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My cat died

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Definitelynotem · 03/04/2022 09:25

Last night my beautiful cat Tiny died. It was completely sudden, at around 6 I noticed she was breathing quickly and slumped on the floor and at 11 we were told it was probably cancer, but that she most likely wouldn’t make it through an operation. I’m riddled with guilt, why didn’t we notice sooner? I did think she’d lost a bit of weight but I thought nothing of it. She was only 5 years old, and we only got 4 years with her as she was a rescue. She was my first cat and I genuinely thought I’d get twenty years with her, so this seems so short. She was pts in my arms, and seemed to be in so much pain in her last moments, how long had she been in pain? She was the gentlest, sweetest cat ever. She was so loving and knew to come and sit with me when I was upset, never scratched or peed outside the litterbox, always seemed so happy just to be near us. Maybe I’ve rushed the decision and we should have waited to see if she improved overnight, but the vet seemed to think it was the right time to let her go. Still doesn’t feel like this could have been the right thing for her, she deserved so much better. We have two other cats who didn’t even get to say goodbye. I just feel so lost and broken

My cat died
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Throwntothewolves · 03/04/2022 09:30

I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't blame yourself, you couldn't have known. Be kind to yourself today and in the days to come, it's heartbreaking losing a much loved pet Flowers

Motnight · 03/04/2022 09:30

I am so sorry for your loss, Op.

It sounds as though you did the best and kindest thing for Tiny 💐

Thesefeetaremadeforwalking · 03/04/2022 09:33

I'm so sorry.

She looks just like my girl.

Flowers
SallyWD · 03/04/2022 09:46

I'm so sorry. She was beautiful. You couldn't have known. The vet knew it was time for her to go. Trust their judgement and know that you did the best thing for her. I kept my lovely cat going too long it it was awful to see her suffering in her final days.

spacehardware · 03/04/2022 09:49

I'm so sorry, she's lovely. I doubt she was in pain and you didn't notice, if she had a tumour it may well have been growing in such a way that it wasn't impacting on her until right near the end - she would have communicated distress if she had been distressed before the end.

I'm so sorry your time with her was shortened - my brother had a dog who had to be PTS at age 5 due to pancreatic cancer, they were all devastated.

The loss of a cherished pet is a genuine bereavement, be gentle with yourself

elfycat · 03/04/2022 09:50

Don't feel bad about not spotting things, Cats IME are 100% fine, until they're not.

I had a cat I had a hunch was 'off'. Took her to the vet for a go-over and bloods but nothing was found. A month later she was PTS by the same vet who was nearly in tears for not finding her cancer when I first brought her in. I saw the vet checking her over and it was thorough.

I'm sorry you didn't get long with your beautiful cat. Don't second guess your decision. I've had vets say I could take them home for a night and I'm a 'no - do it now' kind of owner. Not another moment's pain or discomfort for my cats once the choice is made. It's what we do because we love them.

FitAt50 · 03/04/2022 10:20

Sending you lots of love, I dread when this day comes for my 2 burmese boys xx

SwissCheeseRentedChildren · 03/04/2022 10:25

What a little sweetheart. I’m so sorry for your loss. Flowers

lljkk · 03/04/2022 10:34

That's tough. We had a cat die suddenly in 2021 & still don't really understand why. Vet said they could keep trying treatments but he'd put down if was his cat; vets are better at knowing when to make the decision than us ordinary owners. Vet talked about difficulty of putting down his own young cat down, once. Vets are good at knowing when to prevent pointless suffering.

It helps me to know D-Cat had a many years of great life with us. His end was 3 days when he was slightly off and about 36 hours of being inexplicably very ill. You can't totally prevent death but you can make sure life is good quality. Our cat was not on a path to getting good quality life again. This is an important kindness to give to our pets.

tbh, one reason I've preferred to have multiple cats (plus the fun of 2 kittens at once) is that it's less of a blow if one dies.

FiveShelties · 03/04/2022 10:50

I am so sorry, she was so pretty. You made the right decision, you put her wellbeing first - it is the last thing we do for loved pets. You need to take care of yourself, it is just so horrible to lose a pet, especially one so young.

Definitelynotem · 03/04/2022 18:40

Thank you for all the replies everyone, it’s hard not to feel guilty at the moment but I’m trying to be kind to myself. I will always love and miss her so much xx

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Craftycorvid · 03/04/2022 18:53

So sorry for your loss and a big, big hug! She was so clearly a very well loved cat. 🌺

TroysMammy · 03/04/2022 18:57

So sorry. I had a black and white called Troy. He developed hypertrophic cardiomyopathy and 5 months after diagnosis he died suddenly aged 5.

Definitelynotem · 04/04/2022 21:32

Sorry for your loss TroysMammy, it’s the worst pain I have ever felt by far. I would give up everything to bring her back. 5 is no age at all 😢

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Emily199034 · 04/04/2022 21:34

So sorry for your loss. Loosing a family pet is never veasy but you have done the right thing and she is out of pain now.

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