Baptism for adult , presents & some questions discussion???

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My friends dh is being baptised on Sun, he has sent me the most beautiful testimony, we have also been asked to the house before and I think I will go to see the baptism in the church, (Ive never seen one being jewish), in the evening, to be respectful. Is it appropriate to take a present? And what do I take, if I should get a gift, for a 38 yr old man being baptised. I just want to not offend them.

I also wanted to talk more about the deeper side of all this ,as it feels that she is now presenting me a different persona .I totally repsect and love that they have found peace and joy , but its like I have to find a new way to relate to them. When I firt met them 2 years ago , they didnt seem at all interested in religion and when I talked of my spiritual interest I got a blank face. Ive also had a hard time making a real deep friendship and wondered if it was because of being a completely different religion ,a they seem very heavily involved in all church life.

I was baptised 2 years ago.

I was baptisted CofE and it was considered a special event in the community. The church put a buffet on and people bought presents. (They did a group of us at once)

Tbh though, i did it for the wrong reasons. I also had my baby christened and thought that it was the right thing to do. I went to church every sunday for a year and then stopped going as i didnt actually believe any of it. Was nice to take the kids though and still take them sometimes.

Im actually a spiritualist and went to a spiritual church for the first time a few weeks ago but find it difficult as children arnt allowed to go.

Why would children not be allowed to go huggybear?

They wernt allowed to the spiritualist church as the meduim might get distracted i guess (not really sure TBH)

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Books are always good or a little icon or similar picture or something. Is he being baptised in the Cof E? You won't offend them at all of you have thought about it

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It's great that you're going, but IME presents at baptisms are usually overtly Christian (fair enough) which would seem inappropriate (and I say this as a CofE person with a Jewish husband). I don't think a gift is essential at all but perhaps a donation or one of the charity 'gifts' that Oxfam, Good Gifts and loads of others do would be nice.

nice post bloss , I like the fact that you acknowledge my standpoint as will as theres.

I will have a think , I think he really will be grateful I have come. It is a very important time in his journey. He also shuns unneccssary material things. hmmm what about a great spiritual book that adds to his journey even though not religious faith based? I have some that are about god,but are more related to , eco living and better ways to interact in our world. I have spoken to him abot this book come to think , and he did seem interested.

IM not sure theyre CofE , they are part of an evangelical free church.

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You could just get him a card. Have you got a Wesley Owen bookshop near you? or there are clc bookshops. Both these would have cards for Baptisms.

ok thats a fair enough viewpoint Bloss and I woudnt want to give something inappropriate, its just a shame that particular religions cant see things from a different view point , but the same goes with my own religion, I dont think it would go down to well at synagogue!

IM not sure Im near that shop toomany, what does clc stand for?

would an ottakers have such cards may be ? Oh gosh sorry for all the really silly questions , Ive never had to buy anything like this before.

clc is the name of the bookshops, not short for anything.there is a website wesleyowen.com they have a list of where their shops are, sorry can't be of more help

I think a charity donation would be lovely. Cafod does great work in africa and you can help a poor child or family buy buying a chicken, school bag, a well etc. The website is cafod.com and the section is 'world gifts'. and i would personally feel very happy to receive a gift from a non catholic. It would be a lovely way of showing how you put special thought into the day despite being of a different faith. A sort of union of faiths if you see what i mean. My daughter was baptised yesterday and most of the guests were of a different faith, which i believe made it even more special.

MY DH was baptised and confirmed last year at the age of 45. The baptism was private but the confirmation, held next day, was during the main sunday service. The church held a wonderful party afterwards for the candidates. Anyone being confirmed has a sponsor. My DHs sponsor gave him a little candle holder - to remind of the faith burning within him. He found that very meaningful and treasures it. T