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I have to get rid of my dog .I can't do it anymore.

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ComeWhineWithMe · 19/01/2009 15:53

We have had our dog 2.5 years,we all love him to bits when we get home he had come from a home where he was left alone for quite a while each ever day and this made him anxious it was also the reason she gave him away .With us he would hardly ever be alone certainly not for long periods.

So fast forward to now and the dog is only left alone on school runs and if I go shopping or to the library /friends house in the day .He is well fed ,happy and is walked three times a day and a good long walk once a day .

But whenever I leave him he poos and wees and I can't cope I have a toddler and I am pg it is making me ill ,the vet has checked he is fine ,we have tried putting paper down ,letting him out just before we go out ,leaving him outside (he is safe and warm) but he barks and barks and a neighbour has complained .We even spent loads on one of those plug in 's didn't work ,have also done the leaving music /tv on.

I have just thrown up everywhere after cleaning poo off my bedroom floor ,and wee and poo from the hallway .

There is nothing more I can do I am beginning to resent the dog and do not want a new baby crawling where he has messed I am dreading opening the fromt door to see what he has done this time .

He is a lab cross and is almost 4.

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missbattenburg · 29/07/2019 06:47

Christ there are some terrifying bits of 'advice' on here.

Anyone:

  • rubbing a dog's nose in mess
  • trying to intimidate a dog
  • trying to be an 'alpha'

...is full of bs. None of these have any basis whatsover in behaviour training or canine behaviour patterns. You might as well go around slapping people with broken legs to make them get better.

Seperation distress can be worked on but it is a long, slow process. You work with the dog to help it see being left is not a bad thing and you do so at the dog's pace. In reality that is likely to mean several sessions of leaving the dog for the shortest time you can before it gets upset - which may be literally 3 seconds. You then slowly increase the time over several sessions.

A dog that has spent years being distressed at being elft is likely to take a long time and several (hundreds?) or practice sessions before relearning it is not so bad.

That's why it's important to get a proper, qualified behaviourist in quickly and sot someone who just set themseleves up with a website. You act quickly and in a way scientifially proven to help and you are much more likely to succeed.

jooxon · 05/08/2019 22:52

Christ there are some terrifying bits of 'advice' on here.

Anyone:

  • rubbing a dog's nose in mess
  • trying to intimidate a dog
  • trying to be an 'alpha'
...is full of bs

Couldnt agree more. Jeeez, what a disgusting discipline to rub a dogs nose in it's own poop. This is not normal at all. It would not happen in wild dog life, so why do people think this acceptable in a domestic. Antone who does this is not a dog lover. Period. You would not do this to your young kids while training them ? Not only is it shameful to train a sentient being this way, you yourself end up with a dog in your house with shite all over its nose ? Make sense ? No.

And why is it when a dog has problems, that people give up and pass the problem on to to a doge shelter, and thence re-enforcing the abandonment issues you complain of. JHC, no wonder we have a dog probelm in this country. Its too bloody easy just to get a dog on a whim, and that chuck it back to a shelter when it doesnt stack up to your idea of the perfectly behaved dog.

jooxon · 05/08/2019 22:54

Cant edit the typos.

Sickofitall27 · 01/11/2020 00:23

Grow up! It's a dog, an animal not a human, or your child!

Ellmau · 01/11/2020 21:08

Zombie thread from 2009...

Beachcomber74 · 06/11/2020 09:59

Stair gate to contain him in certain parts of the house that aren’t tricky to clean?
If I was you I would re home.

Claphamlass · 06/11/2020 19:33

What a very difficult situation you are in. I’m sorry that you are having to go thru this. Have you heard of this company? www.borrowmydoggy.com/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5s3G1NPu7AIVg-7tCh0xrQHFEAAYASAAEgIY__D_BwE
You could join the company and give yourself a break and arrange times to go out without knowing what you might return too. It could change your situation and allow a little space to make an informed decision. Good luck. I’m a dog owner too so I feel your pain.

Creampancakes · 12/11/2020 15:51

I totally sympathise, it must be horrible for you. very sad. I am sure dog training centres can deal with this

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