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Cat advice please

26 replies

cococake · 28/03/2010 07:58

My dc are older now, and we would love to get a cat.

My question is what is the best way to find a cat, and can older cats become attached to a new family or do they remain aloof?

Is it better to get a pedigree or not? If a pedigree, which breed would be best for a house cat? It wouldn't be a true house cat as we have a large garden, but I would like the cat to be a homely type rather than a wanderer.

Any advice gratefully received.

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peggotty · 28/03/2010 08:09

I would go for an older cat tbh as you don't necessarily know what personality a kitten will end up having. If you get an cat from a rescue place you can tell how friendly they are when you visit them. Of the 3 cats I've cat, the friendliest were definately the adult rescue cats rather than the kitten. I think tom cats can be especially laid-back and friendly ime. You can't really predict whether a cat will be a 'wanderer' but female cats tend to have a smaller territory than males...

seeker · 28/03/2010 08:20

Please don't get a pedigree if you want a family, homely cat. I think the best possible thing is to get a kitten from a family that's let their cat have a litter, or who have got"accidental" kittens. That way you know they've been handled and loved and petted from their earliest days - and that's what you want. Even the best of breeders rarely has the time to socialize their kittens enough for them to be the sort of soppy cuddle cat you want.

cococake · 28/03/2010 08:27

Ok so moggy is the way to go. One all for kitten or older cat

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peggotty · 28/03/2010 08:31

Yes, def moggy! But also def a adult cat, honestly, you will get some real soppy lovely adult cats in rescue centres that get overlooked because of cute kittens.

cococake · 28/03/2010 08:39

Think its time to do a round of the resuce centres then to find us a new family member.

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peggotty · 28/03/2010 09:37

good luck!!

Hassled · 28/03/2010 09:44

I'd say kitten, male (and then obviously neuter). Of the cats I've had and have, the neutered males have the most personality and have had the most interest in being with humans. Kittens are surprisingly hard work though - it's just as well they're cute.

Summerhols · 28/03/2010 09:51

We got an older male moggy from a rescue centre, he is the most effectionate, lap addoring cat there is going. I would say that rescue centres are good at pointing out what cat will meet your needs as they will have lots to chose from and at the end of the day they want it to be as much as success as you do (to prevent you returning it!).

V. jelous of you going out to get a new cat

Northernlurker · 28/03/2010 10:01

Cats protection is excellent. We got our wonderful cat from there in January and this is our story in two parts

Northernlurker · 28/03/2010 10:02

Oh and while I was on the CP site I saw this which is certainly enough to put you off pedigree kittens

MarthaFarquhar · 28/03/2010 10:11

older moggy
there are loads in cat rescue places, and you can pick one (or two) with a character that suits.

kittens are very hard work to begin with. If you get a young adult cat they still have lots of life ahead of them, but someone else has done all the hard work.

I also disagree that getting a kitten means you will be able to shape them into a lap cat. DSIS has had 3 kittens, 2 of which have grown into lean mean hunting machines, whom she doesn't see for days on end, despite the family's best efforts.

My neutered male is a bit intellectually challenged, but very affectionate. His neutered female companion is brighter and charming but much more self-possessed. Love 'em to bits.

catinthehat2 · 28/03/2010 10:22

Adult rescue cat every time.

Remember going to pick up our two a long time ago. Young professional looking couple appeared, skinny, black polo neck arty types.

I thought - hoho you're not going to find any Oriental pedigrees here! - then they homed in on the cat they had reserved. It was old, shedding hair everywhere, a funny colour, with runny eyes. Amazing!

As DH says, the right cat will find you, not the other way round.

tulpe · 28/03/2010 17:58

I disagree with Seeker about pedigree cats. We have a British Cream and a British Blue, both of whom came from a local breeder. They are gorgeous cats and our tom, in particular, is incredibly affectionate and loving. He follows us everywhere - even trying to hide in the boot of the car as we load up for any trips away from home And he also follows us through the village as we walk the dog!

CarGirl · 28/03/2010 18:03

I also have to disagree about pedigrees not being friendly, as with all cats it depends on their personalities.

Abysinnians & somalis are well reputed for their friendly loving nature as are many other breeds.

All breeds have their own cat clubs and each of them have their own welfare people who help rehome adult cats. The cost is minimal, ours have always been £50 per cat donation towards the welfare wwork.

Our current pair do go out but are very very affection with all of us including the dc - somalis are pretty much bombproof.

Miggsie · 28/03/2010 18:05

I always get cats from a rescue home. There are plenty of cats there who won't get any love unless you do.

I hate the idea of people making money out of breeding animals. It is a horrible thing and implies that the cosmetic attractiveness of an animal to humans is more important than an animal's right to life.

We have had 7 resuce cats and currently have a stray that moved in (ironically a pedigree cat!!!).

They all bond with you, although it does take time.

CarGirl · 28/03/2010 18:09

I agree Miggsie I don't think I would ever get a kitten pedigree or otherwise there are so many adult cats out there that need new homes. Fortunately all my rehomed to me cats have come from loving backgrounds where life circumstances have changed. I would actually like my female cat to be a bit less loving.........trying to cook with a loving cat isn't always easy!

Ondine · 28/03/2010 18:12

I will agree with the majority and say adult rescue cat is a really safe bet.

I have 3 at the moment, two rescue and one semi wild cat. I enticed the wild stray to move in and although lovely she is skittish and aloof.

The other two came to me as adults, maybe around 6 years old and are very loving and fun. Also why support breeders to breed more cats when there are so many who are desperate for a good home in shelters?

Attenborough · 28/03/2010 18:13

I couldn't agree more with Miggsie. I also agree with everyone upthread who says that you should go for an adult cat if you're desperate for a lapcat - that's the best possible way to be certain of getting one. (I have one on my lap now who's looking for a home!)

We foster for a shelter and when a prospective owner comes to meet a cat, I can tell them about the cat's personality, its preferences, how it is with children / change / loud noise etc. IME, the fact that you're paying a breeder clouds the issue and makes them more likely to fob you off with a cat that may not be so well suited to you.

We've reared dozens of kittens for our shelter and shelter kittens are just as well cared for (I would say better, often, as it's done for love and not profit) as a breeder's kittens. The only downside to a kitten, whether from a shelter or a breeder, is that though they are fabulous, they can be a lot of work until they're at least six months old and you can't do that much to 'shape' their personality - even within a litter where every kit has been handled gently and often from day one, some will be snugglers and others brave adventuring wriggly types. If your heart is set on a particular personality, a kitten is a big gamble.

Toughasoldboots · 28/03/2010 18:17

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Attenborough · 28/03/2010 18:22

Oh, and OP -
don't worry about adult cats attaching to a new family. Unless they've had a hard time in the past (and fosterers will be able to tell), they normally adapt very well. We've found that the majority of our foster cats hop out of their carrier, explore, sniff us a bit and then sleep on our bed with us within 4/5 hours of coming home. If you want some advice on settling them in easily, there are some useful tricks to know.

catinthehat2 · 28/03/2010 18:24

...which are..(?)..bated breath....???

Attenborough · 28/03/2010 18:27

Haha! Didn't want to hijack the thread. Hang on...

onebadbaby · 28/03/2010 18:33

OHHHhh!! get an older cat we adopted a 7 year old moggy from rspca, she is now 15 and is simply lovely. She even loves our four year old, has never strayed, she sleeps on our laps and everything a cat should do. I don't even thinks she remembers her old life- she seems to love us.

Attenborough · 28/03/2010 18:42

Right - find out before you bring the cat home what sort of food and litter he's used to, and when he's fed. Try to stick to the existing routine for at least the first couple of days.

When you bring him home, pick one room to start him off in. Choose one which is reasonably cat-proof (by which I mean that there shouldn't be anywhere where they could get stuck while trying to hide). Be prepared to leave his cat carrier in that room for the first couple of nights after he gets home as it's a safe space for him to hide in if he feels the need. It's a much better option than leaving him to pick his own hiding place, somewhere dangerous or awkward.

We tend to use our sitting room and before we bring a cat home, we put out a picnic rug which covers most of the carpet. It's common for cats to crap in the carrying box during the journey so you don't want them stepping straight out onto your carpet. We put a litter tray and a bowl of food on the rug at opposite corners, and put the carrier down where he can see both as soon as he steps out. It's important that the food and litter aren't close together - they won't eat where they poo.

We pop the carrier down, close the doors to the room, open the carrier door and then retreat to the sofa. The cat normally ventures out straight away and we sit quietly on the sofa and let him explore while we're in the same room. He'll be calmer if you leave him to sniff around and get his bearings at this point instead of trying to stroke or handle him. Let him come to you. Be in the room with him as much as you can, but usually better to be doing something other than just watching - if you're reading a book or otherwise quietly occupied and keeping an eye on him from the sofa, they are likely to be brave enough to explore.

You'll know when he's ready for a bigger space than the single room because he'll show lots of interest when you're going out of the room. With most cats, this happens within an hour or two. However, introducing him to the whole house at once would be overwhelming and while he's new, I want him to be within dashing distance of the litter tray at all times.

I wouldn't bother buying a cat bed - a nice fleecy blanket is more likely to be used and easier to wash. Do get a scratching post and if you can, I recommend the Feliway diffusers - we usually have one running when we bring a new cat home.

When he's ready to make friends, let him sniff your outstretched hand before you stroke him. He relies on smell and will trust you more quickly this way. Blinking at a cat slowly is cat-speak for smiling at them. If he's shy oor uncertain, I often spend half an hour lying on the floor (to be smaller than the cat), which is ridiculous but effective.

I have other tips for violent/feral/hermit cats, but a good shelter won't let you adopt one of those without support.

beautifulgirls · 28/03/2010 20:04

Cats protection - fab organisation for rehoming and good advice.

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