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Boyfriend bought a puppy

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EC123456 · 31/03/2022 21:57

My boyfriend for Mother's Day bought me a 10 week old sproker puppy. We've had him a week and he constantly nips me and tries my child ( when excited or I'm playing with my child) I stop him so he never gets close but I really need some help on what to do, I feel so sorry for my child as the time he gets has been halved by watching puppy and picking up dog poo CONSTANTLY! Does it get easier? I just feel so sad that we don't get all our time together I also work but with my partners hours and parents the puppy isn't alone nor our child. My parents can't stand the pup and seem to make it harder for me😭 I know it's cause they want my son having all the attention but how can I????? Does it get easier??? My child when asleep the puppy is a dream and like wise I just feel so so bad and need some advice my son is 17 months old and the puppy now 11 weeks, does it get easier or what should I do? Please no negativity as this wasn't my decision nor did I know anything about it.

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Bagelbeagle · 31/03/2022 21:59

Dump the boyfriend, rehome the dog.

PollyPutTheKettleOnKettleOn · 31/03/2022 22:00

What was he thinking getting you a puppy when you have an infant?!

Yes it does get easier, but I'm afraid you now have two babies for the foreseeable.

I would outsource as much as you can - find a bloody good trainer to come and work with puppy to get him trained.

No shame in rehoming if you need to.

Feckaffoutofit · 31/03/2022 22:04

Depends on how much you want a pup. I really wanted ours and didn't find it difficult or a hassle. He does take up a lot of time with training, walking, playing etc. If you don't want yours you will find the amount of time you have to dedicate to him hard. Problems will arise if you don't spend enough time on him so I really would think about what you want. If it isn't a dog take him to a rescue to be rehomed as soon as possible as he will find a home and settle well no bother now but not so much when he gets older.

GregBrawlsInDogJail · 31/03/2022 22:06

Get the puppy rehomed. You don't want a puppy and you aren't equipped to have one with such a small child. Then dump your boyfriend for being terminally fucking stupid and arrogant.

Babadook76 · 31/03/2022 22:06

It’s only been a week and it’s making your life hell. The puppy needs to go back. Wtf was your boyfriend thinking?

wetotter · 31/03/2022 22:06

The boyfriend is severely out of order here - you just don't give livestock as gifts. It's only when all adults have carefully considered the issue and agreed, and have then researched breed traits and decided what types are likely to be a good fit, found a reputable breeder and waited for a litter with an available puppy.

But he's done it anyhow.

Two questions

do you want to keep the boyfriend?
do you want to keep the dog?

RoyKentsChestHair · 31/03/2022 22:07

An animal isn’t a gift, it’s a huge commitment that you make after lots of thought and research. Your BF needs to take the dog and find a decent home for it. You have enough on your plate. It’s not the poor pup’s fault but it should never have been given to someone who had no idea about it.

PollyPutTheKettleOnKettleOn · 31/03/2022 22:11

@RoyKentsChestHair

If her bf thought it appropriate to give her the puppy in the first place, I wouldn't trust him to find a decent new home for the poor thing!

megletthesecond · 31/03/2022 22:13

Rehome the dog and your unless boyfriend.

averylongtimeago · 31/03/2022 22:15

Puppies are babies- but highly mobile babies with teeth.
Yes, they nip, pee and poo everywhere and they need LOTS of attention and training.

Have a look at some of the puppy threads on the doghouse board!

If you aren't up for the 15 year (average life span ) commitment of a dog (training, daily walking, vets bills, spaying, kennels while you go on holiday, then re-home now.

If it's from a good breeder, they should take it back, but as they seem to have just handed it over with no checks, it's probably not.

If you do decide to put in the effort, have a look at the Facebook group: Dog training advice and support and read their puppy guides.

Wolfiefan · 31/03/2022 22:18

If you didn’t want the pup you should have told him to return it.
He’s an arse. No one in their right mind buys a puppy as a surprise gift.
Not sure what it has to do with your parents exactly.

Undecicive · 31/03/2022 22:21

To answer your question: it does get easier snd dogs are quicker to grow up than children.
But your BF is out of order for chucking more responsibility on you.

Iheartmysmart · 31/03/2022 22:27

Bringing a dog into your lives is a decision that needs to be made as a family not by some twat of a man who then abdicates all responsibility. Rehome the poor puppy and kick the useless prick of a boyfriend out of your life.

changenametimeagain · 31/03/2022 22:27

Rehome the dog. I'd get so stressed about having to constantly watch both, wouldn't trust any dog around a small child.

GettingItOutThere · 31/03/2022 22:33

rehome the dog - i would never put myself through having a toddler and puppy together.

it is hell

Lou573 · 31/03/2022 22:35

It doesn’t get easier. You will still be picking up poo and will have to find more time for walks when pup is older, with baby in tow.

womaninatightspot · 31/03/2022 22:37

Id give the dog back or to a shelter. No one should ever give a surprise puppy as a pet. I really wouldnt be keen on having a puppy round a toddler. I dont think its fair to the child or dog.

Figgygal · 31/03/2022 22:38

Your boyfriend is just the worst
The fairest thing for everyone is to return the poor thing to the breeder

And then dump your idiot boyfriend for being so irresponsible

Ohpeequeueare · 31/03/2022 22:38

What a bloody idiot. I would find the puppy a home that is better suited for it and that would then put your home back to how it is best suited to you and your child. Puppies are presents and I would question what my boyfriend was thinking buying a puppy you didn’t ask for for Mother’s Day!

Thesefeetaremadeforwalking · 31/03/2022 22:39

Please rehome both the puppy and the boyfriend and do it now

They are both immature and need more training than you have time to give them.

Your 17 month old child needs your attention more than the other two, so direct your energies there.

autienotnaughty · 31/03/2022 22:40

No it doesn't not for a long time. Our dog is one and we are still training him . We waited til our sonwas six to get a dog and it's still been really hard. I would re home while young.

TheUsualChaos · 31/03/2022 22:41

You don't sound at all ready for a puppy and it's better to re-home it sooner rather than later. Unless you put a serious amount of time into the training which is near impossible with young children in tow, puppy is likely to quite be a handful until it's at least 18 months. Sorry but your BF has been an absolute idiot.

Sunnytwobridges · 31/03/2022 22:43

Poor pup. Please rehome him with someone who has time and patience for him. And rehome the boyfriend for not even thinking about the puppy and his wellbeing and how you would handle it.

VerbenaVerveine · 31/03/2022 22:44

Crikey a sprocker is going to be hard work. It was ridiculous of him to decide that you're going to have any pet, and also to choose a breed that's known to be high energy. Rehome the dog while it has a chance - once it's a teenager (which is probably only 6 months away) it could be a real problem.

Bananalanacake · 31/03/2022 22:44

Do you live with your bf, does he pull his weight looking after the dog seeing it was his idea.

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