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Christian Prayer Thread

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DontstepontheMomeRaths · 27/07/2012 11:40

All welcome to join or post a prayer request. Thinking especially of Expat at this time.

This below list is just what I've summarised from reviewing the last months post, please add any requests I've missed or if I've made an error, please correct it:

Amberlight - Prayers for dh and Amber?s small business and that all will be resolved after Mr Stalker was caught on camera outside her house and arrested
Bluetinkerbell - lost her beloved Sterre during her second trimester. Now 23 weeks pregnant again, prayers for peace and for this lovely healthy baby girl
Dontsteponthemomeraths (A.K.A teaandcakeplease) - Prayers especially for her lovely man (LM) as the court case heads to High Court in September. That God would make a way, where there is no way, help him to afford the court fees and that he will finally have the closure; contact with his children and a maintenance agreement in place that is fair to him, his ex wife and to the children. For justice. It?s 6 years since divorce due to her infidelity and it is so hard for him. The children and ex wife live in another Country and the legal system there is very different and he barely sees his children due to her. Prayers that he has freedom from his past and doesn?t live in it anymore but breaks free and moves forward in all God has for him
Also for her DD who is struggling especially lately with not seeing her Dad as much as she?d like and wishing they lived all together and weren?t divorced Sad
DutchOma - Prayers for Bob, his health, the support for DO and respite care to be put in place. To see more of DGCs in the coming weeks and for Zac to get more comfortable around Grandad and her DD to not be too reluctant to visit with the grandchildren
Expat - God to hold the whole family in his arms, as they deal with the tragic loss of their beautiful daughter Aillidh
FriendofDorothy - That completion on the house they are trying to buy, happens soon and that they get all work on the new house completed, before the baby is due in December
HaveALittleFaith - Prayers for her to loose weight and get an op date soon for a blockage in her urinary tract, so she can exercise and so she can be referred for IVF and for her relationship with God to strengthen, despite the struggles and disappointments she has suffered, that she would feel God?s presence and her H
For her friend and her H who?s baby was still born at the beginning of July.
Jan2011 - Prayers for her marriage, her H?s treatment of her to change and clarity and wisdom for Jan about the future. And for her voluntary job and the training
JugglingWithTangentialOranges - For a refreshing and inspiring break this weekend in the Lakes, prayers for her marriage, her H to talk to her with respect and DS to not mimic him and less arguing in the car too Smile
Kaykat - For safety, protection and strength at this difficult time in her marriage and a way out and to find a church that is right for her
Lostmywellies - For the move next Weds, Prayers for her marriage and her H?s new behaviour to be sustainable and he stops minimising her feelings
Madhairday - For her lungs to hold out as she goes to New Wine and good weather. For her DD starting Senior school in Sept and for the support, help and understanding from the teachers with her Dyspraxia and Psoriasis she needs
MaryBS - To have favour and peace this school holiday, and that she finds lots to do without money to keep both her children entertained and without people judging DS?s behaviour. Also for her DD who was meant to be going away with the youth group and has been let down
NCIS - Prayers as she starts the open university student paramedic course
PatsyPlusOne - Her friend who has lost her 11 year old son to cancer and the 8 year old brother left behind missing him
PositiveAttitude - Prayers as they follow God?s call that they settle and are happy in this new Country and become immune to the mosquitoes Wink, also especially for DS and DD4 to adjust and back at home for DD1, DD2 And DD3, especially DD1 who is really struggling with being "mum & dad-less? And for PA?s Dad who is an Atheist and has started going to church with her Mum, who has Alzheimer?s lately
Redwhiteandblueeyedsusan - Prayers for her as she copes as a lone parent and for her DS and the long road to assessment for Autism. For her DD who has been removed from the sen register despite her needing help for a lifelong condition. DD?s IEP was reviewed without parental involvement, contrary to the sen code of practice, that God will be with BES as she gets official with the school and that her DD would get the help and support she needs and that the head teacher takes BES?s concerns seriously and stops fobbing her off
SESthebrave - For the daughter of a friend from church, who had been sectioned and is now back home with her 2 DS?s and really struggling with depression and her mum who is travelling long distances to support her and the children at this difficult time.
For SES?s friend who had an Ovarian cyst removed which was malignant and has now had to have a hysterectomy, for her husband and her to feel peace at this difficult time
TribbleWithoutACause - DH?s one and only set of car keys turn up
TUO - to find ways of working more efficiently, so she can sleep more but still get lots done, that God would lift her from the stress and tiredness and that she gets everything done before her holiday
Weegie - Thank God that treatment is bringing some relief to her condition Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Polyneuropathy. Ongoing prayers for more improvement and adjusting to a new way of life for both weegie and her DH. DD has Perthe's syndrome , where the hip joint dies then regrows. Thank God for an improvement in her condition and further improvements so no op is needed.

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redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 09/09/2012 23:02

collapses (again)

whoever has got the size nine boots can you don them and give me a kick up the rear... I need to get the wwashing out of the machine and do lunch for 2 children. (and find room in the fridge for 2 lunch boxes) I am just back froim a weekend at mums... being bombarded with questions about this that and the other. she seems a bit confused and unable to remember stuff. she relied on dad a lot and trying to do it on her on is hard. she is on her own next week as I am back for a full week of school. I should be able to do another eekend there to help but will need more time at home to do stuff here. I have been packing crockery and carrying boxes around getting ready for work being done... I ought to be doing the same at home too.

ds had a bit of a strop in asda and ran away several times screaming and shouting whilst I was at the till packing and paying for food, he spat on the conveyor and headbutted, then wet himself and howled loudly all because I needed to sort the shopping into mine and granny's and he could not put the strawberries on the conveyor before the pullups. I was glowing red enough to run a powerstation...

I took the children to visit mil in hospital. the new drugs have improved things and she is looking deceptively well. she is still hanging on in there.

I am off to make lunch. ds is having ham and cheese sandwiches. it is always ham and cheese.. I had better choose his lunch carefully as it might always be the same for ever more...

Kaykat · 09/09/2012 23:33

I feel like I have hit rock bottom. Crying most of the weekend. H is so mean. Told me if we split up he will make sure I get nothing. Told me it wasn't difficult to find someone better than me in bed. Then said he will do anything to get me back? What's that all about?
He can turn DS against me so easily and proved he can take him from me any time. He just locked the car doors so I couldn't get in and drove off. When I caught up with them DS didn't like me at all. If I dv H I will lose DS. Do I have to put up with an unfaithful husband so I don't lose my son?

Tuo · 09/09/2012 23:52

Oh Kaykat. I'm so sorry to read this. I am no expert, but please believe me when I say that your H is messing with your head and trying to 'grind you down'. You will not lose your son, and he cannot just lock him in the car and drive off with him at will. Please, please get some advice on this from a solicitor, or Women's Aid, or Citizen's Advice or whatever. Others on this thread (and in the Relationships section too) know more than I do, but I couldn't read and not post. I am praying that you will get the advice you need to stop your H's behaviour, which is utterly unreasonable, cruel, and manipulative. It must be awful for your poor son, as well as for you. Please don't believe that your son doesn't like you. He is vulnerable and your H is unfairly trying to turn him against you because he knows that you will do anything not to hurt your son. I am thinking of you tonight, and will keep you in my prayers.

Kaykat · 10/09/2012 00:20

Women's Aid can't help unless there is violence or a threat of violence. My son is 12 so he is old enough to make his own decisions and he does everything H tells him. I have seen a solicitor but could be living like this for months, I will try to see her again this week. Yes he is messing with my head and scaring me into staying with him. I know that DS loves me very much, he is being controlled, just like me. Tomorrow H will go off for the week and we can be happy again.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 10/09/2012 07:22

Womensaid are very interested in helping and supporting people whose husbands are emotionally abusive Kaykat. Yes they may not put you in a refuge but their advice in your situation would be very very helpful. They've helped Jan and her H is emotionally abusive as well.

This weblink is useful as well, as he is turning your son against you: www.resolution.org.uk/advice_for_parents/difficult_situations/#anchor682

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redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 10/09/2012 07:27

the courts work on a basis of a 50/50 split of assests then look at circumstances to see if this needs adjusting.

god holds a very dim view of men who left the wife of their youth...

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 10/09/2012 07:57

oh dear... school for ds this morning. it is cold and dd is wearing tights... which means ds wants to wear tights... tights are not uniform for boys (who knew?) Hmm I am not sure it is going to make a good impression if I have to carry him in under one arm wearing only his top half of his clothes and kicking and screaming. (memories ofnursery)

cloutiedumpling · 10/09/2012 09:17

Just a thought - would he wear footless tights under his trousers? Or thermal leggings or something? If he would it might get round the uniform policy.

madhairday · 10/09/2012 09:20

Oh Kaykat. I don't know what to say, TUO has some good advice, I am sure women's aid would have some good advice too. He is being emotionally abusive and you should not have to put up with this. But I see your dilemma with ds too. I am sure he loves you and hopefully will see he is being controlled too. :( What a horrible situation. Praying.

Holding you all in prayer at the beginning of this new week.

jan2011 · 10/09/2012 09:29

kaykat i am so sorry you are going through such a rough time.

none of this is your fault and you deserve to be around people who love you and think the world of you and build you up not tear you down - please know we are thinking of you and sending you hugs and i wish you could feel them as real hugs...

please don't write off WA. my husband never lifted a finger to me, and they were of enormous help to me. i phoned their helpline a few times and got lots of understanding and it made me feel so much better, i was also referred to local offices where someone came out to see me at my house, and she gave me her number and went through lots of options with me. if one person isn't helpful to you, please don't give up cos they are a very useful resource. you need to think about your future.

thinkinkg of you

MaryBS · 10/09/2012 09:57

Katykat, I had an emotionally abusive husband (my first husband), he made similar threats about getting nothing if I left, told me I was disgusting and repulsive and no man could ever fancy me. If you want to PM me anytime, I am here for you.

Services went well yesterday I think. Children seemed to respond to the paralympics quiz I did, and I think the adults engaged with it too. I hope I've challenged thinking. Yesterday evening was evensnog and no problems there either, although that is a much easier service, made even easier because I used a cantor this time, rather than singing it myself. :)

Very tired, so apologies if I'm not acknowledging anyone/anything. Have a bible study to lead this afternoon too!

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 10/09/2012 14:53

evening SNOG

what a fantastic typo! mary you are fab! well done on the service!

and praise God I actually got through to a real live human who can actually sort out a speech therapy appointment after ansa phone tennis!

MaryBS · 10/09/2012 15:01

:o I tend to call it evensnog :)

Well done on getting through to someone, thats an achievement in itself!

DutchOma · 10/09/2012 15:20

Yeah, she always does. You wonder what she gets up to Smile
Well done for sorting the speech therapy appointment BES
Well, a local optician, one we have visited ever since we came to Northampton has just been and done a full eytest for Bob. In a way unfortunately he couldn't give any explanation for Bob's eye problems, nothing much had changed.
But I'm very impressed that they came out to do a home visit.

Kaykat · 10/09/2012 17:28

Thanks lovely ladies, I was having a very low evening. I saw tha GP today and getting wonderful support from family too. WA gave me the phone number of a local office, so far I haven't been able to get through, they only answer at certain times mostly when I am at work. I would like someone to come and see me as they did with you Jan, so I will try to get through.

madhairday · 11/09/2012 09:44

Keep trying Kaykat, I'm sure someone will answer soon.

That's impressive about the optician, DO, but sorry they couldn't shed light on anything.

lol at Mary and evensnog, yes it's a tradition here to call it that Grin so glad the family service went so well, I knew it would.

I'm feeling a bit weary this morning and coughing more crap so wondering if something is approaching. Please not, it's been lovely to feel so 'normal' for a few weeks now.

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 11/09/2012 14:37

oh heck. right, ds's consultant is going to school to observe him. the speech and language therapist is going to school to observe him. I am freaking out because sod's law dictates that he is going to behave impecably... then have a complete and utter meltdown at home and I will be the "bad parent"

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 11/09/2012 14:38

hope nothing develops mhd

DutchOma · 11/09/2012 17:14

Sod's law does not always work BES. If that happens you smile sweetly and say that "you knew that he would make a liar of you". You do not even let the thought "bad mother" come into your head.
You are not. You know you are not. They have seen it all before.

HaveALittleFaith · 11/09/2012 17:45

Praying for health mhd!

bes they know better than just to see a snapshot. It won't just be about how 'well behaved' he is or isn't! but how he responds to instructions, interacts with his peers etc. I pray they get an honest reflection of how he is and who he is so they can adequately meet his needs.

I have had a challenging day. Travelled to another hospital site to do a walk round and check the paperwork I implemented is being used ok. I found it gruelling to travel an hour both ways and walk round. Had to run off to be sick! I'm getting lots of 'you look tired' comments. Must start going to bed earlier! Looking forward to being 12 weeks and admitting what's causing my symptoms. Everyone thinks I'm ill!

jan2011 · 11/09/2012 20:57

Im sitting here in tears after awful night with dh...arguing about our marriage. he says i didn't love him enough ( i went to bed early most nights), wasn't affectionate enough (partly because i am not an overly physical person which he knew when he married me, and partly because of the way i was treated in the marriage made me not want to), and that i provoked him to anger.

he said i need to hear the way he feels too if things are to work out, that he wouldnt want to live with me anyway unless i seen why he acted the way he did and realised i need to change.

he has hurt me so much, because since we split, he has made no effort at all with trying to please me or earn back trust. its all words like 'i love you' but no action. for example - we have had child locks and stairgates to fit for months even before he left which he didn't do, and he left, and when i brought it up he said well i don't live here anymore. i got my friends husband round to do it. if he really wanted me back, would he not want to do stuff like this cos he knows i can't do them myself? would he not offer to come round to do it or to do it before taking dd?

another thing is i asked him if i could go to church if he stayed here an extra hour on alternate sunday nights, and his response gave the impression he really didnt want to, it was really putting him out (affecting his great social life now) etc. he can go to church 3 nights a week if he wants, and has gone every sunday night...if he is wanting things to work out surely it wasn't much to ask so that i could get some fellowship.

my head is getting confused by it all. i feel so deeply hurt. i wish i could hear straight from God.... please keep in prayer its so hard all this.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 11/09/2012 21:05

Considering the fact he stopped marriage counselling, not you. It's a bit late to get it all out in the open Angry You had been trying to! Grrrr.

This habit of his; to now attack you on contact visits isn't helpful. Perhaps you could go out when he comes over to see DD?

He isn't acknowledging his part in the break down of your marriage it seems and that must hurt so much. I don't know what to say Jan Sad But he is rewriting history.

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JugglingWithPossibilities · 11/09/2012 21:07

Thinking of you jan. Is so hard when those closest to us hurt us so much.

I really don't like when a man says a woman isn't being affectionate enough. Usually there are good reasons based on the state of the relationship.
It's such a not taking any responsibility for anything sort of thing to say.

Much love from us all to you tonight x

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 11/09/2012 21:08

Re-reading your message a second time; he simply sounds angry at you and selfish. You're not his emotional punch bag and he needs to leave if he is going to do this on contact. To leave and see your DD another day when he can behave civilly! Time to up your boundaries again.

Can anyone babysit sometimes instead? So you're less reliant on H and his whim?

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jan2011 · 11/09/2012 21:10

he says he does acknowledge it. but he doesn't seem to really care about making things better if you know what i mean. he is more concerned that i know why he did it. i do know he was under a lot of stress and pressure, and i keep saying to him that i do care, and that i am sorry for the problems i created but that it was still not excuse.

its so hard for me to get my head round. i am now feeling like a lot of it was my fault and if i don't try again to make things work out then it will all be my fault if we divorce. you are right it IS too late - and every issue that was brought up in counselling concerning me i was addressing and trying to right things - he wasn't making much of an effort.
i did go out tonight on the contact visit to try to avoid this. silly me came back before he left though thinking it would be ok. obviously not. i think its going to be hi and bye now. i don't know how we are going to 'work' on our marriage.