Is it wrong that my heart hurts from being rejected by our new dog?

[Meixi]

So our new female dog, we've barely had her for 2 months, i love her, i absolutely do, i give her loves, pets, attention, toys, chewies, and so much more but it feels like she appreciates none of it and i can feel the lack of love and i don't hurt her or yell at her. 🥺 it feels like she's trying to be top 'girl' of the house and i feel love from her to my bf, the other sad part is he doesn't even stick up for me (he never sticks up for me with his ex-baby mama either and in those instances having nothing to do with the child from that relationship. I've been dating my bf for 5 years since January of this year and it really makes me feel so alone knowing that i don't have anyone to stand up for me (adult-wise, since my 7 year old would stick up for me but he should be able to enjoy his childhood.) I never thought in all of my life that i would be bullied by a dog... in my own home 😭 and I've always been a kind, caring person. I'm the type of person that i will make myself metaphorically smaller so i don't step on toes and hurt feelings. Please if someone could help 😔 i just feel so alone and i need a glimpse of some hope 🥺

I don't want to read and run but it's completely understandable that it hurts. I think the bigger problem is your BF though. You should have someone fighting for you, you deserve that.

It's thoughtful of you for even posting and helps me, i also want to say your -may seem short- post does a magnitude of positivity to my mental wellbeing 🥺 i feel so alone, and it's not every day. He has good moments. But even when i found out that his parents don't even love my son and I (like i adored them but saw red flags over 5 years) i get we are not their blood but i see how they treat their blood grandson compared to their non-blood grandson. When i overhead the conversation between him and his Mom i ended up going and taking a bath, listened to sad music, and cried my eyes out because all I've ever wanted since i was a teen was to be loved and the fact i have a baby boy (my late husvand and I's son) it hurts worse when he doesn't receive the love he deserves. He's such a mini gentleman... Like how could someone not adore him? He has frustrated moments but he has those moments due to not receiving love like his 'brother' receives.... I am so sorry by the way, i went on a rant 😭

Two months is no time at all, it takes time for some dogs to settle in, trust and learn who is their person. My first dog was female and I didn't think she liked me either, I was the spare human for about 6 months and she treated my DH like he was her boyfriend, she just adored him. Then all of a sudden she began to follow me around, would cry when I went to work even though her beloved was at home with her and was excited to see me return again.
Keep loving her, your bond will grow.

I don’t think the dog is the problem, but is, understandably, a peg that you’re hanging a lot of other emotion on.

have you ever had any counselling?

You and your son are a family. They come in all shapes and sizes. I know it is not what you picture in your head but it can still be complete at that. And therefore different kinds of love, it doesn't have to come from a partner.
Imagine it was your best friend had written your posts. What would you say to her?

I have to get to bed but I don't want you to think you are alone, you aren't. Try to be kind to yourself.

None of this is to do with your dog. But you should re home her - projecting your boyfriends piss-poor shittyness onto your dog is awful. She’s a dog who you have had less than two months. She’s not bullying you. Get a grip.

The whole situation sucks, but claiming the dog is ‘bulling you’ is pretty reprehensible behaviour from a grown woman. Instead of blaming the dog for your woes, look at your scummy waste of oxygen boyfriend and get rid of him. He’s your problem.

Bur re-home the dog. She 100% deserves better than someone who accuses her of bullying. Christ.

OP, this isn’t really about the dog, is it? Are you okay?

Ditch this guy. You and your lovely little boy deserve better. Was getting the dog his idea? Do you live together?

Dogs have different personalities just like people do. Some are loving, affectionate. Some and clingy and needy, some are independent. Some are miserable. Some are nasty little shits like the Jack Russell that bit me when I was a kid.

Pets can also ‘imprint’ onto a specific person. One of mine adores my DH and doesn’t acknowledge that I even exist. When DH is away, it sits in the hall staring at the front door waiting for him to return.

You can’t take that personally!

I think you were expecting the dog to fill a gap that you’re feeling from your BF. And you are now projecting.

Unfortunately like so many posts on here, you have a DH problem.

Thank you Binglebong. If i would've posted this on other websites then i would've had people being mean to me 😔 realistically, he is definitely the issue. I'm a good person, who just needs love, like any kind mammal needs. I'm loyal, way too loyal. I really just want to find our tribe, my son and I deserve that more than anything. You see, i got married when i was a teen. He was the most amazing man that I ever met! Him and I were literally a perfect team. And he would always stick up for me whenever somebody was terrible to me. He would even stand up to a rock for me for goodness sakes lol jk but you get it! It didn't matter if it was a mammal or anything it was the morals that he did stand up for me. Our world came crumbling down when we lost him back in 2017, my son was just around 5 months old. Family was hanging out for a week and a half until eventually they had to go back to their lives, after that we were all alone. And that's when we started having users coming around. And it's my fault because I let them in... one thing I do have to say though is I've learned so much not thanks to them, but thanks to me for being able to stay strong for My son and I. I'm hoping I can work hard and find some sort of business that I can do, so maybe if I pray hard enough we will eventually find our tribe of people who will want to love us genuine and true... my heart hurts everyday knowing that the people who are closest to us don't actually truly love us. And realistically it's mostly about my son, he deserves as much love as their blood grandkids and kids 🥺 so we literally have each other. I know we do not know each other but I just want you to know that I truly do appreciate every word. My best friend has been helping us too but she can only do so much because she's got her relationship and Life to maintain... thank you so much again for just being a beautiful human. Humans deserve empathy as much as animals do, too 😭