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Off to vet later - should we prepare for worst?

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ouchitreallyhurts · 06/05/2009 11:16

Our lovely cat is not looking well at all. she is approx 13 yrs old and until very recently was very healthy and well. When I came home from a couple of days in hospital I was shocked by her weight loss. she just wants to sleep all day and is off her food unless its something strong in odour (like tuna etc)just now she went to come over to me and fell over

yesterday she poo'd in my bedroom which she never does usually. have just got a bad feeling about things... to make it worse the other cats are lashing out at her and bullying her.

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bella29 · 06/05/2009 11:21

I'm not a vet but I was a vet nurse and there are lots of treatable conditions which could be doing this to her, so don't assume it'll be bad news.

Hopefully your vet will quickly get an answer

FabulousBakerGirl · 06/05/2009 11:23

Oh dear

Have you got an appointment for her?

Can you set her up with a bed away from the other cats?

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ouchitreallyhurts · 06/05/2009 11:25

Thank you bella and fbg.

yes 5.10pm - other cats are just stalking her everytime she's in the garden, probably why she's given up going to the toilet out there.

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RumourOfAHurricane · 06/05/2009 13:01

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Wigglesworth · 06/05/2009 13:17

Don't write her off just yet, she is elderly but it could be something treatable. Usually at this age it's the kidneys that start to go, is she drinking more than normal?

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ouchitreallyhurts · 06/05/2009 13:26

no, she's not drinking hardly at all. I've been giving her really mushy food to try and keep her hydrated but she's not going to her water.
she just looks like she wants to sleep and sleep and if anyone disturbs her they get 'the look' !

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FabulousBakerGirl · 06/05/2009 14:38

Good luck for your cats appointment.

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ouchitreallyhurts · 06/05/2009 18:08

liver disease.
Molly has been put to sleep on vet's recommendation. hubby just came home with empty basket and 4 dc's are devastated, as are we.
thanks for all your support today xx

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FabulousBakerGirl · 06/05/2009 18:12

Oh no.

That is such a shock.

I am so sorry.

ClaireDeLoon · 06/05/2009 19:41

oh I'm very sorry RIP Molly.

junglist1 · 06/05/2009 22:26

Oh no! So sorry, I know you want her with you but she won't suffer now

RumourOfAHurricane · 06/05/2009 23:10

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ouchitreallyhurts · 07/05/2009 09:16

I wasnt with her at the end because of the children, I feel so bad about that.
The children are all very young and it has hit them very hard - can't bring myself to read 'goodbye mog' or any other books because I'll be sobbing myself. any ideas how I can support them would be gratefully received

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pricklybush · 07/05/2009 09:37

Oh poor you how sad . We are very great cat lovers in our house and I am dreading the day...

I think you just need to talk about her with them, saying she is in a lovely place where there are lots of other cats to play with and she hasnt got a pain in her tummy anymore. something along those lines. so very sorry

purpleduck · 07/05/2009 09:51

I am so sorry
That has brought a lump to my throat

aDad · 07/05/2009 10:01

Oh, I'm so sorry. Sounds just like when we lost our cat a few months back, also to a diseased liver. We were all devastated.

Just talking about her is important I think, and how she was special to you all and that you will always remember her. Also with my DC who are 5 and 2, it took weeks for them to really realise that she wasn't just going to come back from the vet, no matter how clear dp and I tried to make it. So to be aware that it's going to take time for them as well as you.

Sorry rubbish advice but I think there is no easy way is there other than talking and listening to each other.

bella29 · 07/05/2009 10:11

So sorry

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ouchitreallyhurts · 07/05/2009 10:11

I don't think its rubbish advice at all it helps to hear from someone who has been through something similar with children of a similar age to my own. my 7 year old has used her usual coping mechanism and written a letter about how she feels, we have looked at photo's of Molly together and talked about ways of remembering her. she's just always been here - since long before they were born so that's a huge change in their young lives I guess.
they wanted to bury her in the garden which we would normally do (along with the hamsters!) but we are due to move in a few weeks so dh and i thought that innapropriate - now they are angry at the vet for "keeping molly".

thanks again to everyone who's listened to me rambling on, I know time and talking are great healers x

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FabulousBakerGirl · 07/05/2009 10:19

Maybe you could ring the vet? They might still have Molly.

KingCanuteIAm · 07/05/2009 10:20

I don't know if it is right for you but when we lost our much loved and still missed family dog, I told the younger dc that she was happy now because she could look after them all the time instead of having to stay home when they went to school etc. That her spirit watched over them and wanted to see them being happy, as soon as they were ready.

At the time ds was having nightmares so I told him that she wanted to help him with his nightmares and he should remember she was there when he went to sleep.

It did work, ds stopped having nightmares, although that was a gamble I suppose. My dc still talk about our dog, talk about her spirit and seem really happy that she is there and happy even if they cannot see her.

We are not religious and had not really discussed spirits/afterlife or anything before.

I am crying now at the loss of our dog and it was several years ago, it still hurts. I am so sorry for your loss, I can only imagine how you feel right now.

Chuffinnora · 07/05/2009 10:27

Ouch - Can I ask about the options the vet gave you? I've got to take my 15 year old cat to the vets today - he has a distended stomach and is listless. I'm expecting the worst but I've never put a cat down before. What options did you get for your cats body?

I'm sorry to hear about your Molly.

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ouchitreallyhurts · 07/05/2009 10:38

Hello Chuffinnora - I'm sorry to hear about your poorly cat too, I hope he has something treatable.

I didnt' go to the vet, I stayed home with the four dc's - from what I can gather oh wasnt' offered Molly's body but he was in such a state when he got home he might not have taken in what was happening.
Another cat of mine was put to sleep many years ago and we were offered his body for burial at home or cremation through the vet.
hth

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ouchitreallyhurts · 07/05/2009 10:40

kingcanute - I love that idea. I think I might borrow it from you! will tell the girls that MOlly can watch them now wherever they are
fabulousbakergirl - I might see if I can call the vet after I finish work and arrange for ashes if possible? then at least we can take them to the new house. my eldest was upset because Molly would never see the new house, at least that way she'd be with us.

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Chuffinnora · 07/05/2009 10:48

Thanks Ouch. It does help, although I'm sure when i'm there I'll be in a state too. I'm keeping my fingers crossed but I don't expect to bring him home today.

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ouchitreallyhurts · 07/05/2009 10:51

Its really hard - yesterday I knew deep down that something was wrong and had a chat to oh before he went saying "do what you know is right". but, when he got home i really expected Molly to be with him.

From my experience yesterday, all I can say to you today is try and enjoy your time together have lots of cuddles and spoil him.

take care

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