Hubby doesn't want another dog

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Our dog passed away 2 months ago. We have 3 remaining. I'd really like to have another one. The area where we live is in a real bad neighborhood. Break in.'s thefts, vandalism. I'd like a larger dog for security. But hubby says no. Our neighbor's rehomed their dog and were thinking about getting another one. But I don't know about the thinking part. Everytime I look at puppy Ads and show my hubby he acts like he's very interested. Then he says to me, "Why don't you call up the neighbor's and ask if they want one." All this does is make me angry and hurt. I mean don't pretend like your thinking about getting one, only to throw that in my face. I'm angry that I don't have a say in this and feel like I'm controlled. I'm sure nobody likes to feel that way. And I really resent it.

If you don't both want the pet its not appropriate to get one IMO. Maybe he feels controlled having dogs he doesn't want? He probably feigns interest because he's already told you how he feels and you keep pushing it. I care for our dog but when she passes on I don't want another one and since we share the house and the bills and the dog impacts us both I expect that we wont be getting one.

Your upset he has decided but if you got one wouldn't it be him upset because you decided? No great solution there but I would try to temper your anger. There is nothing wrong with you wanting a dog, but there is also nothing wrong with him not wanting a dog. You already have 2 other dogs so your pet needs are still getting met.

You already have three dogs!! Why don’t you focus on them?

Sorry - you’re being completely unreasonable. And I say this as someone with two (beloved) dogs.

Again - focus on the (multiple) dogs you have, and stop with the foot-stomping, toddler-tantrumming.

The person who doesn't want the new pet trumps the one who does. Of course you don't have to keep the husband. But the sensible thing would be to focus on the 3 dogs you already have.

Why are you looking at puppy ads when he's clearly told he doesn't want another?

You have 3 dogs. Surely that is enough? I don’t know what your neighbors have to do with any of this, but IMO people who ‘rehome’ a pet just to get another are vile.

YABVU to keep putting an apostrophe in the plural neighbors

A wind up/troll post at 3 am. It’s rather clear. Worth reporting to night watch.

I thinks it's very unfair of your husband. You should just get another dog... but why stop at 4? Maybe have 10?
Or maybe rehome your other 3 and get band new big dogs... for security ofcourse.

I think yabu. You have 3 dogs and your DH doesn’t want another. That seems fair enough.

We have 1 much loved cat that dh didn’t really want. Of course he absolutely adores her now but if I kept pushing for more cats, he would say no and I accept that completely!

Feeling controlled works both ways and when you disagree on something like this, you really need to take a step back and try to see things from the others perspective.