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Is there any way I can persuade 'our' cat to go back home?

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originalpiratematerial · 05/05/2018 17:35

I am one of those terrible people much complained of (rightly) - we inadvertently 'stole' a cat from down the road, and now he spends almost all his time at our house. Every time I see his 'real' owner I ask her if he ever comes back to her house; she says she sees him sometimes.

The reason he started coming to our house a lot was because he was always closed out of his own house, and there's no catflap. He used to wait for my DH to come back from the school run and then appear! After about a year, he started appearing first thing in the morning in our garden and like idiots, we started putting some dry food outside in a bowl for him. At that stage we didn't know where he actually he lived. About two years ago, we figured out whose cat he was and his owner came round with a cat basket and took him home. I thought she would perhaps keep him indoors until he got used to being back there, but no, 48 hours later he was back on our doorstep. Then my mum died and I really took my eye off the ball. Squatter cat started coming in through a ground floor window (barred, but he could squeezze through the bars) and the rest is history. I do feel very guilty about it. Is there any way at all that we could actually rehome him back with his original owner? The issue in the first place seemed to be that he was left shut out for long periods, and also they had a large and scary looking dog. However, the dog seems to have gone now. Is there any way I could persuade the cat to go oback home? We love him, but he's not our cat!

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AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 06/05/2018 21:49

Who is feeding the cat?

originalpiratematerial · 07/05/2018 14:23

We are - we started ages ago because he was always around and always seemed hungry. I realise now this was a mistake.

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mimibunz · 07/05/2018 14:28

My experience is that cats choose their homes. If you love him and the other family aren’t taking care of him then why shouldn’t you have him?

Wolfiefan · 07/05/2018 14:33

So stop feeding a cat that doesn't belong to you and thinking of it as "our" cat. Bet you're not paying any vet bills.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 07/05/2018 14:37

Stop feeding him or if you want to keep him offer to buy him from the neighbours. But then you will be responsible for all the bad bits of cat ownership like vet bills etc. Why you expected him to go home if you were still feeding him is beyond me.

AlonsoTigerHeart · 07/05/2018 14:39

No more food
Don't let him in the house
Ignore him, no strokes or chattong

AlonsoTigerHeart · 07/05/2018 14:39

Chatting

Dobbythesockelf · 07/05/2018 14:43

Stop feeding him. Someone started feeding one of my cats because they thought they looked hungry. My cat thought it was brilliant, our house for breakfast other house for dinner and back to ours for tea. I followed her one day and asked the lady to stop feeding her. She did and we havnt had any other instances since. Cats tend to be greedy so if they can get food at your house why would they go anywhere else.

Socrates73 · 09/05/2018 06:51

Do you really want to though? You mention him being shut out more than once and I wonder if you feel you'd be better owners for him? If so, as pp said, approach the owner and offer to buy him. If not then stop feeding him, letting him in, making a fuss and he'll go where he goes. Cats won't be told where "home" is. If he wasn't happy in his other home he won't go back there, he'll probably look for somebody else to take him in.

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