Can't stop being upset after my old cat died

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He has left such a massive gap in my life, I know things will get better but I miss him so much I had him for 17 and half years. Just feeling really low.

Poor you - I do know how you feel

Cats are fab - they ask for so little but they give us so much, don't they?

Sounds like he was very well loved

He was it was Boris you replied to my other post when he wasn't very well and I had the vet out. God I miss him so much I think it's just dawning on me that he will never come back well not physically.

So sorry for you. XXX

It is sad, pets are so much a part of the family. {sad] for you.

I am sorry to hear about your cat

I felt like this after I lost my dog. I cried continously for about three days.

We got a new puppy, which was a welcome distraction, though obviously not a replacement.

I still feel sad and realise how much I miss my dog when dd2 calls the puppy by her name.

It does get easier though.

I remember - Boris is just about the best cat name I have ever heard. I nursed a fantastic Boris once, and he was a real character.

It will take time, but you'll get there

Yes I got Boris and his brother Zed's names off an old atari st game called dungeon master, my son is 14 and although we have another cat Taz, Boris has been with him from when he was born. Zed used to go out alot but bozzy was more or less a home cat

Two of my cats have died in the last 3 years; one was 18 and the other 16. Because I knew they weren't going to last much longer, I'm afraid I heartlessly got new kittens before each of them died. This helped dd and dh cope (dh is hopeless with death - he will still be crying 3 or 4 years on).

Both elderly cats coped well, after about a week. In fact, the 18yo was helped enormously by the introduction of the kitten. She was senile and 'got lost' between the kitchen and sitting room, just across the corridor from each other, and would miaow piteously. The kitten would be out there immediately and would bring her in and take her over to the fire and help her settle. It was lovely to watch them; he was so affectionate and gentle with her.

That's lovely, I will have some more kittens in the future proberbly from a rescue centre or see what turns up on my doorstep. It's nice to have somewhere to go and talk my friends think it was just a cat so they don't understand needless to say none of them have pets

so sorry about your old boy.
I have had cats since i was 13 and they do become so much a part of your family, it's like hacking off a limb when they finally go. I have howled for the three cats I have had who have died- 2 were hit by cars and the third died of heart failure aged 9. took me a long time to get over them.

I know, some people just do not get it. I was lying on the sofa last night with my littlest cat curled up on top of me, purring wildly as I stroked her, and I can honestly say there was nowhere I would rather have been. True contentment

No such thing as just a cat, especially not at that age. Mine died four years ago, and I still miss her enormously. So you have all of my sympathy.

Last week my 20 year old cat made her one way trip to the vets.
I wasn't so upset at the vets like I thought I would be, but its the missing her that keeps having me in tears.
The vet said they scatter the ashes in the rose garden in the cemetary - we live in one of the old cemetary workers cottages so I'm very comforted to thing she will sort of be blowing about outside.
I am not getting another one as she was a bit tormented by the ds's (4 and 2) in her final years but am sure i will give in the first time the boys come home saying 'can we have a kitten?'

Thank you for all your comments, I am feeling a lot better, Boris knew I loved him and on the morning before he died I took him out in his bed in the sunshine and told him how lucky I was that he chose me as his friend I think he was getting fed up of hearing me talk to him we were out there for about 3 hours, when my son kissed him about 6 in the evening he miaowed so softly and I told him Boris was saying goodbye and not to be sad because he would always be around, wish I could be that strong now but I know it will get better. Boz had a good life and life long servants it's strange eating a full dinner now I used to just have the veggies now I get to eat meat.

He is around. And you will carry him in your head and your heart forever.

We had two cats from when I was about 3. Since those two died, the family has had 3 more cats, and I have had 5 others, including the 2 youngsters we have now. I will never forget any of them, and each was special in their own way.