Family desperate for a dog - partner allergic

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Hello - my kids are desperate for a dog. We do a lot of dog walking friends but this is not enough. I was raised with dogs and always thought we would own our own.
However my partner is allergic . I am asking if any of you have been in this position and did you have a hypo allergenic breed.
It's breaking my daughters heart not owning her own dog. She is animal crackers. Thank you

Who is the partner-is he your kids’ father who lives with you or a new boyfriend?

Even if the dog was hypo allergenic would your partner really be happy to share his home with a dog?

You sound rather dramatic to say ‘it’s breaking my daughter’s heart not owning her own dog’ . How old is she?

I’m very allergic to dogs and so wish l could have one😟

Non allergic dogs don’t exist. It’s not the heir or fur, it’s the dander they shed and their saliva that cause the problems.

I’ve asked the allergy clinic and my doctors several times, and they are all adamant not to have one😭

Please don't get a dog if your partner isn't fully committed to it. If you did get a hypoallergenic breed there's still a chance your partner could have an allergic reaction to it as it would depend on what his specific allergy is to so you would have to rehome it. Would your 'heartbroken' daughter be ok with the possibility of doing that?

What age is your DD? How severe is the allergy?

Most people are allergic to the dogs that shed and have long guard hairs. There are many non shedding breeds now that people who are allergic can get on with. See if you can find someone that has one of the poodle crosses and get him to give it a cuddle and see if he reacts

Thank you for the responses. I wanted to know of others who have similar allergies and if it has worked out or not . And yes it is very upsetting for my daughter - she's dog mad and has been from being tiny .

Some people find their allergies are ok with certain breeds, greyhounds are often one... but, it’s something he’d have to experiment with well before actually getting a dog - and it might well be that it’s just not a possibility.

How is he with cats? Oriental breeds like Siamese are very doglike, mine had tricks she performed on command and played fetch, they also actively seek out company from people like dogs do... might be an option?

I know it’s not what you are asking but why are you indulging your daughter so much about her ‘wants?’ My DS has ‘wanted’ all sorts of things over the years from a mobile phone when he was far too young, wanting a pet when I absolutely knew he would not care for it, wanting expensive trainers, wanting his own car the minute he passed his driving test etc etc. Surely as a parent your role is to explain that it’s just not possible to have everything you ‘want’?

Poodles give me bad symptoms, as do all the other allergy free dogs

Greyhounds do she’s quite a lot particularly during the summer though. Does your partner live with you? How allergic is she/he? If you are serious about getting a dog, I’d suggest researching the least shedding breeds and finding someone local who allows home visits to test the waters and see if your partner reacts in a home where dogs live full time first.

Very unfair to deliberately bring something into the home that is going to cause an allergic reaction to someone living there.
If your DD was allergic to dogs and your DP wanted to buy one what would you say then?
Your DD will survive not having a dog.

There is no such thing as a hypoallergenic dog. It's crap out out by dubious backyard breeders to make the pricesnfor crossbred puppies even higher.

How allergic is your DP? What do they think of your proposal? It is miserable having hayfever all the time - headaches, nose bleeds etc are something I live with despite daily antihistamine pills and nose sprays. Allergies are not always just a runny nose.

It's also not uncommon for allergies to get worse with exposure - that's exactly how we ended up with our dog. Her previous owner had a 2yo boy who developed huge hives from cuddling the dog, so she had to be rehomed.

How old is your daughter? Can she sign up to take dogs out every day at a local rescue or dog warden? If she doesn't want to walk dogs, exactly when would she walk one you got at home?

I am allergic to most dogs, cats, hamsters etc.
We have Bedlington terriers and I am fine with them.

It would break my heart not to be able to have a dog. In fact if I was single again and met someone who said they were allergic that would be the end of it (I'm not suggesting chucking your DP just saying how important it can be).

It's ok to want something for goodness sake (MN generally hates dogs so you'll get lots of shitty comments) but tbh you're not going to be able to have one if DP is allergic - it would he even worse for your DD to have one and have to rehome it again.

I'm taking it as someone said above this is long-term DP and not a boyfriend of 3 weeks cos then I would be chucking him

“Greyhounds do she’s quite a lot particularly during the summer though.”

Yep, but it’s quite often saliva and dander that people are allergic to rather than fur... and for some reason greyhounds seem to not trigger some people.

I mean they might still, but people seem to assume it’s shedding that’s the issue, when it’s usualky not, so figured I’d mention it.