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Settling our new dog in - your top tips please?

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Molesworth · 09/03/2009 18:55

Our new doggy is arriving next Sunday afternoon and, as a novice in the dog-owning field, I'd like to make the transition to his new home as smooth as possible for him.

He is a 6 year-old Boston Terrier, so we're not dealing with a pup here.

He is bringing all of his things with him (bed, blankets, toys etc), so will have some familiar stuff around, and I'm going to stick as closely as possible to the sort of routine he's used to in terms of walk times and feeding time. We'll also continue with the same food.

I've kept the first couple of weeks completely clear of any out-of-the-ordinary events (overnight visitors, trips away etc) so we have a chance to get a routine in place, get to know each other and allow him to find his feet.

The idea of a crate has been suggested to me but I'm not sure about that, because he's never used a crate before as far as I know. His owners say that he's very well behaved around the house - completely housetrained, doesn't chew - and he won't be left alone here anyway, or not initially. He's also pretty obedient (although stubborn at times) and will sit, give paw and come when he's called, although of course I don't know how long it will take him to respond to my commands, which gives me the nadgers a bit. I won't be letting him off his lead until I'm confident he'll come back when called.

I'm probably fussing needlessly and hopefully as long as his canine needs are met he'll be perfectly happy!

Any top tips for helping an adult dog to settle into a new home and getting off on the right foot would be much appreciated

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clumsymum · 11/03/2009 10:36

Oh, BTW a word about crates. We never had one for any dog before Posy, who came to us with her own crate. This was her space which she recognised, and we put a comfy cushion bed into it (she'd just had the hard cold base with a towel to lay on, before us ). She uses it still, it's her bed. We only shut her into it if we need to have the front door open (she runs off) for a delivery or something, or if someone comes into the house who doesn't like dogs (They don't stay long), and overnight, because otherwise she scratches all the paint off the kitchen door.

If the crate is comfy, and not away from the rest of the family, I think it is a very good idea.

bella29 · 11/03/2009 14:11

Hi Clumsymum!

Don't worry, plenty of us mad dog lovers here - you will feel right at home!

I agree crates are great things when used correctly. Non-doggy people sometimes look askance at my pup's crate, but he is often pushed out of it by my older dog as they both love the security and peace it offers

Molesworth · 11/03/2009 14:29

I think it's because crates look so ... prisony. I definitely want to make a den for Champ, but could it be something less cage-like? Would a pet carrier be OK, or some sort of indoor kennel?

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stleger · 11/03/2009 16:26

(Makes mental note to learn how to do a picture! I lost the ability to do camera stuff when we went digital. I don't have a camera phone either). I find dogs and cats fascinating, I live near the Irish Guide dog training place and they are doing 'autism dogs' now too. I saw one at lunchtime with his boy, he looked like a wolf - the autism ones tend to be crossbred 'strong' breeds who can stop escaping children. Meanwhile we are attempting 'stay' having almost mastered sit. Almost!

clumsymum · 11/03/2009 17:31

Molesworth - how about soft crates like these?

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 11/03/2009 17:38

DAP diffusers are meant to be very good. We got one when we got our rescue dog, she was certainly chilled out when she came - whetehr this was because of the DAP or whether she would have been anyway I don't know. But lots of people swear by them.

Molesworth · 11/03/2009 17:52

Funnily enough I've just been looking at soft crates/dog 'tents' on the internet CM (great minds and all that) - had a look on ebay and have put a bid on a plastic pet carrier (the sort that you transport dogs in on planes). I think this will be a good indoor 'den' and handy for transporting him if he's incapacitated for any reason.

Thanks for the tip about DAP diffusers stripey - will certainly bear that in mind if he seems agitated!

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bedlambeast · 11/03/2009 21:37

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Molesworth · 11/03/2009 21:41

[splutters tea all over laptop with mirth]

I guess I'll have a few horror stories of my own to tell soon aaaaaarghhhh!

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stleger · 15/03/2009 16:42

Is he there yet?

purpleduck · 15/03/2009 16:54

The dog whisperer says to ignore the dog for awhile - let him get used to you, his new surroundings, etc.

We rescued a dog a few years ago, and she ended up biting my dd on the face, i think from anxiety - thing is, the dog was lovely - I really think we handled it badly, and I wish we would have just let her be for awhile so that she got used to us. Obviously we had to give her back to the dog's trust, but I think she made someone a fab dog.

Molesworth · 15/03/2009 23:12

thanks for your replies (and at the missing the biting dog emoticon!)

Well, he's here! When his owners left he looked taken aback, and he has been a bit quiet and wary since then, but not showing any signs of distress (he's eating, weeing and pooing in the appropriate places i.e. outside, good on his walks). He barked a few times when he heard unfamiliar sounds (like the hoover falling over!).

A bit of wariness/quietness is to be expected though isn't it?

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stleger · 16/03/2009 11:30

Poor soul must wonder where he is, and who you are and where his mum has gone! (Mad dog lady emoticon). He sounds well settled though, and well behaved. Enjoy your walkies.

Molesworth · 16/03/2009 12:22

I know, poor little laddie!

We had a good walk in the park this morning - he is good on the lead with hardly any pulling, and he responded OK to other dogs. I will have to work on his social skills though because he tries to approach other dogs with a tense, excited sort of energy instead of a calm one.

Anyway, I think he's doing great so far

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stleger · 16/03/2009 14:29

Mine just wants any dog within range to bounce. I have to book the trainer.

Molesworth · 18/03/2009 08:48

Let us know how you get on with him stleger - have you found a trainer who can work with your boy?

I think we're getting there with Champ: he was doing brilliantly yesterday (seemed much more relaxed and happy), but then we had a bit of a setback when I had to take my son to the station in the evening, leaving doggy with my partner. While we were out he (the dog, not my partner ) went back into his 'sad' state that he was in when his other owners left on Sunday. He cheered up a lot when I got back, but then got 'sad' again when he realised DS wasn't with me (he'll be back on Friday). I'm sure it'll be two steps forward one step back for a while so I'm not going to stress about it (unless someone posts here to say I should!).

Oh and I am knackered from all the walking! Have been sleeping like a top.

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bella29 · 18/03/2009 11:00

No, don't worry Molesworth.

You will be knackered at first but soon you'll have thighs of steel like all us other dog owners

stleger · 18/03/2009 11:34

I have lost 3 lb without trying which is good. And ddog did a poo in the park (his first time, and ds refuses to discuss dog toileting!) There were no other dogs around so I let him off his lead, he decided to paddle in the mud at the edge of the duckpond. And had do have his paws washed. (PFD?)

bella29 · 18/03/2009 11:57

I cheered when my pup did his first poo away from home - much to my friend's dismay

Molesworth · 18/03/2009 13:10

haha @ "PFD"

I am boring everyone shitless with my droning about Champ

I definitely need some guidance re some aspects of his behaviour though.

He goes nuts with the barking when someone rings the doorbell. A few barks are good but I can't make him stop until the person enters, then he's fine (doesn't jump up at them or show aggression).

The other thing is manners when meeting other dogs. When he sees another dog in the park he freezes. I stay calm and relaxed (well, I think I do) and keep the lead slack. Then I either carry on walking in a purposeful manner, ignoring the other dog, or I'll say hello to the other dog's owner and let them meet (I want him to practice meeting other dogs, so I try to let them meet more often than walking past). When they meet I keep the lead slack and attempt a calm, 'pah, this is nothing' attitude, and he sniffs and allows himself to be sniffed. Trouble is with some dogs he then makes eye contact, his ears go back, he freezes and looks like he might go for them. I'm no expert on dogs but his body language says 'fear' rather than 'aggressive'. Sorry to ramble on, but I really want to be sure I'm doing the right things to help him improve his social skills/get over his anxieties when meeting other dogs.

Should I try to snap him out of it as soon as he freezes so that his fear/anxiety doesn't build?

Apparently he is much calmer off the lead, but I daren't let him off yet.

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Molesworth · 19/03/2009 14:23

Today I tried a new strategy when out on our morning walk with ref to the 'freezing when he sees other dogs' problem. At the first sign of him freezing I called his name in a cheery tone and rewarded him when he looked at me instead of the other dog. This seemed to stop his anxiety escalating because he was much calmer when he said hello to the other dog. I gave him lots of 'good boys' while he was sniffing and then rewarded again afterwards if he had managed a calm encounter. By the end of his walk we'd met about 5 or 6 other dogs in this manner and he was looking at me for his reward instead of freezing. I was so proud of him

We will keep this strategy up and hopefully he'll get the idea that meeting other dogs nicely = good things.

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bella29 · 19/03/2009 14:29

Good work, Molesworth! I am sure he will come on in leaps and bounds - perhaps literally

Molesworth · 19/03/2009 14:35

Thanks bella

I got the Bruce Fogle book you recommended, and I'm glad I did because I think Champ might be an overly submissive dog, so Jan Fennell techniques might not be the way to go with him. Maybe he isn't submissive and we're just seeing a bit of anxiety because he's come to a new home, but at the moment I feel that he needs to have his self-esteem boosted. Anyway, I'm very lucky because he's generally an extremely well-behaved boy (e.g. he queued with me in the boiling hot post office for half an hour yesterday without a murmur)

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bella29 · 19/03/2009 14:38

I think Champ's lucky to have such a thoughtful owner.

Will allow myself a teeny bit of smugness that Jan Fennell's 'every-dog-wants-to-be-dominant' theory is balderdash....

Would drone too but my two are awaiting walkies

Molesworth · 20/03/2009 22:46

Please join me in the droning bella!

I think Champ must be starting to feel really settled because he dared to be a bit 'naughty' today He pulled on his lead a few times and did his "I'm going to stop dead and look at you with my 'grumpy old man' expression, and there's nothing you can do about it" thing.

On the other hand, I left him alone for the first time tonight (only for about 10 minutes), and he was fine (I lurked silently outside for a while to check for barking).

He also discovered the delights of his kong toys today and exhausted himself with them to the point that he refused to walk when I took him out for his bedtime wee. He just had a wee and then looked at me as if to say "are you mad, woman? Walk? After that day I've had?", so we came straight back in!

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