Should we get a rescue dog, a puppy, or neither?

[GreenBox1]

I have 12 yr old and 18 yr old dd.
12 yr old desperate for a dog, 18yr old not to fussed but doesn't want 'a small yappy one'
I like dogs we had a golden retriever but not as a puppy. Highly unlikely we could get a rescue one in our area its majnly lutcgers and collies. So do I go for a puppy which sounds like an awful lot of work. Get a different breed rescue or just dont get one at all? I like the idea but not sure of the reality.
Our golden retriever spent alot of time outside, his choice and slept in the kitchen. Im a bit nervous about a dog barking and being unsettled at night. Dd 18 is autistic and I worry that if she doesn't get enough sleep could become anxious herself.
I want one but will I bring more hassle and stress to the house?

I wouldn’t get one if you just like the idea. You need to be certain that you have time, patience, money and space for a dog in your lives and your hearts.

Ask yourself who will train it, walk it , groom it, clean up after it? Can you support insurance , vet fees, grooming, food, treats toys etc.

Is there someone home in the day to be with a dog? Do you have an enclosed garden?
Lots to consider I know. It won’t be your 12 year old who is responsible for any of this it will be you.
I’d seriously consider all of this before you start thinking of rescue vs puppy or what breed.
People don’t tend to leave dogs outside all day. I know you say it was the dog’s choice.

The right dog can be an excellent companion for someone with autism in some circumstances.
Many rescue dogs need special care and attention and have behavioural problems through no fault of theirs.
Im not saying don’t but maybe wait til you are sure.

I echo everything @24Dogcuddler said. You need to be 100% sure you can commit to one. This will affect everyone in the household too so everyone has to be 100% on board.

Personally, I’d always go for a puppy when children are involved but that’s just me. Let’s face it though there are no guarantees in either scenario.

I would also suggest a large bread if you don’t want a yappy one. Most small dogs I’ve met are yappy/reactive, larger breeds don’t seem to have the same issue.

Im at home all day, large garden fully fenced.
Dh will help but hes at work all day so realistically will be me.

I don't find small dogs yappy. I've had a jack Russell and now a Labrador and my Labrador is way more barky than my jack Russell ever was.

I'd go for a cat anytime.

Really! Maybe it's just the individual dog.

Yes, we have 3 Lab bitches, 2 are quiet, 1 barks far more.

Any pet is a lifelong commitment that requires responsibility, care, love, and patience. If you can provide all four, then I wholeheartedly recommend bringing a pet into your life.

We recently got a rescue street dog from Bulgaria, she is so lovely, very funny and sweet, great with our cat, and kind of just uninterested in other dogs, kids, strangers, squirrels…
we had found street dogs were very sweet when we’d met them on various holidays.
we couldn’t find a rescue in England that was okay with a cat, wasn’t reactive or aggressive etc.
im on a thread with about 40 other adopters, around 90% have sweet, settled doggies.

Would you bring another child into the household, because that’s what you’re doing with a dog? It’s another ‘being’ with its own wants, needs and desires.

Puppies are work and need round the clock attention. Have you got time for this.
, as well as daily walks (or two if larger dog) , training, etc?

Can you afford a dog? A hundred pounds a month?

If you ‘like the idea’, then it’s perhaps not for you.

It will bring much more hassle and stress. I wouldn't bother OP.

I think sadly you might be right.