Confirmation.

[EccentricaGallumbits]

DD1 is getting confirmed next month - DD2 might be too (if she still wants to then).

What should she/they wear? when I was confirmed it was a white dress with veil. DD is hoping this is not the case now.

should we have a party afterwards?

Really, whatever she wants and you can agree on. Something smart so she can remember it being an occasion, and also if photos are taken with the bishop or family, or whatever.

It doesn't have to be white. None of mine wore white - just smart outfits.

We all had to wear our school uniform. Only white dress and veil for 1st Communion. So, yes, anything really

also - i thought a present of some jewellery would be nice - perhaps a necklace? what do you think?

Yes, I think necklace (or any jewellery) would be lovely.

Mine got bibles and something else; the girls got necklaces.There are also some v good "how to pray" books which have lots of pre-written prayers that can help if your children are likely to continue practising their faith in this way.

Check with anyone else invited to the confirmation connected with your DD, just in case they are buying something: you don't want to double-up. One of my daughters had two necklaces bought for her by her two godmothers, entirely separately, and the necklaces were pretty much identical.

We didn't have parties afterwards as on each occasion there was a bun fight for everyone back at the church hall. If we had family or godparents staying from further afield, they came back to ours after that for coffee and cake. You might order a special cake maybe?

We have all just worn ordinary, smart-casual, clothes. DS2 is being confirmed next month and he will wear shorts and tee-shirt as he is being dunked as he reaffirms his baptism vows. He will change into whatever teenagers choose for themselves to wear.

It is definitely right to celebrate, but we have found that the church puts on a celebration for everyone involved. It is great if the godparents can make it too, so if they don't want to go to the church celebration, you can have your own little one at home or a restaurant for your family.

the last confirmation I went to was 2 years ago, and all the candidates just wore their best clothes/nice outfits.

no need to wear white and no veils anymore!