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Please help me rehome my beautiful 4 yr old female tuxedo cat

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egyptianprincess · 20/04/2008 12:27

As I have just had a baby girl I need to find my cat a new home in London perhaps with a family with older children. She is shy but very friendly. She is currently an indoor cat but I would love for her to go somewhere where she could go outdoors.

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guineamango · 20/04/2008 13:21

Why does the cat need to go just because of the baby? If you have good hygeine standards and flea and worm treat your cat regularily there is really no reason to rehome the cat because of a baby.
If you still want to find the cat a new home, go to a good rescue centre who will find your cat a loving permenant home. Try cats protection league, Battersea Dog's and Cats home. RSPCA etc

edam · 20/04/2008 13:25

Does 'shy' mean she wouldn't stand up to children? (I don't mean children being deliberately nasty, just that they are noisy and make what cats consider to be sudden movements.)

Because we might be interested but our old cat was also shy and spent a lot of time hiding once we had ds. He wasn't horrible but she really didn't appreciate normal baby/toddler noise and activity. He's 4 now so still noisy from a cat's point of view (and mine, sometimes)!

Also, we are in Herts, so outside London.

aDad · 20/04/2008 13:31

Is it really something you have to do? Maybe your mind is made up, I don't know.

Your cat sounds exactly like ours - she was a rescue cat, very shy of people, but friendly, and still is really but has coped incredibly well with us having two children since.

And both children have learnt quickly not to mess around with her either. But she put up with the odd inquisitive poke or being chased by a crawling baby. IME the cat is always one step ahead.

Really, there have been very few problems and many touching scenes where they are all sat together.

Now our cat just hates other people's children.

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egyptianprincess · 20/04/2008 15:39

Thanks for all your messages. This is breaking my heart because I really do love my cat but she can be quite skittish and also she doesnt particularly like sudden noises or movement. She had one day with the baby (she's staying with a friend now) where she was seemed to be glaring at it...Im also very worried because as cats are so quiet it would be so easy for her to sneak into the nursery if I were to forget to close the door. If my DD were bigger I would be much more relaxed but she's just so tiny now. Edam- we are in north London so not too far from you.

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aDad · 20/04/2008 15:50

Do you think you should give it some time? Particularly as it sounds like you don't want to part with your cat.

I imagine it would take time for your cat to adjust, but your baby isn't going to be moving around for a good while, so it should work out that she is not that much of a threat in that sense.

I can understand you are concerned but I just don't believe there's anything at all to fear about cats and newborns. Would the 'glaring' not have just been a look of terror?

How about trying to see how you feel after a month? I reckon you might feel a lot more relaxed about the whole thing.

and congrats on your new baby BTW.

aDad · 20/04/2008 15:55

may have some tips to help reassure you

aDad · 21/04/2008 10:50

bump

because I realise I've steered your thread away from your initial OP...

FluffyMummy123 · 21/04/2008 10:51

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pinkyminky · 21/04/2008 11:00

I would give it time. My cat is very much like yours. As long as she has a comfy bolt hole of her own, she'll get used to the new situation. It would be shame for you to lose your pet.

bethoo · 21/04/2008 11:00

i have two cats and a baby and all is ok, you an get cat nets to put on the cot if you are worried about them getting into the cot. my ds adores our cats and they tolerate his poking and pulling and just move off if it gets too much.
it is hard ot rehome cats as there are so many wanting homes that your cat may be in a shelter for years.

MegBusset · 22/04/2008 11:34

The thing about cats smothering babies is a myth. If you are really worried then you can use a cat net over the cot while your DD is tiny. I'm sure she will stay away from the baby, ours did until after a few months she got used to DS and even let him stroke her.

Lovesdogsandcats · 23/04/2008 18:49

What a load of rubbish, I have always had cats and they do NOT bother with babies.

how stressful for your cat 'staying with a friend'.

Cats find it very stressful away from home. I bet the porr thing does not know whats going on.

Whats happening now? Where is she?

aDad · 26/04/2008 08:24

What did you decide egyptianprincess?

SmugColditz · 26/04/2008 08:28

You don't need to rehome your cat just because you had a baby. Cats don't care about babies. There is NOT ONE recorded incidence of a baby suffocating because of a cat. People used to blame cats for what was probably cot death, because cats like to sleep in cots - doesn't mean they caused it.

SmugColditz · 26/04/2008 08:30

She isn't glaring at your baby. She isn't capable of actaully doing major damage even if she DID want to, not without you getting there first. Your baby is at far more risk from your CAR than your CAT.

With all due respect (and I speak as som eone who went overprotectively NUTS after I had my first baby) you are not being at all rational. Get a cat net.

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