healing from heartbreak after betrayal

[meemar]

Hi everyone, I've been a regular on mn for about 4 years but in the past 6 months not been around at all as my life has been turned completely upside down and I'm turning it around with my own spiritual growth.

In February I discovered my husband was having an affair. He left me for her. We have 3 children aged 7, 4 and a baby.

I really wanted to direct anyone going through heartbreak and seeking a way through, to look at a blog I've recently started. I want to be able to give support and comfort for anyone going through the same.

If it's of help to anyone then I'll be very happy

Meemar, good on you my love! :)

Thank you , I'm enjoying writing it and it is helping me with my own healing too.

Been informed by friends that the section for leaving comments wasn't activated so I've just sorted that out. I hope it's working now - techy stuff is not my strong point!

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hi, thought I'd bump this. Hoping it will be helpful for any women out there going through this. Am midway through another post and felt inspired to pass it on

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Will have a look meemar,have gone thru a similar thing myself this year,although alcohol and general hedonism seems to be the reason for my X leaving me and 2 young dcs .It has been a journey of self growth and realising the strength of positivity .Sending you peace x

meemar do you mind if i let the ladies on the ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No.7 [relationships] know about your blog, i think it is very honest and uplifting.Somebody said to me it was a "gift" that we split and although it is difficult to comprehend at the start ,i am closer to my true life path than i ever have been before.It will always be a work in progress but i am a free spirit now with 2 little bundles of energy ,the 3 of us are a positive little family x

patience - of course I don't mind. I would like to reach as many women in the same situation as possible.

I completely know where you are coming from. Sometimes it is so hard to see it as the "gift" that it is. But, like you, I am freer now than I have ever been. I feel like I am becoming the person I was meant to be.

I shall have a nosey on the thread too

Love to you x

That is so kind meemar.I have had such an amazing spiritual journey in this past year.I have always had a sense of inner turmoil and to allow myself to free myself from the burdens that i carried has been so liberating.I love your notes on forgiving the soul although i would love you to write me an even easier explanation if that makes sense.I am starting my phase of acceptance now i feel and i have worked alot on forgiving my X .I see it as putting the past in ajar and putting a lid on it and leaving the pain in that jar and not going back to that place now ,but instead moving forwards.But when you mentioned forgiving the soul i burst into tears.For all the negativity that my X held onto we still both had a strong connection through nature ,and i think that when you are young you think you can work through the bad bits,I suppose i wanted to just see the good bits too and forgive the bad.But now i realise it takes two people to make a marriage and it should be a thing of mutual love and respect and in the end i had to let go.Much Love to you and thankyou once again
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ps the thread is a great read i guess that is my blog ,i come in on ANRTR no2 [about Feb 2010]and i started out as Maybees .

OP i read your blogg,wow,i'm sure you are going to help a lot of people,thank you

Thank you Meemar, I think your blog is wonderful. I'm in the same position. I saw it via our thread in relationships (through Patience)

Why don't you re post it in 'Relationships' where lots and lots of people will see it and bennefit from your wisdom.

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Thanks for your lovely comments. I will post in relationships thanks pinksmarties x

patience - I totally know what you mean about the strong soul connection. I still have it with my x, but it has been disconnected through the path he has chosen. I can't spend my life trying to understand or reconnect that bond. I am now following my path and trying not to work out what his life lesson is all about.

I will try to think of an easier explanation about the forgiveness - it's very hard to get my own head around sometimes. What I wrote came to me in a moment of clarity, from a place almost of higher knowledge where logic doesn't work! I had to write it down immediately before I forgot it.

Have you read this story by Neal Donald Walsch? My children have it and when I read it to my boys recently it made me cry. It gives a beautiful understanding of life path and forgiveness - I think I might put it on the blog

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That is so true Meemar ,we have to work on our own life lesson and they are independent of us .I had to let it go because ultimately he does not see me with him on his journey now.But i also know i don't want to be on the road that he has chosen to take ,i will not find joy and peace with him.So onwards and upwards ,will take a look at your link ,thankyou again x