meditation help needed....

[weewilliewinkie]

Hello everyone,

I very recently had a m/c and am finding it very hard to think of anything else. My mind may stray onto something mundane for a few minutes, but my loss is always in my head, iyswim.

Anyway, I have been thinking about trying to meditate as I feel it would give me some rest and peace from my sadness. I just don't know how to do it! Every time I try to only focus on my breathing, a thousand thoughts flood my brain and I just can't focus!

Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated. I have got to lessen the stress levels in me...I am ttc already and want to be as relaxed about everything as I can be. I don't want to get pg again and spend the whole time worrying myself sick. Is meditation the way forward for me? Or can anyone suggest anything else?

TIA ladies...xxx

I have a very basic, easy meditation written in Word. Email me and I will pass it on to you.

antlxstew @ yahoo . co. uk (remove spaces)

Hi weewilliewinkie

Sorry to hear of your loss and that its sits so much within you. I wish you all the best with ttc and future motherhood :)

Have you seen this thread about unborn spirit children? \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1600&threadid=114631&stamp=060228224332\this} - it might have something for you - a message or resonance perhaps.

I am not a great meditator during the daytime - I am better at night when in bed. Only time I have! What I do, which seems to suit me and also leaves space for continual development is "mindfulness". It is a Buddhist concept which means that all the time is meditation. So to concentrate on the task at hand, or conversation - whatever is happening at that moment and not let your mind wander elsewhere.

I also find Hatha breathing excellent. I started using it during my last pregnancy and it really helped me sleep alot better. I find myself still using it in the night and in the day time now. My sinuses seems improved and I think it helps me with mindfulness. Basically it is placing your tongue to the roof of your mouth and relaxing your jaw - while breathing through the nose

Have you ever done Yoga? Perhaps you could join a class. Exercise is always good for potential mums to be! These two exercises I think are really great. The legs up wall really helps you remember to breath through the belly and it helps to calm the mind !

\link{http://yogajournal.com/poses/690_1.cfm\Viparita Karani (Legs-Up-the-Wall Pose)}
\link{http://yogajournal.com/newtoyoga/153_1.cfm\Down dog article and} \link{http://yogajournal.com/poses/491_1.cfm\the pose}

Papillon,

I tried the Hatha vreathing last night in bed, and unbelievabely fell asleeo within minutes! It is so calming....I don't know why it should work so well, but it really helped. Thanks so much for telling me about it.

I am very keen to start yoga but currently live in germany so can't get to an english speaking class. I do plan to take it up when we move back to the UK though. I'll try the moves you posted in the meantime.

StG - thanks for the email, I really appreciate your help.
Thanks again.

Great the breathing gave you such fast results! :)

I live in Switzerland and have found several yoga teachers who use English during classes. That site I gave you is really great with lots of info about poses and articles.

If you would like to email me I would be happy to talk to you about meditation. I am a Zen Buddhist priest and I teach Zen meditation in London. I am married and have a large family. My email address is [email protected]. Best wishes, richard.