Grieving for cat whilst 37 weeks pregnant.

[daisyamy]

Last night we lost our dear cat, in a very unexpected and distressing way. He truly was the light of our lives, we were those people who treated him like a baby.

I know it’s really early days but we are just so heartbroken, for me I am now finding it particularly hard to see a happy time with our baby boy who is due in just a few weeks. All my expectations of how joyous I would feel are now just shattered. I know each day will get better but I can’t help but feel like my perfect little family life now is incomplete.

I'm so sorry. Over the years, we have lost a few cats and it has hurt so much each time. It does get easier but certainly, at first, it was dreadful.

I know it's easier said than done but do please try not to let this loss diminish your joy in your new baby. It's a time you can't get back again and I don't believe your precious cat would want that. Our pets want us to be happy.

Thank you, that has really helped to reset my mindset in a way. He would have wanted us to be happy, you’re right. God it’s just so painful at the moment.

How are you doing OP? We lost our cat suddenly last week in a very traumatic way and I'd love to hear how you are doing. We can't imagine feeling better or moving forward which alot of people can't understand

It’s difficult, I’m still really feeling the grief, but it has got easier. I still find myself heartbroken over it and don’t feel like our family is complete even though I’ve had my baby boy just over three weeks ago.

im so sorry to hear about your loss, its such a difficult time, and as you say I don’t think a lot of people understand. Cats are toooo precious, they can mean a lot to us and not everyone can imagine that. But it does get that bit easier ❤️ wishing you all the best xx

So sorry , our cat died after a long illness when I was also at a similar stage in pregnancy .
I tried to focus on the impending baby by putting the Moses basket etc out . I also consoled myself with the fact that our cat had always been number one and by passing before the baby arrived at least he didn’t need to compete with them .
It will be difficult just now
especially if your cat’s passing was more sudden . Take care of yourself and remember that you will also be hormonal just now as well , so certainly not an easy combination .
I also reminded myself what a lovely and pampered life our cat had had and that also gave me some comfort .

Don't beat yourself up about it. Your cat was a much-loved member of your family and it takes time to adjust. I still have a little weep sometimes over the girls and boys we lost years ago - they had such extraordinary personalities. Missing them is only natural (particularly one little cat who turned out to have severe neurological difficulties but was such a little fighter) and also understandable.