Dominant Male Cat rehomed with excisting Female Cat

[MrsK]

Hi,

I need some advice we have a lovely female cat & we have adopted a stray male. He turned up at our house in the snow & has made his home here. I took him to the vets, he wasn’t chipped. In there opinion he was stray as he was still “intact “ despite being around 2. I have had him neutered. We tried to rehome him, but, he ran away. We finally located him via social media. Everyone here was very upset & overjoyed to find him. We have brought him home, however we aren’t sure how to get him &!our other cat to cohabit peacefully. I’ve bought Feliway Friends. Any other tips would be most welcome. We don’t want our female scared away this is her home after all. If I can’t get the male to calm down & settle, we’ll have to consider finding another home. We’d love to keep him though & give him a loving home with us

Hi,

I need some advice we have a lovely female cat & we have adopted a stray male. He turned up at our house in the snow & has made his home here. I took him to the vets, he wasn’t chipped. In there opinion he was stray as he was still “intact “ despite being around 2. I have had him neutered. We tried to rehome him, but, he ran away. We finally located him via social media. Everyone here was very upset & overjoyed to find him. We have brought him home, however we aren’t sure how to get him &!our other cat to cohabit peacefully. I’ve bought Feliway Friends. Any other tips would be most welcome. We don’t want our female scared away this is her home after all. If I can’t get the male to calm down & settle, we’ll have to consider finding another home. We’d love to keep him though & give him a loving home with us

Sorry, not sure how I managed to post twice!

Hey, sorry no one responded earlier :)

How does the dominant male manifest his dominance around the female? Does he grab her by the scruff of the neck even after being neutered? Does he fight her/chase her away from her spot to take it for himself? Is she weary of him/afraid to eat her food when he's around?

I'd say you need to look after the female, so she isn't stressed by the newcomer (if you want to keep him). Therefore you need to treat her as dominant cat, so he can readjust. Dominant cat eats first - feed her first, then feed him. Stroke her first when he is around. If he annoyd her, you can gently spray him with water from a house plant type of spray, that's what we do when a male playful puss gets on the tits of the oder female.

Give them plenty of blankets, cat tree is a good idea. Felliway Friends is great, we have that. You might need to relax some rules for the female one, like let her sit somewhere away from him (but I'm not talking scratching furniture). replace the scratching posts regularly, give them toys, play with them. It could work, but the first cat needs to feel safe.