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Our dog was run over at the weekend

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kwaker5 · 22/03/2010 08:36

Any idea when I might stop crying? I've never lost a dog before.

We moved a couple of weeks ago and he got out of the garden through a gap in the fence on Saturday morning. He was missing all Saturday then we found out on Sunday that a dog matching his description was killed on Saturday night, just round the corner from our house. The driver took the body away but we are really hoping he phones it in and we can have him back.

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Pumphreydidit · 22/03/2010 08:44

Oh kwaker, I am so sorry.

WkdSM · 22/03/2010 08:51

Thinking of you........... so sorry.
It will ease off but like loosing any member of your family, the good memories will gardually help you smile as you remember him.

Alouiseg · 22/03/2010 08:52

So, so very sorry. You must be devastated

brimfull · 22/03/2010 08:54

bloody hell
how awful
I am so sorry

throckenholt · 22/03/2010 08:58

our 8 month old puppy was run over about 18 months ago - the consolation was it was very quick and he knew nothing about it (he was trying to best a tractor - not a good idea !).

I cried buckets, after about a week I was about ok - still feel sad about it now.

You do grieve but I think you get to the acceptance and good memories stage quicker than for people.

Hope you feel better soon.

teafortwo · 22/03/2010 09:09

The same thing happened to a dear friend of mine's dog fifteen years ago. It was one of the worst days of her entire life and we still get a bit wobbly if we mention that lovely dog today. It really feels like his life was simply stolen.

PLEASE JUST - Let yourself cry as much as you need to - this is a REALLY horrible and terrible thing to have happened to your family!

We also had a dog die quite unexpectedly in our family two years ago (my mil's dog). The nastiest trick of nature is that humans and dogs love each other so much but we outlive them by so many years. With some dogs that extra tragic ingredient is that they even die before they naturally should!

We buried my MIL's dog in her basket and planted a beautiful big orange rose over her(she was an Orange and white Bassett Hound). The rose blooms very well each year and is a wonderful comfort to us all. When you are ready maybe you could plant something to remember your smasher by?

tulpe · 22/03/2010 11:19

How terrible for you, Kwaker

Agree that letting yourself grieve is important. And please ignore anyone else who tells you otherwise.

Marking his passing with a tree or similar would be a lovely thing to do.

saggyhairyarse · 22/03/2010 12:48

MamaGoblin · 22/03/2010 13:35

I'm so sorry - what a horrible shock. I do hope the driver gets back to you soon - can you maybe put up a flier so he knows where to come?

ChickensHaveSinisterMotives · 22/03/2010 13:41

I'm very sorry Terrible way to lose your dog.

FabIsGettingThere · 22/03/2010 13:46

I am so sorry.

Grieve as much as you want and cry.

He was a family member and ignore anyone who tries to say he was just a dog.

mrsfred · 22/03/2010 15:59

So sorry Kwaker. What an awful thing to happen.

oxocube · 22/03/2010 16:10

Am so sorry. Our beautiful dog (who was a 7 yr old rescue dog) died 3 weeks ago. We took him to the vet thinking he had a viral infection and later the same day, the vet informed us he had incurable cancer and had to be put to sleep the same day. I cried (sobbed actually) for about a week but can now think of all the lovely times we had with him. In fact, we have made the decision to get another dog straight away. Dogs are so special. Mine was a member of my family.

Vallhala · 22/03/2010 23:49

Kwaker I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how you feel, having lost beloved dogs to illnness but never to accident.

May your memories comfort you, thinking of you.

Val x

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kwaker5 · 23/03/2010 09:38

Thank you so much for you kind messages. I was absolutuely beside myself yesterday morning, which is why I posted. This morning does feel slightly better than yesterday morning.

The driver has not phoned it in but getting his body back doesn't seem to matter so much now. He was in a transit van so is probably a tradesman and will have disposed of him. Under the circumstances (no collar), he did the right thing. It would not have been nice to find him at the side of the road and think that someone had not stopped or bothered to try and find an owner. If it had been a weekday, maybe it would have been different. I think I would have taken the body to a vets for chip scanning.

We have to 'do' the garden this summer as it is a new build house so I think we may well plant something and get a plaque made. That is a lovely idea.

I just never imagined he would go like this. In my head he was going to be with us until he was old and creaky.

Thanks again. It is good to talk about it here.

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mad4mainecoons · 23/03/2010 12:48

Oh how awful.
really feel for you, what a sad way to lose a beloved family member.
just a thought, the Blue cross run a pet berevement helpline which you can call and get some support in getting through this awful time.

your veterinary practice may also have a nurse who is trained as a pet berevement counceller so maybe you could have a chat with them.

keep your chin up and try to remember the lovley things about your dog.

SirBoobAlot · 23/03/2010 12:50

So sorry to hear this

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/03/2010 14:55

kwaker5 - sorry for your loss

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/03/2010 14:55

kwaker5 - sorry for your loss

DontCallMeBaby · 24/03/2010 16:30

My neighbours' dog was run over just before Christmas - kids were telling people about it at the school gate, with a certain note of excitement (they ARE quite little, to be fair) while mum cried for a week. They have a new dog now, but mum still describes the previous one as 'the dog of my life'.

Really sorry for your loss.

thehillsarealive · 24/03/2010 21:48

sorry for your loss. nobody can say how long to grieve for - with me it was when i could remember the memories and smile mostly instead of tears flooding me.

Jenbot · 26/03/2010 00:11

Sorry for your loss.

charley24 · 03/04/2010 13:01

Hi Kwaker

Wanted to post and say how sorry I am, and I understand.

Our kitten died on wednesday the day before his 1st birthday by our road, we hope he was killed instantly and didn't suffer, I have heard most animals who die on roads are killed outright which is some comfort.

We are still very upset, have cried for 3 days but feel a little brighter today, we have buried him and placed flowers.

We have made the step of going to see some kittens today, whilst feeling sad/guilt, or little girls are suffering and we want to move the focus for them and for them to see we have lots of love to give another pet, now that we can only love Figs from afar.

Sending you a hug and hope things seem brighter soon xxx

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