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4 yr old Golden Retriever or new kitten? Oh, and 3 small dc... (long, sorry).

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BettyTurnip · 26/11/2009 12:42

We've been given to opportunity to take on a 4yr old castrated boy Golden, through someone DH knows from work (she and her husband have split, her ex was a shift worker so was at home much of the day, however the dog is now home alone all day so owner doesn't think it's fair on him). She approached DH about the dog as he'd already chatted to her about Goldens, we were looking into getting a Golden puppy but a couple of breeders advised us to wait due to the young ages of our dc (5yr, 3yr and 17m).

After being advised against a pup, I started looking into getting a cat instead and we're now on the waiting list with a lovely breeder for a Ragdoll kitten. We're due to go and view her litter just before Christmas to pick one, and will get it early Feb.

I was keen to get a dog as our dc are a bit wary of dogs and I'd like them to have a pet to get used to dogs at a young age. The kitten was a compromise tbh, as I realised that a puppy would possibly put them off dogs even more if it nipped and jumped up etc. This 4yr old G Retriever is very placid and used to children.

I know deep down that I would much prefer to have the dog (although I do think Ragdolls are gorgeous), and DH is quite explicit about it (he's definitely not a cat person). I suppose I'm just looking for a bit of reassurance from others who've taken in older dogs with (wary) young children that everything has worked out ok.

(N.B. I'm a SAHM with the 17m old, so would be with the dog at lot and the walking wouldn't be a problem, the 5yr old is at school and 3yr old at nursery 9-1pm daily.)

Thanks if you've waded through this .

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mumof2000 · 26/11/2009 13:03

Hi there i have 2 (mad i know ) chocolate retreiver labradore dogs , one is 4 one is 18mths
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got first one when DC were 5 and 2 , as a pup , very very good with children .
I do have rules in place for extra safety as i never assume you an trust ANY dog fully .

like children never play /pull dogs when there in there own bed .
not to play dogs with them on floor as confuses the real dog and something could happen ..
just general common sense stuff , but i do think you still need to do even though i really am sure mine wouldnt harm a fly ....but id never forgive myself if something did happen .

they are great familt pets one of the bet id say , they love being with people and around ,
always there for cuddles and love to .

but do need lots of walks .

mrsjammi · 26/11/2009 13:08

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BettyTurnip · 26/11/2009 14:42

Thanks for your replies - I notice neither of you said to go for the cat over the dog.

I had already prepared myself for the amount of exercise (even in gale force winds and snow!) and mess a dog creates when we were planning to get a puppy. I know it will probably still freak me out at first though .
MrsJammi - did you get your lab from a pup?

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mrsjammi · 26/11/2009 14:51

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geordieminx · 26/11/2009 14:58

cat cat cat,...although go to rescue centre and get a moggy or 2 please.

We got a rescue cat before ds(2.5) was born - never had a single incident despite ds liking to carry cat... usually by his neck ]

They are best friends...actually they are snuggled up in bed together just now, but its great knowing that worse case scenario the most damage the cat could do would be a bad scratch. IYKWIM?

BettyTurnip · 26/11/2009 15:02

I have been warned that Golden Retrievers are monster shedders, and that there'll hairballs rolling round like tumbleweed no matter how much the place is hoovered.

We had a dog when I was a child and I don't remember much mess (although my mother might remember differently!).

Don't worry about the hygeine aspect with your ds, just think how well developed his immune system will be .

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BettyTurnip · 26/11/2009 15:04

Geordieminx (I'm one of those too ) - I know, I know...DH really does not like cats though, he was definitely going along with the kitten thing under duress.

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SpringBlossom · 26/11/2009 15:21

We've got a Golden Retriever, she's 6 and she is the softest, daftest most loving dog imaginable. We also have a cat and I would trust the dog over the cat any day of the week - and I'm a cat lover by trade!

Our GR does requires a really big walk once a day (hour +) plus a couple of shorter walks and she does moult quite a bit BUT she's definitely worth it. I'm a pernickety house proud bint and I can manage to live wth it....I would say get the dog, I'm sure you won't regret it.

geordieminx · 26/11/2009 15:28

I have to admit my minx days in places such as Julies/Legends/Princess are a distant memory now..

Whereabouts are you?

I dont think many fol like cats until they actually get one. Anyways as a dh he comes last in decision making. My dh reckons he comes last in our house, after the cat, and of course he is right.

everlong · 29/11/2009 10:54

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Romanarama · 30/11/2009 13:10

we have just got a golden retriever puppy, who is the cutest thing you could ever imagine. I can't really comment on the mess yet as he's so little, but I was struck by the fact the breeder's house was not covered in hair, and didn't smell, despite her owning 7 adult golden retrievers and having a litter of 13 puppies. Ours is confined to certain rooms, to try to keep the hair and dirt away from our clothes as much as possible.

I think getting a 4 yr old golden is a good idea if you have little kids. DS3 who's 3 is scared of our puppy, because he nips and bounces. I can only imagine this could get worse as he carries on bouncing but gets much bigger. A 4 yr old should be quite calm, and you can see exactly what you're getting. Maybe borrow the dog for a week for a trial?

diddl · 01/12/2009 15:49

I´d say both if poss!

Do you have the time for a dog?

Plus somewhere to have it looked after during holidays?

CountryGirl2007 · 03/12/2009 00:11

If it were me and I was looking for more pets...! I'd have the golden and probably go to a rescue center and get a nice pair of cats as well :p

Do be prepared for plenty of exersize though, at least an hour and a half a day.

BettyTurnip · 09/12/2009 13:31

Sorry to all of you who replied, I left this for so long, been a bit busy as...we got the dog! He came to live with us last Wednesday and he is utterly lovely. I would happily trade in the three dc for three dogs like him - it's heaven being listened to and obeyed when giving out an order .

The exercising's not a problem (hoping it might shift some lingering baby belly and bum) and he's been fantastic with the dc, very placid and steady. I definitely think it's been a major advantage getting an older dog, he's very well trained and happy to lie downstairs dozing while the whole bath and bedtime shenanigans are going on upstairs. I'm sure it would be pretty hellish with a pup. He'll be coming on holiday with us next year (in this country), and if we do go abroad in the next few years, his breeder runs a boarding kennels too so he can go there.

Thanks for your responses everyone.

geordieminx - I'm in NE3, where are you?
"I have to admit my minx days in places such as Julies/Legends/Princess are a distant memory now."

Same here, although I was more one for the Cooperage and Stage Door. Lucky if I get to the local these days .

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BellasSparklyBaubles · 09/12/2009 13:34

Fantastic - am so very pleased for you (and him)

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