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Moving unexpectedly....cat dilemma!

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MauveZebra · 19/11/2024 23:08

Hi, just hoping someone can help ease my mind about this really and see if anyone has any similar situations with positive outcomes!
I have two cats, one older lady who is 12 and is happy being mainly indoors as long as she is provided with food and dreamies when requested, and one giant two year old boy who I've had since a kitten and has always preferred being outdoors, even in the snow, but does love curling up on the bed at night and is a very affectionate cat! Currently I'm living with ex partner and both cats have access to outside, away from main roads and on a pretty safe estate. I am due to be moving out in a month, this is very sudden and I didn't end the relationship and so I have had to find a rental property pretty quickly. Cats will be coming with me as they were mine before this relationship. The house I have managed to get does allow cats however isn't a suitable location for the cats to go outside and would be quite unsafe. (No garden but a balcony overlooking a drop) My parents live in a larger house in the countryside, with a garden and fields surrounding it (basically much safer and better for cats) and have offered to take my boy in if he doesn't adapt to being an indoor cat which is really kind of them - they are ten mins away so I would be able to pop and see him whenever. I'm not as worried about my female cat - she mainly sleeps and isn't fussed by the outside, they aren't a bonded pair either really so I don't see an issue with her staying with me. I am completely torn as to what to do, this was the best and quickest option for me to move into for various reasons but I can't stand the thought that my boy cat might not be able to live with me, but know deep down it would be best for him to live at my parents house for a bit where he would probably be happier than suddenly being an indoor only cat (this won't be my forever home but could be a couple of years)....should I try and keep him at mine and see how he gets on or am I being selfish in doing this? Will he even care about leaving me or will he just care that he still gets dreamies, fuss on tap and still gets to hunt all he wants 🤣 just wanted some reassurance really either way as none of my friends seem to understand why this is such a big deal to me and why I wouldn't just ship him off to my parents without a second thought 🤣

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maxelly · 20/11/2024 10:55

Sympathies - it sounds really hard. I have to say if it was me, like you I would feel really tempted to see how he settles to being an indoor cat, some do so surprisingly well, but I can understand your reluctance - I think the big thing is your other cat, if he was to be really unsettled it could affect her too. I really don't think you need to feel bad if your decision was to send him to your parents, does sound like it would be an ideal set up for him in many ways and I'm sure he would settle there quickly. Not to say he wouldn't miss you, I'm sure he would, but cats do adapt well in my experience...

cheezncrackers · 20/11/2024 10:58

I think it's fine to have indoor or outdoor cats, but if you have an outdoor then he might really struggle to adapt to being an indoor. I think it's fine to try, if you want to, but he'd probably be much happier at your parents' place. My outdoor cat would be miserable if I kept her in and on odd occasions when I've needed to for medical reasons she's wailed at the door/window endlessly to be allowed to go out.

Kittybelle123 · 20/11/2024 11:04

What a dilemma, you poor thing. We had a beautiful big boy cat who was a proper wanderer but always knew where his home was. There would have been no way we could have “made” him into an indoor cat. My fear would be that it only takes a fraction of a second for them to slip through an open door - these things happen and they are crafty little things when they want to escape! You wouldn’t want him to bolt in an unknown busy area for all manner of reasons. HOWEVER I totally get how hard it would be to hand him over to your parents 😔 The upside would be: he won’t be far away, he will be with people you know will treat him well and it doesn’t have to be forever. Good luck with your decision and with your move 💐

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