At my ends with my puppy

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No judgemental comments but after some advice as this puppy is completely driving my crazy. I have a miniature dachshund dapple she's 4 months old and I just can't cope with her anymore. I'm trying everything I can to get her puppy trained and nothing is working. She's wees and poos in the house all day everyday even though I take her out all the time she refused to do the business outside and the minute we get back inside she does it on the carpet. Even when I take her for a walk she doesn't do it outside she waits till we are home. She constantly chewing up my carpets rugs just anything she can get her mouth on again I understand she's a puppy but everything is getting ruined. I have a crate for her which I leave open for her to go in and out of but if she's in it she barks the place down for hours and hours on end relentlessly, and even if she's not in her cage and I just put her in another room while I try to get something done she's whine and barks and will not sleep in it so she's literally joined to me 24/7 and has to sleep with me which is so uncomfortable. She's constantly nipping and biting and honestly it's all just too much. I love her and I don't want to get rid of her but I just know if keeping her is the best idea as I'm already at my ends and I have a baby on the way and I have a toddler and thinking maybe getting her waSnt the smartest of ideas.

The puppy may NEED to be with you all the time. Have you looked at the advice on the FB group suggested earlier. Leaving a dog who is anxious when left creates a vicious circle where they become more and more worried. The advice from good behaviourists is never to leave them for longer than they are happy to be left. For now that may be not at all.
If you can’t do that you need to pass her to breed rescue who can find someone who can meet her needs.

I think some puppies can cope with being left for a bit, they’ll sleep. But our puppy is 13 weeks and really can’t be left on her own unless she’s asleep. We haven’t left her in the house on her own yet. And she needs supervised all the time when she’s awake so she doesn’t chew or pee. She’s s Velcro puppy and gets anxious on her own.

It’s exhausting and really they can’t be left. I don’t think you are in the right space for a puppy at the moment. They need training and being looked after.

And I really don’t think the PP who suggested tapping her on the nose ....I’d quite like to tap her on the nose.

You have to capture the wees and poos outside to praise her for them, or she'll never learn that's where she's supposed to do them. Get your coat, hat, brolly and stay outside until she has done something - however long that takes. Then praise, praise, praise using words that will eventually get her to do it on cue - I use 'good, have a wee'. 'Good' is said immediately she does anything at all positive, so she associates that word with doing something right, and can then be used with all other training.
You need to be stubborn outside, and not give in and go indoors too early. Good luck.

@Wolfiefan i didn't say smack I said tap

@TeaCakeAndCockerspaniels a light tap on the most sensitive part of their body?
Semantics.
Don’t hit your dog.

Hi OP, sounds like you're having a struggle. Perhaps rehoming is an option, but in the meantime this is what worked for me in training a breed of dog notorious for being crap at being housetrained. At first I failed with housetraining and my pup was still daily poo/peeing in the house. I got onto a dog trainer and this is what she suggested:

• 'Umbilical method' - put on a belt. Loop the dog's lead onto it. The pup stays with you 100% of the time. You see when it starts to give cues instantly (in my dog's case, starting to look at their bum in a surprised way for a poo!) It means there's never any 'out of sight out of mind'. I did this for 2 weeks, but they we could have stopped after 1 week because it was so successful.
• Making a HUGE fuss of the dog when it poos/pees outside. I also wore a bum bag full time (embarrassing) with some 'Rollover' treat inside (a bit like sausage meat, but for dogs). I absolutely showered tiny bits of this treat every time they did their business.
• Give a 'cue' to the dog when they're going. Mine was 'Go on!' So now when I say 'Go on' showing them outside they know what I'm asking.
• Know that when they eat it can often trigger them to need to poo. So that's something to keep an eye on.
• HUGE praise if they poo/pee on a walk. More treats.

All this worked really fast. We still have the occasional accident (perhaps once every couple of months) but it was great. I don't know if this is what other trainers recommend, but it's what this one did.

I didn't do crate training because the kind of dog I have is going to stay by your side at all times. I did have a largish pen if I needed to separate from them for a while. I have no advice on separation anxiety though.

HTH

OP, this is fixable but it’s going to be a huge effort and very hard work. As a few other people have said you May have to literally attach the puppy to you and have it with your 24/7 - can you do that?
I certainly couldn’t but luckily I didn’t need to as I had an “easier” breed.
You have a toddler and are pregnant, I really don’t think that you are in a position to give the pup want it needs to help turn it (eventually) into a well balanced and well behaved family pet.
Love isn’t enough with dogs, in fact, especially when they are puppies there are many many things they need more

TeaCakeandCockerSpaniels tapping your dog on the nose is an excellent training technique. It should teach your dog to bite your hand within a few repetitions.

Well Thankyou for all the advice anyway guys fingers crossed can get her all sorted

I have no good advice as I struggled for ages with my last puppy untill he just seemed to get it one day, although I hope she gets it soon for you! Good luck

With regards to chewing. Order the following for dachshunds on amazon - yak chews. Give this when ever you find her chewing something you don’t want her too, and also half split antlers. They’re natural and mine has only ever chewed one item of importance/wasn’t her toy. Dachshund’s love destroying toys, stuffed things

I’ve found crate training harder than teaching a baby to sleep all night.

Dachshund’s can not cope without company- she will follow you everywhere for life! Mine does- she does however now accept being left home alone at our home for a few hours.

Puppies are hard work, Dachshund’s even more so (I own one aged 2).

Buy training toys to entertain her. Don’t ever shut her in her crate if you’re fed up- she will associate it like the naughty corner.

If you aren’t ready it’s ok to find her a good home elsewhere.

Puppies are cute but they are a nightmare for at least the first six months while you teach them their manners. The housetraining part is hard work but the more work you do now the easier it will be in a few weeks. They ruin everything, chew everything and are worse than toddlers for a while.

I’ve had my pup just over a year and the hard work is paying off now. He’s still a ‘teenager’ and I have issues to resolve but generally the difference to a year ago is immense. Taking on a puppy is a full time job for at least a year.

But... once you get past that year you have a reasonably well mannered friend who will be at your side for around 15 years :). It’s worth the hard work.