This is my first post, hello! Also apologies in advance for the long post, my main issue is in the final paragraph. The first two are kinda introductions/more info.
I have a female ragdoll, Susie, who is currently 9 months old. And early last month, we introduced a second ragdoll. A male, Chester, who is currently 3 months. Both cats I had the ages (recommended) that they were able to leave the mother. They were from separate breeders. I did lots of research into the breed before getting Susie, hoping for a lap cat, which she kind of was but I think after she was spayed I noticed she became less so. She was wild the first few months, racing around the house and banging into things, in the end I bought these calming treats which I do think helped. She has also caused such damage to the carpets and sofas, I feel she is unable to retract her claws and often gets stuck. But this isn't my main problem! (Anymore)
I have never had two cats at once before, (I had my first cat, a BSH, who passed back in April. My baby, who I still cry for) so I did lots of research, got advice from family members who have multiple too. I began with the slow introduction, which started with Chester being in a enclosed playpen, which didn't go too well, and he actually kept jumping out-despite it being quite tall compared to his size). So I then turned my room into his room and had him in there for over a week, I wasn't able to follow the guides of it being 3 weeks or more. As Susie would scratch at the carpet outside of my door (again causing damage) so since introducing them, they have always been supervised, until the last week or so when they run around in different rooms together. They have recently began sleeping together in the day too.
So my main problems: . At night, Susie has the kitchen/dining room which has all of her things, everything she needs (which she has had since we had her-after a couple of days of me sleeping in there with her in the beginning). And Chester has been coming in with me, so I haven't slept too much. Susie has become alot more relaxed, even before Chester, and Chester is super playful and jumps on her, I worry whether they are fighting or playing, as they bite eachother and I do pull them apart as I worry about the big size difference. As Susie is alot bigger, despite the 5 months age gap, he does roll on his back with his arms up, I believe this is the submissive surrender response. So, Susie for the last few weeks, Susie has began scratching and banging the door, when I believe this is a mix of her hearing Chester jumping from my bed, in the night (a jealously thing perhaps, which I feel terribly guilty about) I live with my parents so having them both running through the house at night would be difficult. Although currently we have been waking up between 5-6 with them, and sometimes earlier. I am too scared to have them both together in the kitchen unspervised at night, my dad slept in there with them both last night, just to see what they were like, however they were constantly jumping and fighting or rough playing and my dad barely slept. I have thought perhaps once Chester calms down, maybe they wont fight as much and I may feel more comfortable to have them in the kitchen at night. Before Chester, Susie is put in the kitchen 11pm, and let out around 8/9am depending on the situation which was her routine and she was fine with. Obviously now that has changed. I just wondered if anyone else has experienced this, or have any advice. I'm not even sure what I am asking for but I just needed to get this off my chest also I suppose.
I have attached some photos for size comparison:
Sorry for rambling, I hope this makes sense. I wrote it on my phone anxiously.