Putting my cat down - Broken inside

[Sydney0101]

Just here for some support from anyone who is gone through the same thing. Please be kind, I am really hurting right.

I'll just cut to the chase ..

Some cruel person, ran over my cat and left him for dead in the street. My cat managed to painfully make his way home.

Took him to the vets, he has broken legs (bone sticking out) , lost all his nails dragging himself home, broken spine, severe damage to pelvic and internal bleeding including his brain.

However, I had not gone around to getting insurance for him yet (I feel so guilty) as he was an indoor cat and he was relatively young so didn't rush to it but we had to send him to my in laws for a while as I am heavily pregnant and was having a few issues and couldn't tend to him how he deserves. However, I covered all his expenses and he was much happier being outside and a lot of things improved for him also.

The vet has said he is in a lot of pain and there is a strong chance he won't make it due to all the injuries and even if he does, he will most likely never be the same and he may be in pain as the damage to his pelvic was really severe.

Just to get him treated straight away cost us £1500 which I don't have and had to get half of someone else and find the rest of the money in a couple of days. Vet called back and said they can do a major surgery but the cost will be £5000 and that's not guaranteed that he will be ok again or even make it. Sadly the other option is to put him down as he's in a lot of pain.

We have had to make the sad decision to put him down as he's young and it would of meant years of struggle and disability for my cat. To make matters worse, I can't even go to be with him as I won't make it on time and I feel absolutely broken and wondering if I made the right decision.

Money wise, it's a lot of money and I would of probably tried to get a loan to pay off but and vet wouldn't accept payment plan either.

My eyes are completely red from the amount of crying I have done, feel so sad and broken and angry who could do something like that and not even bother to take him to a vet!

Aww OP this is utterly awful for you. My cat is nearly 8 and I haven't got around to getting insurance. She was really ill a few years ago and I remember crying in case she died mixed with worrying and stressing about the cost. She was fine but I can still remember how awful I felt. I think you are doing the kindest thing for your cat honestly and I'm sending you hugs as I can't imagine how horrible it must be. I don't understand people who can run any animal over and leave it xx

So sorry to read about your poor cat. You clearly love him, loads of people don't have insurance so don't beat yourself up, you are doing the right thing for him now. It is devastating, but it sounds like the right thing is to put him out of his suffering. I always feel it's the last kind thing we can do for our fluffy friends.

Be kind to yourself and take time to grieve . Sorry you can't be with him.

I got to see him on video just now as they put him down 😞😞😞😭😭

He kept turning his head every time I spoke.

I am absolutely gutted and makes you think j just how quick things change in a click. He was fine a couple of hours ago and now he's no longer here.

It was so hard to see his body lifeless as they put him down.

My family are trying to be supportive but they don't understand and keep telling me to stop crying or I'll end up going in labour but I can't help it, I'm hurting really bad and miss him and really loved him

Oh Sydney I can't imagine how awful that must have been, not sure I would have been strong enough. As far as he is aware you were there at the end, I read an interesting study recently about cats response to their owners voice

I am so very sorry you must be gutted. Just be kind to yourself it is going to be a really tough time especially with pregnancy hormones. You will find it creeping up on you when you least expect it. What was your dcats name? ❣️

I'm so sorry. That's absolutely heart breaking.

I absolutely feel your pain OP.. I'm so sorry to hear this. I have gone through exactly the same as you, RTA, and it hurt like hell.. Don't feel guilty.. don't blame yourself.. you did the best and kindest thing in the circumstances and that was to take the pain and suffering away. I haven't had furbabies for over 10 years now due to circumstances, and I don't have kids.. the void they left remains huge. I understand and send so many hugs xx

Op I am so sorry.
for what it is worth, even if he had insurance, those injuries sound like he would be in pain and distress for a long time, which is not fair.

I am facing having to do the same for our dog this week, through illness not accident, but he is only 7.

I brought him home from the vet this morning to say goodbye to my kids. It is heart breaking.

x x

Our dcat was pts in 2020. What If's are very painful op.. Don't be too hard on yourself op.

So sorry OP that your cat was run over and so terminally injured. Putting him to sleep was the best choice. I have had similar in that a loose dog attacked one of my cats and killed him by grabbing by the neck and shaking him. He was in our driveway just sunning himself. I saw it happen from kitchen window and I was shocked and by the time I got outside it was too late. Sometimes we lose them so suddenly and due to other people being careless. It’s maddening.
Cry as much as you need to. Being pregnant means you’re mot sensitive and no cryIng or feeling sad doesn’t hurt the baby. Ignore the people you mentioned in your OP that are making you feel guilty.

I’m so sorry.
I honestly think you made the right decision given the injuries your kitty had.
I think it’s a difficult call to put an animal through so much surgery and rehab, they don’t know what’s happening to them or why or that they may never have true quality of life again (more so when younger). You did the kindest thing xx

Thank you all for your really kind messages. I had taken the day off work as well and have been so consumed in sadness and constant reminders of him around d the house. I was feeling really really guilty yesterday and thought I've made the wrong decision but I do feel a little better from reading all your messages and reassuring me that I did the best thing for him and not selfishly for me.

I really miss him and honestly feel like a piece of my heart is gone with him.

I've been tempted to get myself another pet but I know it wouldn't be the right time atm and I need time to heal and raise little one and maybe when the kids are a little older I can give whatever pet I have all my attention again

Xxx

Oh golly, that is so sad, your poor cat. Such a cruel thing to just leave him so injured😢

I think you did the kindest thing, they sound like very serious injuries and I don’t think pets don’t manage pain and injury the same way we do because they can’t understand it. Your Dcat is no longer suffering💐

I’m so sorry for your loss of your dcat. He is at peace now and pain free. You did the right thing for him, sending you hugs 🌸

Oh bless you OP 🙏🐈‍⬛ You are clearly a wonderful, caring person and I’ll bet your cat was a very happy creature.

I have bloody adored all my furries (just rabbits & guinea pigs) and have been utterly bereft when they’ve gone - it was best he didn’t suffer. Please don’t beat yourself up about the difficulties around (extortionate) cost of surgery. The most important thing is you loved him and gave him a great life so cherish that.

You absolutely must get another animal as soon as you feel ready.

RIP beautiful Mog 🐈🌿🐾

Oh OP, I am so sorry.

From what you said it sounds like you did the right thing, regardless of insurance

You did the kindest thing

It hurts so much even when you have time as we did just over a week ago now. Our cat was an old boy, 19 1/2 years, but he had been ill for several years, though managed with medication. I found him collapsed in our bedroom on the floor at the end of my bed. I thought he had gone, but then I saw he was still with us, but only just. He then started crying and I knew he was in pain.
We called the vets but had to go to the out of hours. My dh made the call and managed to get them to reduce the costs as we too didn't have insurance and this month not the money. Our adult dds helped out with the costs and we took him in. When the vet put the medication in, he looked around at us did a huge purr and went to sleep. He looked so peaceful and we knew we did the right thing.
The first few days I just cried even when I didn't think I was thinking about him, like when walking the dog. It has got easier, but I imagine it would have been much harder if he had gone through what your cat has just done and at such a young age. Please be kind to yourself. He was your cat and he is now not there and that gap feels huge