Give me three good reasons why....

[Podmog]

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I don't know as I don't know your church

If you're unhappy why not try another church?

I have to agree - if you're not getting what you need there, try another church.

Talk to someone at the church about your feelings and if you still feel the same go somewhere new.

Or to put it another way -

If you don't like the soap, don't stop washing, just change to a different make!

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ah, bit different if your dh is warden. The vicar doesn't seem to be behaving very weel. He has a pastorla duty towrds you and should be responding to your problems.

Can you tell us what has happened or would you prefer not to?

so many vicars these days seem totally ill suited to parish life - to actually interacting with people with compassion and sensitivity. Why should you put up with the vicar's inadequacies when you deserve proper pastoral care? I would go to another church and explain to your dh you want to try another church out. Won't he understand? It is entirely your right to.

I'm sad to say that I gave-up on my Church several years ago as my so called 'family' there turned their backs on me at a time I needed them most and fasley accused me of having an affair (or trying to have one) with one of the church elders .

The accusations were completely untrue and it felt like my life had been destroyed for a while. I did try a couple of other churches but one was closely linked with the previous church and they sometimes had joint meetings and I was warned by someone from the church not to attend as it would be difficult.

I felt as if I was being treated like the 'devil incarnate' and I had done nothing wrong!

I landed up having to have counsling (sp?) and was on AD's and I was having panic attacks.

Now I am happy and I know it wasn't my fault but I don't think I will ever go back to a church community, I still believe in God and his Son but as for the church as a caring institution, in my experience forget it, I know I should forgive them and up to a point I do but I can't forget how my life was destroyed by people who should have known better.

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That was exactly what hurt me, the people I considered to be my Family all started to judge me and fasley accuse me and it hurt so much.

In my own situation, a very much respected man from the church confessed to me that he had been cheating on his wife to fulfil some bordering on violent sexual urges. He told me that he thought he was demonised and he was a danger to women.

I was terrified (I had been raped 7 years before) I didn't know what to think or what to do. I told him that I was sorry but I couldn't help him but I would pray for him and suggested that he should talk to the Pastor. I then avoided him as much as I could but he 'cornered' me in the sunday school so I asked him if he had spoken to the Pastor, he said he hadn't.

I prayed and prayed about this and looked to the bible and thought that I should go to the elder of the church (the fact that he told me that he was a danger to women was playing on my mind).

I spoke to the elder about it, I didn't want to go to his wife (I was very cose to her at the time but because of the nature of the situation I didn't want her involved).

The next thing I know we were being accused of having secrets, then we were accused of having a affair!!!!!!

I hope that things get better for you podmog, I know I haven't helped but its one of those things that does bother me from time to time.