anyway i ended up really upset and have also been up so have had lack of sleep too and couldn't face spending the rest of the day with him. so i said to him, i don't think both of us together the rest of the day is going to work now as i can't cope im too upset... so i tried to reason with him and offered him to take dd for awhile, or to come earlier tonight and i go out so he can have time with her. he just started going on and on about me not being able to cope and talk like a proper adult saying 'nothing has changed' (ie me not being able to cope emotionally) and when i asked him to do emails to discuss feelings issues etc he started going on that he doesn't do 'f-ing emails' and we should be able to talk like normal people etc and that i was the one with the problem - he didn't even answer me about what was to happen with dd even thogh i tried to keep asking, so in the end i was getting panicky keeping listning to him so i just took her home with me and haven't stopped crying since.

i phoned mum and she is going to meet me for half an hour on her lunch break so i won't have the whole day on my own. have i done wrong? should have i been able to discuss everything when so upset and emotional on her birthday? i am beyond devastated and i know he is too. he hates me now, really hates me. please pray! i need to get through this. i have college tonight too!

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 25/09/2012 12:22

No you haven't, it was not an appropriate time to discuss the issues. You may have to accept though that you cannot have time with your DD together and he only see's her separately to you, if he cannot respect your boundaries.

If he wanted to discuss anything, a time over a coffee in a neutral location would be better and he needs to stick to facts only, not feelings. E-mail can be better, I agree.

I am so sorry Jan Sad Wish I could pop by for a cuppa and give you a hug x

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jan2011 · 25/09/2012 12:27

i wish that too. i wish i could know for sure its not me being unreasonable - he makes me feel like it is. i have texted him to ask him what he wants to happen later and he won't text back he keeps ringing and im too scared to answer the phone as i can't even cope talking to him i get so upset - and yes it is me that can't cope with talking about sensitive and upsetting issues... is that such a big crime...especially in front of my dd. i would prefer to do it over email or in a counselling office...
maybe i am just a complete weirdo. i really wish you were here Mome and all of you lovely people- hugs!

jan2011 · 25/09/2012 12:36

he has texted and is going to take her out at 4. probably more drama then...this is all so sad. it is making me dread the likes of christmas... poor dd.

DutchOma · 25/09/2012 12:54

It's so not your fault. He could just have taken her out and given you a bit of time to yourself.
You are quite right not to want to talk to him as you know it will upset you.

He really cannot expect you to 'discuss' things if that only means he will throw mud at you and tell you how bad you are.
Has your mum been yet?
Many hugs and prayers and here's another one who wishes she could come for a cuppa.
Make sure you drink enough plain water if you have been crying a lot. Easy to become dehydrated which will make everything feel worse.

CharlotteCollinsislost · 25/09/2012 13:23

jan - another one here holding you in my prayers and having a Brew in solidarity!

Like the new nn? Wellies never really suited, but I'm used to lost, so I'll keep it for the time being! CC is a character in Pride and Prejudice whom I identify with.

JugglingWithPossibilities · 25/09/2012 13:33

Wishing a Happy First Birthday to Jan's DD - glad you had a nice party on Saturday. Sorry today has not been as happy as you'd hope - I hope the rest of the day is a little brighter.

DH has been very immature trying to make it all about him (IMO) - remember it's not his day - it's DD's. Give her a wee hug from me !

You tried to do the day together for DD's sake, but your (D)H seems to be showing you that that's not going to be possible ? You were very sensible to take DD home. Fortunately when you're one you don't necessarily get the whole birthday thing anyway. Maybe you can resolve that next year will be better ?
Much love from us all x

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 25/09/2012 14:36

Can a friend hand her over, so you do not have to see him? Can he leave straight after contact?

I would perhaps ask him not to come in the house if it was me.

I'm so sorry Sad He's a bully.

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jan2011 · 25/09/2012 17:11

thanks so much for all your kindness... he came early and i was so upset and told him not to come in as i wasn't ready (i had literaly just pulled up myself) and he said i was crazy. then when i was ready and he came in, he still was trying to talk about stuff and said unless we talk about stuff we won't get anywhere... and even asked can we open presents for her together.

yes i saw mum and talked to her about setting more limits so that he is not coming to mind her IN the house, which means she would have to mind dd while i am at college that night a week, after he drops her off. she is ok to do that, but she thinks putting boundaries in might make things worse between us. she thinks i should tell the pastor to talk to him to tell him not to bring things up, as if it comes from someone else other than me it might help.

the last few days my confidence has went down to zero, i find myself questioning myself what im saying to people, telling myself im stupid constantly, and back to dealing with things in the wrong way...i feel so down and its going to be hard getting out of this cycle. im not going to college tonight and cancelled my volunteer shift tomorrow, i just can't face it. i just want stability....
anyone who has been through this, when does it ever get any easier? should i arrange to meet him without dd and try to have a reasonable proper talk? i feel so wiped out with everything.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 25/09/2012 17:14

You could but is he able to stick to facts and to not start mud slinging? I doubt it. Mediation would be better.

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Tuo · 25/09/2012 17:23

Oh jan... I am so sorry that he is behaving like this towards you, and on dd's birthday too. Please don't doubt yourself. He is behaving in a way that is utterly unacceptable, and you do not have to take it from him. Trust yourself, if you can. Praying for strength for you.

So much for my dentist's appointment. My car conked out (fuel pump) as I was leaving work to go to the dentist's. So my tooth is still broken, and now I have a broken-down car too. Had to be towed down the M1 so I'm a nervous wreck now.

jan2011 · 25/09/2012 17:35

aw Tuo poor u, that sounds stressful! is the car problem a serious one or can it be fixed easily?

i don't think we can afford mediation..and that would mean getting a divorce would it?

JugglingWithPossibilities · 25/09/2012 17:42

I think you probably should think about getting your head round a divorce, or at least a separation jan - but maybe not today .... each day has enough troubles of it's own and all that ... and I think you've had enough troubles for today. Any plans for this evening ?, even if it's just put a candle on a cake and sing "Happy Birthday" Smile We'll all have a slice with a Brew if there's any going !

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 25/09/2012 17:49

Mediation could just be you both talking about this in a neutral place with a friend present or the pastor, to help you both to be able to speak and listen. They could mediate. You both may make more progress sharing your feelings in that situation.

May sound scary but think about it x

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jan2011 · 25/09/2012 18:49

yeh either the pastor or a marriage counsellor i would be able to do that.

tonight he has taken dd up to his mums for awhile. im not happy about it, but he has to see her on her bday too. im so down. im just going to go to bed. i have been thinking of a divorce a lot... it all seems to have happened so very fast...its all a bit scary.

SESthebrave · 25/09/2012 19:04

Feeding and praying, praying and feeding. (DD has a cold and is teething so feeding a bit more at the moment).

Jan - happy birthday to your DD!!
Sorry that things have been so tough with (D)H. Praying for you and a more positive way forward.

TUO - that sounds a bit scary. Prayers for you and the car.

MHD - prayers for continued improvement

DO - great that you and Bob managed a game of dice. Prayers for many more

PA - prayers for you and all your family. Hope you're doing lots better.

Hello Lost - I love Pride & Prejudice.

Prayers for all on our lovely little thread. For blessings and the Holy Spirit to draw all of us ever closer to God.

HaveALittleFaith · 25/09/2012 19:43

jan I don't have much advice but I would actually think that your Mum may be wrong - I think clear boundaries would actually make life a lot easier for you! I'm inclined to agree that mediation may be the way forward. You need clear boundaries and clear guidelines about what you talk about when. He is still trying to manipulate you and tell you that the problems were your fault respite showing no remorse for his actions!

Tuo :( hope you can get the car and the tooth can be fixed soon!

I hope DD feels better SES.

I am struggling a bit - feeling a bit low and very anxious about the prospect of the scan not showing a wriggly baby :( no specific reason why it would be an MMC, but fear has gripped me. Someone I told early days has told someone else and I feel upset that she told someone else. To be fair I didn't say it was confidential but I thought it went without saying given that I was only 7 weeks gone! I've ensured both of them know not to say anything to anyone else and I'm unlikely to see them again til after my 12 week scan. Prayer for peace about that would be great. Also DH had a job interview tomorrow so prayers for God's will and for him to do his best would be appreciated!

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