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opinionssoughtplease · 03/01/2023 21:36

Hello, I'd really appreciate your opinions on this please. AIBU?!
Eight weeks ago we brought home our beautiful new puppy. It was arranged through a rescue service as the previous owners could no longer take proper care of her due to new health issues. I really do appreciate their difficult situation, and the stress and loss they probably felt/feel, however am starting to wish we could move on now. In the run up to them accepting us as a new home for pup, they had lots, and lots, of questions, far beyond the standard, such as: will she ever be left on her own? Will she sleep upstairs with you? Are all the family as keen and kind as you? (Pup was going to be my puppy), how many feeds a day will she have? Etc. They and the rescue service knew that we are very experienced dog owners with much knowledge and a brilliant home environment for a dog of this breed, but they continued to imagine up new questions until the very last minute. Then they googled our address and didn't find it so phoned me to ask for proof and photos. Anyway, we eventually brought pup home, and eight weeks later they still text about once or twice a week to ask if she's still okay. I've always replied with lots of reassuring information and sent many photos, but I'm ready to leave that behind and just enjoy my puppy. I've not minded keeping in touch too much so far, and I'd never normally not respond to anyone, but their persistence and questions make me feel untrusted and anxious, and that one day they'll turn up and want her back!! I really just want to not respond but that might make them even more persistent! What are your thoughts please?

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cosmicbabe · 03/01/2023 21:38

I'm not aware of why they would want your address as that should be the responsibility of the rescue. However I would just reply at your leisure and hopefully they will get the message.

ACynicalDad · 03/01/2023 21:41

I would be mildly annoyed by now, I’d start to send much shorter responses, she’s fine, she’s lovely, long walk this morning, great thanks etc. I suspect they think they’re being friendly and you appreciate it.

ACynicalDad · 03/01/2023 21:42

Should also say I dont think many rescues allow this contact for good reason and some even rehome in different parts of the country.

LinesAndDot · 03/01/2023 21:45

Their messages come from a place of guilt and love. Perhaps try phrasing a nice message saying you understand the responsibility they feel as past owners to make sure [puppy name] has been moved to a good, new home, and you hope they feel satisfied that she/he has found the best one possible. That you love [puppy] more than you ever thought possible and can’t imagine life without them. You can see how happy they are in this new life, and you know it’s a good fit.

Then say, you are looking forward to moving on, you’ll continue to send updates on Sundays for the next 4 weeks, but after that you think it’s best everyone moves on.

Give them time to become unattached. It’ll happen. It’s annoying for you, I agree, but set some limits and end it on good terms. Everyone will feel better.

Anawilliam850 · 04/01/2023 14:01

I don't think it's correct to be giving them that information, but you could give it to them and if they continue with more, put a stop on it, and tell them that it doesn't correspond

opinionssoughtplease · 04/01/2023 17:37

Thank you all for your responses. Yes the rescue centre were very satisfied but the owners took it upon themselves to check independently as well. I haven't responded immediately to their last text, it's been a day now so I'll respond this evening, let them know that yes, she's still fine! I agree is like it to be positive and open, but it's time now for everyone to move n as this can't be actually helping them to do that

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thirdtimeluckyorwhat · 04/01/2023 17:45

Make sure you have all th paperwork proving she is yours and get the chip changed to your name asap. I woul take longer and longer to reply and keep the replies very short they should dwindle off then. I think that's really poor to give a puppy up at 8 weeks circumstances can't change that quickly surely

User4873628 · 04/01/2023 17:48

I think I would start replying with exactly that message "she's still fine". Maybe they'll get the hint. "She's still fine, no change from when you asked on Monday" etc

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