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RIP to my sweet cat Pudding Pot. Did I do the right thing?

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ExcitingTimes2021 · 10/06/2021 07:35

I don’t really know why I’m posting this but the feeling of guilt and what I can only describe as immense pain is ripping me apart. Last week I noticed my cat was a little off, and wasn’t eating all her food but I just put it down to the increasing heat. However by the second day her breath started to really smell so I took her to the vests and they said she was in acute renal failure and wanted to admit her for aggressive IV fluid therapy to try repair the damage. After 5 days of aggressive therapy there was minimal improvement and the vets didn’t think she would survive much longer even with treatment as the toxins levels where so high in her blood and she was becoming anaemic. So we decided to take her home so her last few days so she would be in her own space with her own things.
She had two settled nights with us then on the third day she just stopped eating completely, was vomiting every time I offered her food, was weeing far more then she was drinking and just looked miserable, she didn’t want to move off our bed. We called the vet and he said said although he hoped she would have afew more days with us he thought it might be time to say goodbye.

We took her to the vets to be euthanatised but now I just feel so guilty like I cut her life short. Should I have given her more time or would the time she had left just have been filled with suffering? The vets can’t do home visits at the moment and she just looked so small and frightened sat on the vets table. We brought her favourite blanket and as soon as we walked in and put it down she tried to hide under it and that vision of her is just killing me. I just wanted to pick her up and bring her back home. I miss her so much.
I’m 8 months pregnant and she has sat with me every night through the pregnancy. When I was feeling crappy she would just sit in my knee and rest her head on my bump. I just feel so sad she isn’t here to be the big sister. It feels so strange this morning. Not being woken up at 5am with her demanding breakfast. I feel I have done the wrong thing. I need her back in my life x

RIP to my sweet cat Pudding Pot. Did I do the right thing?

OP posts:

milinhas · 10/06/2021 07:37

Oh OP I’m so sorry about your darling cat. You did the right thing for her when she was suffering.

JellyMouldJnr · 10/06/2021 07:39

You absolutely did the right thing. So sorry for your loss.

Gatekeeper · 10/06/2021 07:40

You poor lamb...i understand why you feel the way you do but you did the right thing by ending her pain and suffering

Gunpowder · 10/06/2021 07:40

I’m so sorry too. You mustn’t feel guilty. You did the kindest thing and it was selfless to let her go when she was in so much pain.

Gatekeeper · 10/06/2021 07:41

OP Perhaps ask Mumsnet to move this to the litter tray where you will get lots of support and reassurance

G3ntlemanJ · 10/06/2021 07:42

Oh, poor you It's such a difficult decision to make, isn't it? I had my cat put to sleep last year, she was 14 and had leukaemia. But in herself she was ok for a long time then one day she started vomiting, wouldn't move and looked so listless I took her straight to the vet who said they could do various things to make her more comfortable but euthanasia would be more kind. But she sat there, on the examining table, purring away and it was the hardest thing to do. But without a doubt the right one.

Give yourself time to grieve. I hope you feel better soon

Chemenger · 10/06/2021 07:43

You absolutely did the right thing. You gave her the final kindness. You are hurting but she isn’t, because you loved her enough to let her go. She’s at the Rainbow Bridge, free of pain and fear.

Nishky · 10/06/2021 07:43

So sorry for the loss of Pudding Pot.

Reading that I can only think you have been so incredibly brave- you put her before yourself and your needs.

The vet thought it was her time xxx

EdithGrantham · 10/06/2021 07:46

So sorry to hear this. I've heard the phrase "Better a day too soon than a minute too late" when talking about deciding on this last kindness for beloved pets, if you had let her continue she would have likely either had continued or increased suffering. So it sounds like you absolutely made the right decision no matter how awful it feels now.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 10/06/2021 07:46

As much as it hurts, you absolutely did the right thing. It was the last act of kindness for her.

I've been in your shoes and the guilt is awful. She was in pain, and couldn't vocalise it like a human can. You took the pain away.

Roystonv · 10/06/2021 07:50

Yes you did the right thing for your friend, never doubt it. She has been your companion throughout your pregnancy and now you need to carry on growing that baby confident that she is at rest but of course you will miss her. I have had to make this difficult decision many times with a variety of pets and it never gets any easier but as a loving and responsible owner you owe it to them to bring their suffering to an end. A few moments of confusion at the vets is better than days at home in pain. Bless you.

passmethemilk · 10/06/2021 07:56

It's so sad but you definitely did the right thing. I had to make the decision last year for one of mine so I understand the guilt. She is beautiful.

Stickytreacle · 10/06/2021 07:59

It is the last gift of love that we can give to stop suffering. I"m sure your cat would say thankyou if they could. Keeping them alive because you can't bear to lose them would be for you and not them, it is much worse to act too late than too soon. It is the price we pay for the love and companionship that they have given.

Roselilly36 · 10/06/2021 08:00

So sorry for your loss OP you have done the right thing. It’s a very sad decision to make, but something most loving pet owners have to make at some point. Take it easy over the next few days & look after yourself OP.

inigomontoyahwillcox · 10/06/2021 08:04

The way you talk about her makes me more resolute that you did the right thing - you clearly adored her, as she did you - and you made a very tough decision in her best interests, even though it broke your heart. To have kept her going, even for a few more days when she was clearly suffering, would have been only for your benefit.

Condolences 💐

BigCoat · 10/06/2021 08:06

I'm so sorry, but you did the kindest thing for her, the right thing. She's no longer in pain. I've been there myself and when this time passes you will know it was the kindest final act for a loved one . X

cushioncovers · 10/06/2021 08:06

So sorry for your loss op. You did the right thing. She was suffering and keeping her going for longer was only helping you not her. Please don't feel guilty.

InpatientGardener · 10/06/2021 08:09

You absolutely did the right thing, my childhood cat died of this although she was by the sounds of it more advanced than your Dcat by then and it wasn't a nice state for her to be in. Really sorry for your loss x

ContinuousMonotoneBeep · 10/06/2021 08:12

Oh I'm so sorry for you heartbreak.

You did the right thing.

You were very unselfish too, by opting for you to suffer emotionally rather than have her suffer physically.

OrangeSharked · 10/06/2021 08:15

Oh OP I'm sorry. Shes gorgeous!

But yes, you absolutely did the right thing. She was suffering. You tried your best for her and did the right thing when the time came.

JoanOgden · 10/06/2021 08:15

What a beautiful cat, OP. I am so sorry for your loss, it is absolutely heartbreaking, but as everyone else has said, you did the right thing.

Newnamefor2021 · 10/06/2021 08:20

I'm so sorry, you did the right thing! How awful though. Xxx

Babyboomtastic · 10/06/2021 08:20

Absolutely the right thing, and I'm so very sorry for your loss.

You took away her pain, and put it on yourself instead. That's love.

countrygirl99 · 10/06/2021 08:28

You did the kindest thing you could do for her and that takes courage sometimes. It hurts you but she is pain free now, that's true love.

Weeble09 · 10/06/2021 21:38

That's so heartbreaking, but you definitely did the right thing for her. Very sorry for your loss.

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