Should I give one of the cats back to the Cat Rescue?

[MurmuringClothDoll]

We adopted 2 brothers 10 months ago...they were 6 years old then. According to the rexcue they were well adjusted and affectionate and suited to a home with children.

They ARE affctionate but they are not doing as well as they should. ONe of them has been domineering with the other since day one...he pees on the bed every other day and we have replaced the duvet three times.

I have had them both checked for UTIs. Apparently the cat is insecure.

He is always looking for attention...fine...I will happily stroke a cat...but when his brother seeks attention he then attacks him...this has made his brother very jumpy and last week after getting bitten on his shoulder he ran into the coffee table in a panic and knocked his fang out.

The dominant brother then goes and pees on the bed...as soon as ONE thing annoys or upsets him...such as I put him out for a while or his brother gets to sit on my DHs lap....or his dinner is late...he pees. ALways on our bed.

I tried feliway and provide the litter they alwayas had but no improvement.

I have done with it. Last nght I got into bed where my three year old was asleep and the cat had pissed on the bed whilst she slept in it. I changed the entire bed and then went to sleep.

I woke up this morning and my DH had left the door open and the cat had pissed on the bed again while we were all asleep.

I contacted the rescue 4 days ago and then before that too and they have not got back to me...I explained the problem and indicated the cats should probably be separated....no reply. What do I do???

I must add that Sparkling cat arrived at the CPL because she didn't get on with the other cat she lived with. She is the most beautiful, loving cat and seems very happy with us.

Yes...I am certain that he will be good in another home where he is the only pet and is put first..above all other household members and pandered to and worshipped all day long.
He has told me many times in his own way, that if I would only IGNORE his brother and also the children, then he would be just fine.

Sadly I have been unable to meet his very un reasonable demands.

Exactly Murmuring.

I'm sort of in the same position - we took on a supposedly 5 year old rescue cat 8 months ago (having told the rescue we were already getting a kitten). They advised us to take this cat as he would be "perfect" with the kitten - Ha!. Turns out he is actually around 10, stone deaf and very, very insecure. He is terrified of the kitten and wil hiss, growl and swipe at him (and us if we happen to be inbetween). I feel in many ways he would be better in a house where he is sole cat. But he is so anxious and take so long to gain trust I am not sure I can put him through it.
He also went through a stage of crapping on beds - even though they have separate litter trays, separate food dishes etc.
I contacted our rescue early on but it was pretty obvious they didn't want to take home back.

You have tried everything, you also have to think about yourself and your dd. This is very unhygenic, a lot of work for you and ultimately your house is going to smell. I would take the offender cat back and keep the other one, or alternatively take both back or take them to another cat rescue centre. I had a cat which kept weeing everywhere. It was unsustainable. Luckily enough I could rehome him to a farm where he thrived. He just loved being an outdoor cat, catching rats and mice all day. He was just not a house cat.

I have called the local CPL and left a message explaining...I also added that I am willing to keep him here if they advetise him as I know they are tight for money. they seems willing. Am waiting to get a call back.

I wish these boys would spend more time outside...they like a little stroll...or promenade around the houses...then they shoot back as soon as they see the local Tom cat head honcho.

He's a big black wooly looking thing and totally soft but my skinny fellas are terrified of him!

101 Uses for a dead cat :o

There's nothing wrong with asking them to re-home if it's not working out. You've tried but the cats stillvnot happy, the centre and you would want the cat to be happy.

As a child we had many animals, many of which were from rescue centres, there were a couple who never fitted in and were sent back. One who was too nervous for lots of children, dogs, cats and horses. Another when we moved to a house without the land. That cat wanted masses of space to hunt, it was never a cuddly house cat!

also cats can live for a very long time my cat is 18 can you imagine living 18 years with 2 fighting peeing cats ?

Well done for making the call murmuring.

I am a cat lover and have 3 of the buggers/darlings but I would draw the line at pissing on beds that could not be dealt with. You just can't live like that indefinitley and pissing on a bed while my daughter or myself was sleeping in it would realy be a step too far.

I would need to feel I had made every attemot to deal with the problem first but if all reasonable avenues have been explored and the problem persisted I would be looking at getting the pissy one rehomed.

Oh read on I hope he gets a new home soon maybe somewhere where he can be pampered all day and do as he pleases ,

I think he needs a little old lady who will lavish him with love and salmon. Then he might stop the peeing.

Or he might do it but not get in trouble for it any more. As long as he's happy I don't care.

I honestly don't think he will pee unless he feels threatened by other cats Murmuring. Just needs to be the only cat in the household.

I hope so...I would feel terrible if he was just a pleasure pisser. You know...sort of kinky.

I wouldn't have thought so. I think it will all work out, and you will have a harmonious house and 2 happy cats in the end.

One of our cats is a greedy guts & we shut him in the lounge when we are having tea, else he would pester us constantly, I just realised he always seems to wee or poo when we shut him in that for that reason . Definitely something behavioural going on.