Is this normal protocol???

[AutumnalPumpkin]

So I've been searching for a kitten to accompany my 1 year old cat for just over a month. I've been quite picky.. but Sunday evening, I found a kitten for sale which was 5 mins walk down the road from me, and the description etc all seemed brilliant.
I was asked a large number of questions which I was happy to answer, and then the lady invited me, my partner and our daughter (4) round to meet the kitten yesterday evening which we did. All went well, and we are certain we want her. The lady said she could not give us confirmation yet, as she needed to speak with her partner who is currently working away.
I said this was fine, after all, the kitten is last in the litter, and they have raised them for 15-16 weeks.

Upon speaking tonight to this lady, she has said she would like us to wait until her partner is home on Saturday, and for us to come for another visit again, with our little girl.. as the partner wants to meet us as he has reservations about selling a kitten to a home "with a young kid" due to "their own experiences" (they are not breeders, and have not sold/re-homed kittens before)

I have said I will go, but I am worried that after all of this drawn out process and taking our daughter there yet again to see a kitten, they they may well turn round and say no, which will cause unnecessary upset to our child who is already very excited, as we hoped there would be confirmation after yesterday's visit.
I guess what I'm asking is, is this normal?? (Personally it's a first for me, especially having had cats from pets4homes before)
And WWYD in this situation?

I do t think this is normal.

when I got my kitten and met the owners. We chatted and I took my kitten home that day.

it is good that these owners are cautious and want the kitten to be safe. And yes young children can be rough on small animals. But they won’t be able to test that with another meeting of your 4 year old.

I would ring them, explain your daughter will get very upset if she meets the kitten again and then isn’t allowed to have it. So you are happy to go and answer any questions the husband may have then you hope they will be able to reach a decision.

You don’t sound like you’ve been picky. You sound like you are buying from people who CBA to neuter. Pets4homes is shite. Rescue is much better.
Some 4 year olds can be trusted with a tiny kitten and some can’t. I don’t blame them for wanting to see how you and your child interact with the cat.
Your 1 year old May not want a companion. We got two kittens together and they hate each other as adults.

I think this was great and find it quite refreshing actually. Breeders absolutely should be taking a great deal of care to find animals a loving and responsible home.
Just show them how well you will treat the kitten and talk about how you intend to educate your four year old and not let her treat it like a toy.
Good luck!

@Bellyblueboy I was aware before the first meeting that we wouldn't be taking her home that day, she said she needed time to speak with her partner and that was fine by me. My daughter was very gentle with her when we went, as she is and always has been with my cat. The lady even said how brilliant they were together, and she was shocked to see a young(er) child be so calm with a playful kitten.
Which is why it took me back when she then said I need to wait for her partner to get home (currently at his navy base) as HE had reservations.
I've explained the above to her, that it will be devastating if they turn round and say no, after such a positive meeting at first, but she cannot guarantee that her partner will want to sell (re-home .. it's purely an adoption fee) to us as our "kid" is so young!

@Wolfiefan I understand where you're coming from, however many use pets4homes as a rehoming site now. At least they do in my area.
The woman in question took In a stray pregnant cat, as she didn't want her to give birth on the streets, and then re homed all but one kitten to her family and friends so she could keep an eye on how they were doing. Surprisingly (compared to other people who are on this site) she immediately had them all vet checked and spent a fortune on an out of hours vet when they were born!
In regards to CBA to neuter, if you buy a young kitten (I.e. under 16 weeks) how are they meant to be neutered before you have them?
I got my resident cat neutered and chipped as soon as he was able to be, and would certainly do that again this time around.
He did live with a cat before, who sadly passed away, and we know that he is lonely, especially as I will be going back to work soon, and he'd be alone all day.

@drunkpeacock I did tell her it was refreshing to see somebody that cares so much about where they go. And it really is. You see so many people giving kittens away for free, to whoever asks first and they have no real idea about what home they're going to get, and they don't really care!
We made a great first impression, and I am just worried that now we've had to wait for her partner to come home, he's going to say no, when she could have just made the decision (which she did elude to) after we had left.

Kittens can be neutered very very young. We got girls and kept them in until they could be.
Hope this works out for you. Sounds like these people did a good thing and hopefully will see you would make a great home.