can you "divorce" a godparent?

[sansouci]

This sounds really pathetic & childish (which it is) but my bf & I have had quite a row & I think friendship might well be over. As she is godmother to one of my dc, how do I handle it? Or not?

I think that is sad, but the relationship is between your bf and your child. I wouldn't rush into anything just yet - is it possible that the dust could settle and apologies could be made etc? How old is your dc? Do they already have a good relatonship?
Tough one though, but not sure you can 'divorce' godparaents as such.....

You may not need to. Two of my ds godparents bailed out. One needlessly after falling out wiht me resigned and then the other did after we stopped working together in bad circumstances. I appointed beety as honoury godparent and she has been brilliant! It was bad for ds as he was aware of second one leaving and it really upset him. Mind you he loves beets to bits and is really pleased she is his godmother!

That cheers me up! I think we may be able to patch it up but I am nevertheless curious as to how this kind of thing works. (My dh, dd & dh are Catholic).

I have the same situation with my ex bestf. Her, her daughter & sister were DD godmothers.

Fell out with bf Dec 2004 & since then she hasn't made any effort to keep in touch with DD, (except an xmas pressie that she had already brought that year, & "may as well send as it's no use to me"). Her theory was that DD is too small to understand. Her sister must have taken the same line as we haven't heard anything from her either. Her daughter (17), though has been great, cards visits, calls etc.

Ironically, I am godmother to her children (7 & 17) and have made every effort to keep up contact with them.

As far as I am concerned she has blown it now & DD now has another godmother who thinks the world of her.

Sorry, should have added, I would see how it goes. I tend to think that if your DC means enough to her she will make the effort.

I hope you can patch it up Sansoucci. Some friendships are worth saving and I'm sure she thinks the world of your dc.

I agree some are worth saving and I tend to try and keep hold of mine but I have learnt from bitter experience that sometimes it is not up to you despite your best efforts and sometimes we need to let go.

i agree with some of the things been said. when iwas a lot younger, i apparently had the "proper" number of gps but one set of them never bothered after i was 7ish. although my daughter isn't baptised or anything (i now have a serious prob with "man made" religion - a person's choice is their choice) she does have people who are similar to gps. i'm so tired i don't think i'm making any sense at all!

you can't "divorce" them. You can't get "un-baptised" unless there was something about the baptism that would make it invalid - so for example, if your friend had lied to you about something and you asked her to be godparent but you wouldn't have asked her if you'd known, then I guess you could have her name taken off the certificate (although I've never heard of it and I've studied a bit of Canon Law!)but, tbh, I would think that most people in your situation put it down to a bad experience and find some other adults to be na example to your child (or whathever you want the godparents to be). They don't have any legal standing anyway.

terrified now as my bf is to be dd's gm, having her christened next month after putting it of for a year and as her gf is her uncle who's a bit of a useless lump when it comes to these things i want her to have at least one descent gp. (in case your wondering we're irish catholics so it's traditional for aunts and uncles to be offered gp jobs, which is why dp's brother gf, i'm an only child and it's considered odd to have two gps for the child from same side of family, hence bf)