Christian words to help with bereavement

[alexandra65]

I am hoping someone can help. I am a christian although not very knowledgeable of scripture etc. My cousin in America has tragically just lost her 5 year old daughter to leukemia. She is a very devout christian. Can amyone help with some words that I can send her please.

I am devastated for her: her daughter was amazing.

Thankyou

I'm so sorry to hear your very sad news.

I'm not sure words are of any good in this type of situation really. Personally, I think she'd rather hear your warm words of love and being there for her and praying for her etc than having words of scripture. Words from the bible can be really comforting and good to hear at the right time, but in the immediate aftermath of a tragic bereavement such as this they run the risk of sounding like platitudes, like words used to try and make someone feel ok, where none can possibly. Be yourself and use your own words of love and comfort. I'm sure that's what will matter most to her at this time. Maybe a bit later on some words from the bible would be comforting.

Just my opinion though, feel free to ignore!

Thanks madhairday (good name!) I think you are right, I am writing her a letter and that will be personal, but just wondered if therewas anything else I could add. Words seem so useless but I am so far away there isnt a lot I can do practically.

tell her it is ok to cry or not to cry and to grieve in a way she wants. some churches can be a bit, don't cry because x has gone to heaven. be there and listen. talk about dd if she wants. and remember to call on anniversaries like birthdays because it will all come back again... (possibly)

Oh and give yourself time to grieve too, you have lost someone too.

Thanks Susan.