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Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:06

Hi, new to this and unsure if correct to ask or not or if I am going to be the one worse off and have a lot of stigma towards me because I'm questioning the breed XL bully or XL pocket bully.
The problem being is my ex and his partner of few years (who they both hardly see my child) have now gone and got an XL bully along with another puppy. Now I hear all the time it's how the dogs are raised but I don't believe this I believe it in the dogs nature as they are dogs and every dog has it's traits and the breeds are all different and not one breed is different from it's own kind. So the XL bully has these traits and it's just going to take something to trigger there temperament. Now I know with my ex he was actually abusive towards my pet by physically grabbing her by the neck as a puppy and chucking her outside along with other things too (yes he was an abuser in our relationship, hence the "ex") so I know for a fact the pups they have got will be brought up under those circumstances as he is not a changed man at all and his partner is the same mentality as him and basically both cut from the same cloth as in the way they view things in life, I only know this as was a years for a court order for my little one and my ex now gets a few hours every other week with my child but unfortunately that has always been with her injecting herself on my child also. The problem now with this is she has said to my child to go to hers to see these dogs and I am wondering if I have a say in this at all and also considering the XL bully is a puppy the now, just to note the ex and his new partner also have her own children which I am confused at also as why would any women knowing about the breeds go and buy one for her home that has young children staying there. I am at a loss in what to do or think as there is a court order that must be complied with hence why I've turned to here to ask for advice.
My child has also let it be known time and time again he does not want to go with them even before the court order he does not like father because the way he has been treating him and it continues to be the same, my child has let if be known he does not want to go to her house or any interest in it that's before even known about these dogs and I feel it may have been there way to try convince my child to go there but my child was adamant which to be honest in my eyes is now a blessing in disguise.
Thanks.
Please be kind if you are in favour of the opposite side, I am just wondering others opinions and if anything I can do about situation if child is taken to her house under these circumstances.

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Theremedy · 20/01/2025 11:12

Keep your child home with you and let him go to the courts. You are safeguarding your child.

I wouldn’t care about the fall out.

Water41 · 20/01/2025 11:13

I wouldn't let my children anyway near them.

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 20/01/2025 11:13

Do you mean an XL puppy? Are you in England or Wales?

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:16

Thankyou for responding, there is already a court order in place that needs to comply with though, that's were I'm in a difficult situation, if I do not comply I would end up in jail/prison and it don't matter what the circumstances could be, and because they don't actually life together her circumstances wouldn't even be looked at I don't think.
It's so difficult. Really is.

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DeepFatFried · 20/01/2025 11:17

How old is your child?

Floralnomad · 20/01/2025 11:20

You cannot legally buy an XL bully in this country , puppy or otherwise so report them to the police .

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:20

I am in Scotland, yes it's an XL bully puppy and another breed of puppy under same house, I am worried my child goes between dogs and gets in amongst a major fight. Even not having the other pup still the fact of an XL bully puppy will grow and get stronger. My child is so trusting of dogs as well I have told time and time again to not put face near dogs or clap strange dogs but he is automatically drawn to them, he is getting assest for autism so dogs to him are comforting.

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Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:22

Child is 8

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12purplepencils · 20/01/2025 11:25

I’d take advice from Social services and say you don’t want to go against the court ordered contact but you’re concerned about safeguarding when dc is there.

Cheeseandapplechutney · 20/01/2025 11:25

My child would absolutely not be going there. Ever. And I love and have dogs.

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:26

Is that the same for Scotland? Are you not allowed to buy one in Scotland? However saying this I don't know if bought all I know is she has a puppy xl along with another puppy now.

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Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 11:28

I’m confused, is this an XL bully or a pocket bully?

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:29

12purplepencils · 20/01/2025 11:25

I’d take advice from Social services and say you don’t want to go against the court ordered contact but you’re concerned about safeguarding when dc is there.

This might be a path to take, yes I could contact them.
Thankyou but I know when I contacted previous stating child did not want to go they couldn't intervene as it was court based. But I could try and ask. I hate rocking the boat also with the ex also, he has a short fuse for people being involved, hates police etc. so always a worry as my child goes with him.

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Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 11:29

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:26

Is that the same for Scotland? Are you not allowed to buy one in Scotland? However saying this I don't know if bought all I know is she has a puppy xl along with another puppy now.

No you’re not allowed to buy them, as of Feb last year

Sophiasguitar · 20/01/2025 11:31

You can’t get an xl pocket bully. They can only be classed as XLs if they’re a certain size - 19” for a female and 20” for a male. Not saying the makes the situation better but he might not have acquired a banned dog.

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:35

Cheeseandapplechutney · 20/01/2025 11:25

My child would absolutely not be going there. Ever. And I love and have dogs.

I'm on same page as yourself, I love dogs too but from previous and continuous ownership I know that breeds are breeds end of story, from a cocker spaniel to An alsatian they all come with their own traits to there breeds. I just don't know what it how to safeguard my child fully over this.

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Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 11:36

Sophiasguitar · 20/01/2025 11:31

You can’t get an xl pocket bully. They can only be classed as XLs if they’re a certain size - 19” for a female and 20” for a male. Not saying the makes the situation better but he might not have acquired a banned dog.

Yeah exactly this, this is why I questioned it as OP has mentioned XL bully and pocket bully in first post.

XL bully is banned, pocket bully’s are not.

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:41

Sophiasguitar · 20/01/2025 11:31

You can’t get an xl pocket bully. They can only be classed as XLs if they’re a certain size - 19” for a female and 20” for a male. Not saying the makes the situation better but he might not have acquired a banned dog.

I think they are meaning XL pocket bully as in it's puppy the now.

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Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:42

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:41

I think they are meaning XL pocket bully as in it's puppy the now.

Thankyou for the information as well, this will help the situation.

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Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 11:46

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:41

I think they are meaning XL pocket bully as in it's puppy the now.

No, it’s a different dog. If it’s a pocket bully then it’s not an XL Bully, they are different dogs.

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:52

Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 11:46

No, it’s a different dog. If it’s a pocket bully then it’s not an XL Bully, they are different dogs.

I am under impression this is a XL dog/puppy from what has been said to me and they did say XL to me so I'm thinking they meant pocket as puppy. Now however I am unsure and is it a case of saying/do nothing 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:54

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:52

I am under impression this is a XL dog/puppy from what has been said to me and they did say XL to me so I'm thinking they meant pocket as puppy. Now however I am unsure and is it a case of saying/do nothing 🤦🏼‍♀️

Just to note was not my ex or her who has told me this, I have heard from someone else after being in conversation.

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Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 11:54

I disagree, I think they’ve probably just got mixed up. “Pocket” makes it a different dog, not just a puppy XL. You’d need to find out what the dog actually is. If it is an XL puppy then they should be reported and you’d be justified in having concerns about contact, if it’s a pocket bully then there is no legal issue and essentially it’s no different to them getting any other puppy.

Poppy2520 · 20/01/2025 11:58

Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 11:54

I disagree, I think they’ve probably just got mixed up. “Pocket” makes it a different dog, not just a puppy XL. You’d need to find out what the dog actually is. If it is an XL puppy then they should be reported and you’d be justified in having concerns about contact, if it’s a pocket bully then there is no legal issue and essentially it’s no different to them getting any other puppy.

Yea I agree, I am going to have to try find out for sure but my ex as I know him is a compulsive lier so it's a case how would I know the truth anyways 🤦🏼‍♀️ it really is a difficult situation.

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Katy7889 · 20/01/2025 12:04

Difficult situation, I can understand why you feel like this. And I would the same in your situation regardless of the dog breed.

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