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Having to take rescue back to shelter, heartbroken:(

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Kpea123 · 15/02/2019 21:32

Hi all,

Three weeks ago I adopted a Romanian rescue dog. While she immediately took to me, she really didn’t like my 4yo DD and growled and barked at her every time she moved initially. After about a week she seemed to settle in and everything was more or less okay (except for the fact that she couldn’t be walked as she goes mad at the sight of other dogs and visitors are a no go, but I didn’t mind that. I was going to work through that).

She is still young, only six months old. So beautifully loving to me, but this morning she completely flipped on my daughter. It came out of nowhere and was so so so scary that it’s made me realise that I can’t take the risk of anything happening. My DD did nothing to incite, she was nowhere near the pup.

I’ve contacted the rescue who are having her back on Sunday. I’ve been crying all day as I’ve become attached to the dog and I honestly love her to bits, but I feel she needs a quieter home with no kids. I’m devestated though, but really wanted an opinion on how the rescue centre has dealt with the whole thing.

The first thing I asked when I was going through the adoption process was is the dog okay with cats and kids. I was told yes. The dog was rescued from Romania, spent two days at the rescue and then I picked her up. I specifically asked the same woman if that would be okay or was that too soon? Did she need more time! No, it’s fine ‘as long as you’ve paid the adoption fee’.

As soon as I pick her up she’s being aggressive with my daughter but the lady dismissed it and said she would be fine. This is my first rodeo, I assumed it may just be nerves from the dog. When we get her home and the issues continue after a few days, I ask the lady what I can do to help. She suggests allowing my daughter to be in charge of feeding duties to create a positive association.

I then spoke to another lady from the charity, who said not to do that as my daughter is too young. She also said that the dog was so nervous when she arrived to them that they shouldn’t have let her go so soon, ‘but you’ve got her now so we’ll have to deal with it’. This lady suggested I give the dog three natural calming tablets a day for at least a month. Again, the First Lady I spoke to said one a day for two days. There’s no consistency here.

And then today happened. I’ve had to ask my father to look after my daughter for the weekend until we can take the pup back on Sunday. While looking at the faq’s section of their website earlier, I noticed that there is a section saying no dogs will be placed with children under the age of 5, unless they are under 6 months. Mara was two days off 6 months. Bit close for my liking considering not an eyelid was batted when I was home checked.

When I spoke to the First Lady on the phone today, she said that they just don’t know how dogs will be in different environments. I totally appreciate that, but considering I was told that she was fine with cats and kids, wouldn’t it have been better to be honest then?

I was by no means expecting a perfectly behaved dog, I knew there was going to be work to do. However, I can’t help but feel that the rescue have acted a little irresponsibly, plus what with the conflicting advice it just seems like a recipe for disaster.

Now, I’m in a situation where I’m devestated, can’t stop crying and am having to bring a dog who had already been through so much, back to a rescue. I feel really bloody terrible. I can’t help but feel like this could’ve been avoided, and it makes me question things.

Am I being precious over this? What do you guys think?

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Kpea123 · 16/02/2019 10:44

@youbethemummylion that’s correct, they just don’t know. I was told mixed. Definitely not Pomeranian though lol 😂

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Kpea123 · 16/02/2019 10:46

It’s not far from Bristol actually. They specialise purely in Romanian dogs. I was told by the lady when I called about these problems that the dogs brothers owners had called the day before with a very similar issue, and that the dogs probably shouldn’t be lone dogs but with others!

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Kpea123 · 16/02/2019 10:50

@happygolucky009 she’s a mixed breed. Can I ask what you think I’ve done in this situation that’s so wrong and do you really think that the rescue have done everything they could’ve to support the dog in its best possible interests? I appreciate that perhaps I should’ve known better but as I’ve said, I went on the advice and reassurance from the rescue, who I believed to be extremely experienced. Genuinely intrigued why you seem to be throwing down the hammer on how I’ve acted? I also sought advice from a vet before hand about the adoption process.

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cushioncovers · 16/02/2019 11:35

That's interesting op. If we are talking about the same place I also took a rescue dog from a shelter that was run by a lady and her helpers from her spacious home on the outskirts of Bristol who specialised in Romanian dogs. On reflection her heart is in the right place and she talked the talk but lacked the expertise to match the right family with the right dog. The reviews on her website are very positive and she seems to be growing in popularity but my experience with the shelter wasn't great.

Happygolucky009 · 16/02/2019 13:18

I am sorry if you feel I have thrown down the hammer.

I am disappointed that any vet would encourage you as a family with young children to adopt in such circumstances. The dog had an unknown history, possibly subjected to abuse and trauma, was only at the centre for a minimal period before being adopted into your home, thus subjected to significant change and immediately displayed, and has continued over the last month to display, disturbing behaviour to your child.

The outcome is just not surprising and I am sorry you feel that you have been criticised unfairly by me.

Booboostwo · 18/02/2019 12:07

I am sorry you have to return the dog, it’s heart breaking.

Since you asked, here are some things you could have done better:

  • many reputable rescues won’t rehome to homes with young children. Ask yourself why and consider whether the home you are offering is indeed the exception to this sensible rule.
  • street dogs are likely to be the most challenging dogs you will come across. They had to scavenge for food, avoid humans, fight other dogs and probably did not have a stable relationship with their mother as puppies.
  • when looking to rehome a dog, especially with young children, you should view the dog multiple times, see how it behaves in the foster home, see how it reacts to all your family, take it for a walk, etc. Never make a hasty decision.
  • if you want a dog and have young children you best bet is either a puppy from health screened parents with really good temperaments, reared in the best of conditions, or an adult dog with a known temperament assessed by a decent professional.
BrizzleMint · 18/02/2019 12:10

The rescue seem very irresponsible to me as well, they have put getting the dog off their hands above a proper assessment and have done you and the dog a great disservice. You're right to take him back.

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