Why is everything going wrong?

[Alltheseboys]

My faith has not been to strong lately but tbh I've never been a church every Sunday, read the bible every day type. But recently everything going wrong. I am 5 months pregnant but also have a large cyst, my husband lost his job, our car broke down & needs a new engine & we are getting more & more in debt. We already owe loads that we are trying to pay off but now we owe tax credits another £11,000 & got an income tax bill from 2 years ago for £900. We just seem to be going backwards. With us it's always financial trouble.
My husband grew up in church ( his dad is a pastor) says the right things but also struggles with his faith. We don't pray together or even talk about our faith much.
My MIL would say its the devil, that it's because we haven't paid our tithes etc, etc. I just don't know what to believe. My non Christian friends seem to have an easier time then most of my Christian friends but faith is so ingrained in our culture I couldn't give it up.
I just feel like I always seem to take 1 step forward & 2 steps back in my life.
Why is everything going wrong?!

Sadly, sometimes shit just happens.

Putting your energy into seeking help from a (likely non-existant) higher power is not going to help you turn the situation around. Although it is fair to say that for some people, the thought of it helping may have a positive effect on their wellbeing, which can have a positive effect on other things in your life. For instance, if you believe that someone is looking out for you when you go to an interview, it is likely that you are going to be more relaxed and perform better and this will increase the likelihood of success.

Unfortunately, I don't think any of what I have said it actually going to help you, but I think there are many positive things you can do to help your situation that don't involve faith.

I wish you all the best and hope that things improve for you soon.

I think your right technodad. Thanks for your reply. Yes sometimes 'shitjusthappens'. But I also like believing in something that will help me through.

Hi alllthese, congratulations on your news but also sorry to hear about the troubles you are having. I'm wondering if you and your husband have tried the citizens advice bureau about the financial situation? They will help you find solutions to your money troubles, budgets, etc.

I know how you feel op, I'm going through the same

I feel,God sometimes tests the faithful more. The first thing you can do is count your blessings. You do have a dh, you are expecting a child and these are two huge blessings.

Hopefully you will find this chinese story as inspirational as I do;

Good Luck Bad Luck!

There is a Chinese story of a farmer who used an old horse to till his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills and when the farmer's neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?" A week later, the horse returned with a herd of horses from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, "Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?"

Then, when the farmer's son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?"

Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer's son with his broken leg, they let him off. Now was that good luck or bad luck?

Who knows?

Everything that seems on the surface to be an evil may be a good in disguise. And everything that seems good on the surface may really be an evil. So we are wise when we leave it to God to decide what is good fortune and what misfortune, and thank him that all things turn out for good with those who love him.

Wow thankyou star wisher that is a fantastic story. You are right I am blessed. I hope things turn around for you too. I will try & think of that story every time I'm wallowing

Glad to have helped. Pm me anytime if you like, I think we pretty much are going through the same things x

Ah thankyou jjkm & sorry that you are going through all that
What you say makes good sense & when we get out of this ditch we will have learnt some valuable lessons.

Glad to hear that jjkm. I hope things continue to get better. It's true that you often can't see past the present but your reply has made me think things will get better. Just have to keep strong!

I'm sorry to hear you're going through all this. I sympathethise, DH and I have had a rough time of it lately (2 years ttc - discovered underlying medical cause, house caught fire in December, DDad has fortunately curable cancer, I've just been in hospital!). I felt much like you. You look around you and wonder why don't you? I especially wonder why some people who don't want a baby get pregnant and chose not to continue with it when we want one so desperately and still no joy! I've learned it's not a case of 'my trials are worse than yours' but simply trials are as big to the individual as they are.
All I'd say is, in the darkest times, it'a easy to question God and turn away...but faith isn't faith until it's tested. When I'm faced with these problems, I try to push into God - read my Bible, go to Church even if I don't want to. Sometimes that's a massive push, but I do feel the benefit. Keep praying, keep pushing into God to turn your situation around. He will be faithful and answer just not necessarily how you expect! :)