AIBU for not wanting the dogs bed In living room or in the sofa

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As the title says. Currently having a disagreement with OH.
We have quite a small living room and he's wanting to bring the dogs medium sized bed from the kitchen into the living room!
Also he thinks it's ok for the dog to be on the sofa which I hate!

I'm not being cruel or nasty just don't want a dog bed in my living room or dog on the sofa. AIBU??

We have a "front room bed" for the dogs as well as the ones they sleep in in the kitchen. It matches the settee and colour scheme and they only use it when clean and dry so it doesn't smell. Would a compromise like this work for you?

We have a dog and I don't allow it on the sofas or beds. Ours has a bed in the kitchen and small cushion in living room

Yes I think you ABU because I don't think you should have a dog if you want to confine it to certain areas of the house. It isn't a proper part of the family.

I don't allow my dog on the sofa either. It's just such a pain to clean it if he's been lying on there and it was me who ended up being the one doing all the cleaning!

Our dog has a bed in the living room - it’s a nice wicker one rather than the more practical one. If you won’t let the dog on the sofa (which is fine!) then you need to give it somewhere to lie when it’s with you in that room?

You should allow a little dig bed in. Dogs are sociable animals; they want to be with you, so I think it’s a bit cruel to confine it to the kitchen when you are in the living room.
Do you like the dog, OP?

The dog does have a small cushion in the living room but oh is wanting a bigger one. Like I said my living room is quite small and my settees are really big. A bigger dog bed would make the living room look untidy.

I won't allow it on the settee, it isn't a small dog it's a bedlington terrier and even though it doesn't malt it does smell, I've only had my settees 6 months and I don't want them smelling of dog!

I don't dislike the dog, it's my oh dog not mine. If I had the choice I wouldn't have a dog in my house I'm not a dog person! So feel I shouldn't have to accommodate MY house for a dog that my oh wanted not me!

I'm not being cruel or not intentionally meaning too.
Also I am 5 months pregnant and don't want my living room to be a dogs room when the baby comes

Is it your OH’s house too, though OP?

Fine to stick to your guns on the sofa, and if you have a bed/cushion for it in the living room that’s OK, but you can’t really ban the dog from the room entirely! Our dog is shut out of the living room unless we’re in there but definitely couldn’t banish her to another room - dogs are really social and need company.

Are you both involved in training etc? You need to be so that you set appropriate boundaries when the baby is here.

My dog's bed is in the kitchen. However she wants to be around me wherever I am. So she's now progressed to the sofa when I'm in the sitting room. ( and bed when I'm in bed! ) For years I'd been really strict and made all dogs stay in the kitchen, not be allowed on furniture or even upstairs. But it's just her and me currently and life's so short. I think if your dog is an indoor dog which so many are in the UK, it would be kind to give him a lying space in the sitting room for when you're in there. I don't actually see how you could not, even if you choose him not to be on your sofa

You shouldn't have a dog if you don't treat is as part of the family.

@NoSquirrels yes it's my house oh has moved in with me.
I've not banned the dog from the living room, only when no ones home then the door and bedroom doors get closed. Apart from that it's not really banned from any rooms except bedrooms.

I'm the only one too who puts rules out and training for the dog. When it's begging for food or trying to get on the sofa I tell it no and close the doors whilst we're eating. Oh just let's the dog do as it pleases also feeds the dog his food whilst eating when it's begging. Which really annoys me.

@Jenb2104 like I said it's not my dog it's oh pet not mine. He obviously loves his dog which I respect that's why I've let them both move into my house.
I just think Oh should respect my rules and put some boundaries in place when begging for food etc. What's it going to be like when the baby's here!

Op I totally agree with you regarding the dog begging for food. That really annoys me about our dog. Whenever it hears a packet of crisps open he's comes running begging.
My partner is same will feed the dog from the kitchen table which I think is really bad and annoys me so much!

Also I don't think it's the dogs fault I thinks it's your oh fault.
He now lives in your house and should respect your wishes and train his dog

OH needs to train the dog, ours have never been rewarded for begging and surprise surprise they learnt pretty quick not to beg as they don't get results. He needs to be stricter. I think you also need to think about your view of the dog though, as it's his dog and he's living with you, that makes the dog part of your family. Totally agree with not having it on the settees but you do sound like you see it more like a burden than a family member.

@NarcolepticOuchMouse your probably right, I do see the dog as a burden. Like I said I'm not a dog/pet person. I don't mind animals at all, love to see them just not in my house.

The constant begging and scrounging for food and up on the settees and bed is driving me mad!
I also worry when the baby is here what it's going to me like

I think a bed in the living room or a blanket on the sofa for the dog. But then I have two dogs they have two dog beds in the living room and they go on the sofa and chair I just have them professionally cleaned regularly. I have two young children who leave more mess than dogs! I think your going to have to 100% accept the dog or be kind and find it a new home as dogs are a big commitment and if you don't give it 100% it's not fair on the dog.

Our dog has his own room downstairs
He generally follows me around and lies on the floor where I am ( not allowed on the sofa) and about 10 at night he takes himself off to bed in his own room where he has a bed and a rug.